\"Room Mother\" or Classroom \"Party Mom\"

Posted on: Sun, 08/12/2007 - 6:38am
ajas_folks's picture
Joined: 04/28/2000 - 09:00

Just curious if any folks here have been, or currently plan to be, the "Room Mother" (or "Room Parent") or co-ordinator for your child's classroom celebrations &/or parties?

Last year (first time for my kids to be in school, previously homeschooled) -- I intentionally did NOT sign up at all for older child's class celebrations & party assistance (2nd grade). I wanted to NOT be overly involved in a visible way. (This is the child with the known food allergies.)

I did sign up to help with *some* of younger child's parties (pre-K). (This is the child with no known food allergies.)

THIS year, I am seriously considering signing up for both kids' classes to be the BIG CHEESE party planner aka Room Mother. For the kids' safety. Not because I have any burning desire to do this. Actually, I would prefer NOT to do ANY of the party stuff. I am sure that, if I were to be the party mom, that my suggestions and plans will not meet the approval of some of the other moms as I am NOT into the ridiculous extravagance and gluttony I saw last year . . . think it was all too much, but that's just my personal up bringing and way of raising my own kids.

But I just have this sixth sense that keeps whispering to me "you need to be in charge of this for your kids' safety" this year.

FWIW, last year, our son's teacher just *happened* to have PA herself. I felt "safer" in every way last year as to our son.

SO, ROOM MOMMIES? (or not.) Anyone want to chime in?

Mother to 2:
DD age 5, NKA, treated as though PA/TNA
DS age 8, PA, possible TNA, Latex, legumes?
(PA diagnosed & ana reaction 1999)
Member here since 2000

[This message has been edited by ajas_folks (edited August 12, 2007).]

Posted on: Sun, 08/12/2007 - 8:11am
baer5's picture
Joined: 01/15/2006 - 09:00

I myself have always been room mother. My 8 year old no FA) is going in to the third grade and until last year I was his room mom. DS 5 pn/tn ana is going into Kindergarten this year. He was in P-K last year and being his room mom worked out wonderfully.
All of the parents were understanding about his FA's but it gave me the added assurance KWIM? Since I was "in charge" I gave out the assignments of what to bring for the parties. I guess you could say I was able to pick and choose who brought what...and I ALWAYS handled baked goods. Plus I had a "reason" to be at the party in case something was brought in that was not safe
It worked for me, made me feel more in control if you will. Now if I can only get through this year and the new set of anxieties with him entering the dreaded lunch room.....

Posted on: Sun, 08/12/2007 - 10:01am
chanda4's picture
Joined: 12/14/2006 - 09:00

we don't have room moms at our school. The teachers have a list at back to school night for upcoming *parties* that each parent can sign up for. I put my name on ALL the lists...I don't want to be *in charge* I just want to be *involved*! If I can have a *say* in what food is planned for each party, then I have some control in the food being safe. I don't want to run the show though, telling people what to do(I'm not a leader, LOL)!!!! But helping makes quite a difference(and I am finding also with the PTO)...as long as you are involved, things go pretty good!!!
Chanda(mother of 4)
Sidney-8 1/2(beef and chocolate, grasses, molds, weeds, guinea pig, hamster & asthma)
Jake-6 1/2(peanut, all tree nuts, seeds(all-sesame, sunflower, poppy, pine nut) beef, chicken, eggs, coconut(also avoiding legumes), trees, grasses, weeds, molds, cats, dogs, guinea pig & eczema & asthma)
Carson-4 (peanut, tree nuts, milk, soy, egg, beef and pork, cats, dog, guinea pig, hamster, grass, mold, dust mite and EE)
Savannah-1 1/2 (milk, beef and egg, dog(avoiding peanuts, tree nuts, strawberries, seeds, legumes and corn)

Posted on: Sun, 08/12/2007 - 10:24am
Lori Anne's picture
Joined: 07/13/2005 - 09:00

I was a co-room mother last year. This year I'll be a room mother again (although I don't know if I'll have help this year--that depends on what the teacher wants).
It does help you keep an eye on what is going on and keeps you very involved. It was nice to share the job last year though. It gave me someone to bounce ideas off of and someone to count on for help if my dd was sick and I couldn't be there for the party.

Posted on: Sun, 08/12/2007 - 12:40pm
anonymous's picture
Joined: 05/28/2009 - 16:42

Last year my son started kindergarten. I was terrified of him going with his food allergies and asthma. I volunteered as much as I could. I signed up at every party to bring something in. I came to the party to make sure that my son was safe and able to join in like the rest. I went on field trips. I volunteered in the class(I even got a Helping Hand Award!). When the teacher asked, I helped if I could.
My point is that I wanted to make sure my son was safe and had fun. His teacher welcomed me being there so I could watch out for him and help. I think that if you let them know you are willing to help out about the food allergies they want you to be there.
Yes help if you can. Not only will you be there to make sure your child is safe, but that he can join in like the rest. You can also make sure clean up is good and that everybody washed their hands too! It is a win win situation. Not only will you be there to insure your childs safety, but you will get to spend some of the best days of their life with them.
#1 son - peanuts, tree nuts, walnuts, eggs, every weed, grass, tree, mold, dust, cats, dogs, horses, and has asthma
#2 son - peanuts, shellfish, eggs, every grass, weed, tree, mold, dust, dogs, cats, horses, cows, and has severe asthma

Posted on: Sun, 08/12/2007 - 1:49pm
jami's picture
Joined: 09/02/2004 - 09:00

I have alwasy been "the" room mom for my kids classes. Thinking that I was trying to keep my kids safe. I really ran myself ragged--I don't have to be the big cheese. It drives me insane to come up with the cute little craft and game to fit the holiday. I realized this with relief when we had a snow day at Valentine's day and the whole week of Valentine's day this last year.
My solution this year is that I am just the offical food person. I realized that I can't be the head room mom every year for both of my kids.
Michelle mom to:
DS #1- 7 - peanut, tree nut, asthma,environmental allergies
DS-#2- 4- Milk, Peas, Peanuts, Tree nuts, Asthma, environmental allergies

Posted on: Sun, 08/12/2007 - 9:42pm
seanmn's picture
Joined: 10/01/2003 - 09:00

My mother was the one who helped out in my ds's classroom at least once a month. She also went on a field trip with him. It was nice to have a third party there. She would tell me how everything was going and if his teacher was following what we had put in place. I think it kept her on her toes. Not that I had my mother there for that reason only, but it was a bonus.
I will have two in school this year, so hopefully she will go into both classrooms. The kids really enjoy her there.

Posted on: Mon, 08/13/2007 - 11:08am
MimiM's picture
Joined: 10/10/2003 - 09:00

Every year I'm room mom but there are almost always others that are interested in sharing the role. Fortunately, for the past two years, I shared it with the mom of the only other child in my son's grade who has food allergies so it was ultra easy. We would usually do Oreos, Goldfish, Pretzels and the Starburst, Skittles combo thing. I hope that they will be in the same class again this year!

Posted on: Mon, 08/13/2007 - 11:23pm
saknjmom's picture
Joined: 04/02/2003 - 09:00

I was the class mom last year for 3rd grade. BUT, every other year, I baked the treat for the entire class for holiday celebrations.
I am going to try and be the class mom again.

Posted on: Tue, 08/14/2007 - 11:47pm
ajas_folks's picture
Joined: 04/28/2000 - 09:00

Well, I signed up for many parties & events for younger DD & was beaten to the job of "Room Mom" in older DS's class -- but the gal who signed up in his class to be Room Mom has been a [i] gem [/i] when it comes to handling the food allergies, so I am thrilled! (She has zero problems consulting with me regularly & is great to work with.)
I DID sign up to be chairman for the 3rd grade (DS) Christmas party -- so I shall return for lots of input & ideas as I get into the planning!
Best of both worlds in this. I am grinning!! [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/biggrin.gif[/img] [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/biggrin.gif[/img]
Thanks so much for all the input -- I went fully prepared to sign up to be Room Mom for both classes because of the encouragement here.

Posted on: Wed, 08/15/2007 - 7:20am
SpudBerry's picture
Joined: 07/23/2002 - 09:00

It was in our 504 last year! I was to be the room mom for PA son's class room.
Now that I have 2 PA sons in different class rooms - I'm hoping to be a co-room-mom in both. Other wise I'm going to have to be in two places at once.
Mom to 7 year old twins Ben & Mike
One PA since 13 months
One PA since 7 years
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