Preschool??

Posted on: Wed, 03/15/2006 - 12:41am
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Do you guys send your PA kids to preschool or blow it off for safety reasons? I just got a call from a preschool that we were on the waiting list for (there is now an opening) and I don't know what to do. The preschool is not "nut free", but they said thay could make her classroom nut free (parents take turns bringing in snacks, so they could send a note home, etc. about what not to bring). But then I got thinking: What about the kids who eat PB before they come? What about the morning class (the opening that came up is for the afternoon class)? Am I going to have to ask that the AM class be nut free, too? Where does it end and is it even worth it?? (By the way, she is only three so theoretically I could send her next year and she would still have a year of preschool before starting kindergarten). Thanks for any advice/thoughts!

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Posted on: Wed, 03/15/2006 - 12:59am
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My PA daughter is 3 and she goes to preschool. They are a "nut free" school though. Although that only means they read the labels on what they serve. They also do not allow parent to bring food in anymore, but of course, it doesnt stop the kids from eating it at home before school....I dont feel you can ever stop that and I just do my best to educate the staff. They are all very aware of her allergy, and they all keep an eye on her. They also have 2 epi pens there just in case, and a note from the ped with instructions (give epi, call 911, and then call parents).
I feel its a trust issue, and I trust the school she is at. Plus my daughter LOVES it there. She gets bummed on the weekends when there is no school...haha...it kind of makes me feel bad. [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/smile.gif[/img]
I would say you just have to talk to them and bring up those questions. Then see how comfortable you feel with their answers. Thats just my opinion though....
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Posted on: Wed, 03/15/2006 - 1:48am
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We never could find a preschool setting (or K either, for that matter) that we felt [i]could[/i] adequately address DD's needs, so we skipped it. Much to the scorn and derision of my MIL. But anyway.
Our decision was complicated by other things, though. DD is freaky sensitive to PN, just as allergic to egg, and has a history of lightning-fast anaphylaxis with cardiac involvement. This is not a kid who could afford a "we'll figure it out as we go" approach.
Without the reaction history we might have tried the local Montessori school, but DD needed differentiated instruction for other reasons too. So the only preschools we found that were safe enough weren't going to work for other reasons.
We opted to go for lots of local classes in the arts and sports and do the rest on our own. This worked for us.
How many kids of our own generation even [i]went[/i] to preschool, anyway?? Not many where I lived.

Posted on: Wed, 03/15/2006 - 3:14am
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I think you'll get lots of varying answers. Some people go to preschool, some don't.
I'll link a few threads that might be helpful in making your decision [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/smile.gif[/img] Meg
[url="http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/Forum1/HTML/005298.html"]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/Forum1/HTML/005298.html[/url]
[url="http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/Forum7/HTML/001844.html"]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/Forum7/HTML/001844.html[/url]
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Posted on: Wed, 03/15/2006 - 3:18am
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Quote:Originally posted by Corvallis Mom:
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How many kids of our own generation even [i]went[/i] to preschool, anyway?? Not many where I lived.[/b]
Thats true, I didnt go to preschool.....
I guess I was getting daycare and preschool confused. My daughter does go to preschool and it is "nut free" but she doesnt go because of preschool. She goes because I need daycare, and it is a daycare / preschool center.

Posted on: Wed, 03/15/2006 - 5:33am
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Thanks for the responses, everyone! It seems like everyone around me (with kids my dd's age) have been horrified that I have even been CONSIDERING not sending her--like she's gonna end up some kind of social/academic failure (which I KNOW isn't true, but it sorta gets to you after awhile and you start to question yourself). Heck, I didn't go to preschool either! Thanks for reminding me I have options!!
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Posted on: Wed, 03/15/2006 - 5:54am
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I just went through this tough decision and ended up deciding to keep her home for another year. My daughter does also have an egg allergy which is more worrisome in regard to preschool.
Others, including grandparents and other parents, have made comments such as "you can't hold her back because of allergies" and "lots of kids go to school with allergies" but you know what? She is only 3 years old and many kids do not go to school at age 3...it's almost a privilege to go at that age. In one year, she will have better self control and be able to communicate better which will ultimately improve her chances of preventing an accidental exposure. Right now, would she pick up a hidden M&M or piece of candy off the floor that fell under a bookshelf? Probably, they do look like Skittles and Kissables. Next year, she will hopefully be more mature and aware of her allergies.
I plan to take her to an educational play and music school where they teach ABC's writing and sound recognition...and I can stay and be an "assistant." It's not preschool, but it is the next best thing. And I plan to add another class to help her learn to interact with other kids and socialize.
I think at age three, you can do basic teaching at home, and as long as you socialize the kids, they will be well adjusted for the next year.
Make your decision based on your own feelings, not others. They don't have to live in your shoes and most don't understand how truly serious it is. Many kids DO go to preschool safely but there is a risk you have to be willing to take.

Posted on: Wed, 03/15/2006 - 5:55am
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Exactly... I mean, I don't think MIT, Stanford, Smith or even Vassar is really gonna care. KWIM? [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/wink.gif[/img]
(But I hear ya. My MIL did the same number on us.)

Posted on: Wed, 03/15/2006 - 6:27am
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I sent my PA son at 2 1/2. I checked out the school before hand and was very impressed with the way they handles his allergies. Every teacher in the school was taught how to use the EPI pen before he attended. His first teacher(camp) even had one herself. He had a reaction last week and they dealt with it calmly and correctly. You just have to make sure the school understands the severity of our kids problems.

Posted on: Wed, 03/15/2006 - 6:36am
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My DA & PA son attends preschool. This is his 2nd year with no problems. The school went nut-free a few months after we started there. We supply all of his snacks.
Our preschool has a policy of all the kids washing thier hands as soon as they get to school. You might want to ask if your school insists on that also.
I see no problem in keeping your little one home if the thought just freaks you out. I'm a little freaked about kindergarten next year, but there is NO WAY I'm homeschooling! LOL
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Posted on: Wed, 03/15/2006 - 7:51am
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I think that saying we didn't go to preschool so our kids don't need to isn't a good reason. Times have changed. We used to be able to keeps doors unlocked and let kids play out in the back yard with no worries of someone stealing them.
I think that if my dd who is 3 and in preschool was pa I might have thought differently but since it's my second child with pa I think I could not let him miss out on the wonderful experience dd is having at preschool. She love it and is so sad this week because it's spring break here. My dd's preschool is "nut free" and that is where ds will go so that does help with the decision. But just to let you know preschool now adays is a big part of socialization and if you can find a school that your comfortable with it would be good for your dd.

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