Post-Birthday Party Reaction - *Rant*

Posted on: Sat, 01/31/2004 - 7:38am
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OK, don't say I didn't warn you, I'm going to rant.

I am so freaking stupid. I mean stupid, Stupid, STUPID!!! Kevin went to a birthday party today. Everything was fine. One of the parents invited a bunch of the boys back to her house afterwards. Kevin has been there many times, and they are aware of his allergy. I said, OK, sure. I never thought to check what was in the goody bags. Well, guess what, they were filled with Snickers and Reeses bars. Kevin of course never went near his, he just put it aside to save for his brother. However, the four other boys there evidently ate them.

When I came to pick him up he met me at the door saying that he thought he was starting an asthma attack. His voice had that squeaky sound. When I questioned him and saw what was in the goody bag I put two and two together. I just gave him Benadryl and his inhaler and am ready with the epipen if need be.

I'm just smacking myself in the head - I've gotten a little complacent since it's been awhile since he's had an airborne or contact reaction. Why didn't I think to check those bags? Arrggh!

This is interesting, because this is the second time this year he has reacted with the asthma/squeaky voice rather than the hives and coughing that have accompanied other reactions. I wasn't even sure his last reaction (to a supposedly safe cookie) [b]was[/b] a reaction, but I am now.

That banging sound that can be heard all over North America is the sound of me smacking my head against the wall.

Amy

Posted on: Sat, 01/31/2004 - 8:06am
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(Can I preface this by saying that that wasn't much of a rant except against yourself?)
Going Nuts, it's okay. How is Kevin?
Did the parents of the child who had the birthday party know that Kevin is PA? Just wondering on why they packed the bloody things in the first place.
At any rate, I would not beat yourself up about it. I don't think you have become complacent (although really only you can know that [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/frown.gif[/img] ). Something just happened that you didn't expect.
Another question (of course, sorry [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/redface.gif[/img] ) - does Kevin's older brother eat the peanut stuff around Kevin? Has Kevin ever reacted to his brother eating anything?
I remember when Claire posted about Christopher reacting after Jennifer had eaten some peanut Hallowe'en candy.
How can one say that there is something to *like* in what you have just relayed? What I do think is important (rather than like) is that you've now realized that his previous reaction was also PA.
Not to say that his next reaction (touch wood there aren't any) is going to be the same as this one and the last one (asthma, squeaky voice), but at least it kinda clues both you and him in a bit, I think, doesn't it?
I am so sorry to hear this happened. Don't beat yourself up about it. Please keep us posted on how Kevin is. I hope you'll both be okay.
Big hugs. [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/smile.gif[/img]
Best wishes! [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/smile.gif[/img]
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Posted on: Sat, 01/31/2004 - 8:17am
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Going Nuts, sorry, just thought of another question. Did Kevin think that he was maybe having a PA reaction? Here's the reason I'm asking. When Jesse had his anaphylactic reaction to residue last year at school, he complained of a sore throat that may or may not have been separate. But then, the first time the school became aware that something was *wrong* was when Jesse went to the office and asked for his asthma puffers. His chest was constricted and he felt like he needed his puffers. He had just turned 7.
I know that Kevin is around the same age as Jess, if not the same age. Jesse did not know that he was having a PA reaction last year at all.
That kinda scared me. To top it off, the school didn't realize he was either, so even more scary.
Anyway, I hope you guys are okay. Sorry for the questioning.
Best wishes! [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/smile.gif[/img]
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Posted on: Sat, 01/31/2004 - 8:47am
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Kevin is doing just fine now, thanks. I however, am another story [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/wink.gif[/img].
I hope I remember to answer all your questions. No, I don't think the parents of this child knew that Kevin was PA, although when I started questioning the staff where the party was held they did not express surprise. Their son certainly does know.
Louie does not eat the peanut stuff near Kevin. He takes it out with him when he goes out and about, and brushes his teeth and washes up upon his return.
No, Kevin did not realize it was a PA reaction. Only in retrospect did he realize that one boy ate something out of his goody bag. I think they all ate it in the car; since the mother had a full car I drove Kevin separately and met them at the house. (OK, I admit that among my many other neuroses I hate having other people drive my kids any distances.)
What really disturbed me was that he waited for me to pick him up rather than call me right away. We had a talk about that. I hope if there is a next time he'll act more quickly.
Anyway, to put a positive spin on things, another lesson learned. When life hands you lemons...
Amy

Posted on: Sat, 01/31/2004 - 9:29am
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Going Nuts, I'm sorry that I had so many questions. You know me [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/rolleyes.gif[/img] I'm glad that Kevin is okay. I know, first hand, that sometimes it can be much harder on the parent(s). Last year, after Jesse had that reaction at school, I swear I had post traumatic stress syndrome of some sort for a few months afterward. I think, for me, that had to do with what I mentioned above, Jesse not recognizing that he was having a PA reaction and the school not recognizing it either. Only I recognized it for what it was.
I always click on Daily Topics and never go to the heading of the discussion board usually. But when I went to re-check your thread earlier, I did go to Reactions rather than Daily Topics and I noticed that it says somewhere in there about posting what you think your mistakes were, etc. and how important it is to share your experience with other people here.
You've been rattled and understandably so. You just have some stuff to sort out in your brain as to how you'll deal with the next birthday party, that's all. One positive thing (and I guess one positive thing about what you think are your phobias or whatever) is that you drove Kevin separate from the other children. It could have happened in the other woman's car rather than inside someone's home.
I absolutely HATE having to have any kind of talk with Jesse that is about reminding him of his responsibility when it comes to his allergy. That doesn't mean I don't do it. But I remember three years ago at least I posted about it here (of course [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/rolleyes.gif[/img] ) when he had maybe touched an unsafe chocolate bar and then lied about it. Of course, after that, there was a talk involved.
Even with an asthma attack, it's really important that Kevin (or any of our children) call us right away to let us know what's going on.
That's one thing I never take with me when I leave the house - asthma meds. I'm not clear why except that we've never needed them when we're out on an errand, but then I think about what happened last Friday night. It was so innocent. I had just meant to have McDonald's around the corner. We got home HOURS later. I know my DH has a Ventolin inhaler in his knapsack that he carries with him all the time for Jess so why don't I have a Ventolin inhaler in my purse? WHY?
I'm glad Kevin is okay and didn't require the Epi. Try to get some sleep tonight (easier said than done, I know).
Again, big hugs. [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/smile.gif[/img]
Best wishes! [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/smile.gif[/img]
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Posted on: Sat, 01/31/2004 - 9:30am
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BTW and just for some levity, I can always take you out behind the barn and shoot you! Will allow you some time to play with Moz, the Malamute to bring back your fond childhood memories before I off you! [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/wink.gif[/img]
Best wishes! [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/smile.gif[/img]
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[This message has been edited by Alternative to Mainstream (edited January 31, 2004).]

Posted on: Sat, 01/31/2004 - 10:37am
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Amy,
I think the squeaky voice you describe is swelling in his airways. That is scary stuff.
Don't beat yourself up. You did learn something and so did your son.
Peggy

Posted on: Sat, 01/31/2004 - 12:09pm
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Yes Peg, the squeakiness is swelling. We know he is very prone to it from all his stridor/croup experience [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/rolleyes.gif[/img] . It scared me, but he was very calm. In the past when he's been in real trouble he's looked terrible and been very combative. He's back to his normal self. I'm sure I'll be up all night listening to him.
Cindy, as for your offer to take me out behind the barn, don't ask me twice [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/wink.gif[/img] . Of course, I'd demand a nice long play session with Moz first. Your story about him bolting last week was another reminder of my aunt and uncle's malamute, who used to bolt with great regularity. They can be challenge, can't they?
BTW, I also didn't have his inhaler with me. I stopped carrying them around with me all the time awhile back; his asthma is generally so controlled and predictable that the only time I carry it is when he has a virus or during spring when his allergies are very bad. Another lesson for me - I really need to carry them always. Time for a larger purse!
Thanks for all the good wishes.
Amy
[This message has been edited by Going Nuts (edited January 31, 2004).]

Posted on: Sat, 01/31/2004 - 1:31pm
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Amy, Im glad Kevin is ok now. Hopefully by now you are ok too. Dont be too hard on yourself. Im sure everyone here has at one time or another forgotten an epi, or inhaler, or forgotten to check something, etc.
We are not perfect. We try as hard as we can, and do pretty damned good at taking care of our kids. There are going to be little slip ups. He is okay, and next time you will remember. I think our biggest problem is playing the "what if....." scenarios through our heads.
Take care of yourself, and I hope he is still doing ok.

Posted on: Sat, 01/31/2004 - 10:15pm
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Amy,
I'm glad that Kevin is doing well today.
Don't beat yourself up over this. Dh has forgotten Epi numerous times in the past. Fortunately, no reaction had ever occurred so it didn't become an issue.
Anyway, offering many hugs to you! [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/smile.gif[/img]

Posted on: Sun, 02/01/2004 - 12:02am
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Amy, sorry you and Kevin went through this. I can totally understand Kevin not realizing what was happening. I sometimes get that *squeaky voice* and at first I didn't associate with allergies.
{{{{hugs}}}}

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