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Posted on: Fri, 09/03/2004 - 9:39am
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We had to pull Conner out of kindergarten this week. In just 4 weeks of school, he had been teased about his allergy, had been given a piece of candy by the music teacher and he had a major allergic reaction to an unknown cause. My husband and I decided that we're not willing to wait around for a trip to the hospital or worse. One of the big factors in our decision is the fact that the school nurse goes home every day at Noon. She was not even there when he had his allergic reaction. We are all still in emotional craziness land right now as we all adjust to this new direction for our family. Thankfully, I have had nice contacts with some homeschool groups here and my sister-in-law is a homeschool guru.
We loved the school, his teacher and the staff, so I'm a bit sad. I guess I just haven't prepared him well enough to handle his allergy on his own.
Lisa

Posted on: Fri, 09/03/2004 - 9:51am
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I understand your pulling him out. If homeschooling was an option I would do it. I tried by my son needs special help. I am not qualified. His first week of school last year a kid in his class tried to put peanutbutter in his mouth. It is a scarry thing. I hope it goes well for you, have you picked a source for your school supplies?

Posted on: Fri, 09/03/2004 - 9:54am
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I'm so sorry to hear about your problem. I hope that ds has not been totally turned off of situations with other children / non parent adult supervision etc....
It does seen odd to me that a nurse would leave the building during lunch hours when many things - choking, stomach issues, recess injuries etc... would come up. During the after lunch playground time is probably when the nurse is needed most (FA aside).
We have been very lucky with dd's school (she is PA and TNA and now in 4th grade) but as you have probably seen on the boards there is a full range of situations.
It is great that you have home schooling options and resources as you see this as the right choice for your family now.
Edited to add that in Kindergarten he should not be expected to handle his allergy on his own! While we all try to get our kids to take responsilblity for their allergies, a child new to school, teachers, other kids etc...needs support that it does not sound like your school was giving.
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Posted on: Mon, 09/06/2004 - 1:10pm
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Hi Lisa,
I am sorry your post seems to have been buried! I just noticed it now.
((((Hugs))))) I can understand your sadness. How is homeschooling going? Are you enjoying it? It certainly can be a rewarding experience.
I am sorry that your school did not step up to the plate in regards to your ds's allergies. My son was given a chocolate from a bulk bin from the music teacher as well in Kindergarten. I freaked. But we did keep him in school... but there were meetings, discussions and some more educating of the staff. Things changed in grade one when they went peanut and nut free. The school has become more vigilant. It is much easier to send him. He is now in grade two and I believe that the staff take his PA and other allergies very seriously.
I hope the emotional roller coaster settles down for you. I remember how shaken up I was when I found out about that chocolate (thankfully no reaction that time).
All the best,

Posted on: Fri, 09/03/2004 - 12:17pm
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Quote:Originally posted by lisalinth:
[b] I guess I just haven't prepared him well enough to handle his allergy on his own.[/b]
He-llo! He's in [b]kindergarten[/b]. So he's 4? 5?
Of course he's not prepared to handle his allergy on his own. Heck, my son can't even tie his own shoes yet.
Lisa, this is [b]not[/b] your fault.
I am sorry that what looked good turned bad - but don't beat yourself up. You are teaching your son - and you are keeping him safe. He will learn over time.
Good luck to you. [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/smile.gif[/img]

Posted on: Fri, 09/03/2004 - 1:00pm
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I am so sorry you had this experience. [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/frown.gif[/img] I do agree that your son is too young to keep himself safe. That is why the school should have done it. [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/frown.gif[/img]
Homeschooling is a fine choice if that is what you want to do. But I find it very sad that you should basically be forced into this because the school wasn't doing their job.
If you decide to try school again, please research the rights that your son does have to a "free and appropriate education" in a safe environment.
Good luck, Miriam

Posted on: Sat, 09/04/2004 - 11:17pm
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Your child is to young to police himself! I have seen parents send their children to school without an Epi Pen. I have heard the school nurse try to explain to them the importance of sending in the Epi, only to have the parent say "He knows what to stay away from".
No he does not! You were right to take him out of that school. They may all be very nice, but they have shown gross negligence in this instance. If they truly wanted to do their best to protect your child, They would have.
Not all schools are bad, we have had a nurse from our allergist's office visit our schools and teach them what to do. Our child has never had a reaction at school and as long as we keep them educated, perhaps he never will.
Good luck.
Brian

Posted on: Fri, 09/10/2004 - 12:38am
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Have you gone to the school board? Complain to your school board director about the lack of medical help and to staff a school nurse there full time. Having a part time nurse in the school where children are still in school while the nurse goes home is defeating the purpose. Make your voice heard!

Posted on: Fri, 09/10/2004 - 4:09am
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Oh my gosh, what a nightmare! I am so sorry you all had to go through that. I think you did the right thing.
We have decided to homeschool too...I am bit overwhelmed at the thought but I am terrified to put DD in school.
Good luck,
shelley

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