Please help me with the idea of homeschooling


Hi, I would like to homeschool my 6 year old dd, I think it offers a lot of benefits, probably more for me because of the peace of mind, I know that sounds selfish, but the stress of school is killing me! As some of you know, I have had so many problems with my dd's school last year. She does have a 504 and it was broken a couple of times. The woman that is the coordinater for her is a real witch, and thats being nice about her. I asked for another person and there isn't anyone else. This lady has no compassion whatsoever and doesn't believe my dd's allergy is significant, anyway....I really want to homeschool, I don't know if I can deal with the stress of another school year like the last one. My dd doesn't want to be homeschooled, she likes her friends and will miss them so much. I don't have other small children, just 2 teenagers so she doesn't have any little ones to play with. The area I live in is very small and we don't have neighbors with kids, actually we only have 2 neighbors miles away. Can someone share the benefits of homeschooling and did your kids once go to school and do they miss it? It breaks my heart that my dd is not happy with this idea. Thanks so much for your support. Tamie

On Jul 18, 2003


There are a ton of people of this site that do homeschool. I'm sure you will receive many responses. A thread was recently started in Off Topic by AnnaMarie, I believe asking similar questions--not sure if you already saw it I just wanted to make sure that you knew.

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On Jul 18, 2003


are you up to the challenge of having the kids in your home on a regular basis ? You can invite the friends either after school, or on saturdays. Start a club of some sort, where they will learn to do crafts and see each other outside of school.

Or invite a few friends over to participate in a project. Get them to write a play and act it out, for example.

You may also try and see how open to homeschooling is the school ? Some schools (but not the majority) will let you homeschool, and still allow the child to participate in after school activities. You have the perfect case for that. You're removing a "troublesome" child from the school, making everyone's life easier (from their shelfish point of view), so maybe they will agree to have your kid attend after school stuff.

My kids have never been to school, and we get the socialisation elsewhere.

On Jul 18, 2003

Benefits to convince your daughter:

1. she can wake up whenever she wants. 2. she can do homework in her pyjamas. 3. there's no class when she's sick. 4. there's no homework to deal with after class, thus more free time to go and play with others. 5. she can do more arts (assuming she's the artsy type, substitute activities based on her interests) per day, than she does in a week at school.

On Jul 18, 2003


My heart just wants to say... [b][i]"Go for it, girl!"[/b][/i]

There is a thread in Off Topic about homeschooling going on... but, you're welcome to email me (listed in profile) anytime for a more detailed response.

I love it, personally. We do have a lot of socializing options outside of school due to where we live, but I LOVE darthcleo's idea of asking the school system whether or not they would be open to allowing your DD to participate in after school activities (and potentially, some daytime activities, such as band or cheerleading later on).

My son did kindergarten at a private school, 1st grade in public and 2nd/3rd homeschooled. My step-son just finished 3rd grade in public and is now starting 4th home schooled. HE loves it. He's more challanged (which he wanted) and is done in 3 hours ~ which he can do anytime during the day... take breaks, play nintendo, do some reading, take a test.. it's so nice.

I don't plan to ever send them back or send my DD to public school. I MIGHT send my son who is Asperger's and PA to a special autism school that is opening in the county, because they could definitely offer him more in terms of services which right now I am rethinking in terms of what he really NEEDS... but I don't know yet how I feel about that. I'd want to be very involved, if I did that, but academically, he's doing GREAT. It's the other autistic spectrum issues he isn't doing so well with lately. It might just be summer, or it might be that his step-brother is now being home schooled, too. Don't know yet.

I say.. give it a try. If you try it and like it, you'll stick with it. If you try it and you or your DD hate it, then there's ALWAYS still the school!


On Jul 18, 2003

If your dd is concerned about not being with her friends, you should see if there is a homeschooling group in your area. It is possible that she could take a few classes with other homeschooled kids (like PE), or get together with them during the day, etc. I homeschooled my dd for K and 1st. She will be going to public school 2nd this fall. I have no doubt that if we lived somewhere else, we would still be homeschooling. We live in a very small town, with no homeschool groups nearby. All of her friends are in public school, and so, she wants to go too. My dd is very social. I think finding groups and other homeschooling friends is the key.

On Jul 20, 2003

Hi, After some discussion with my dd, she said she would like to be homeschooled, of course, we still have a month to decide for sure. Anyway, I need to start getting things (books, supplies), and have no idea where to start. My dh said he heard that the Calvert one was good, but I don't know if it's several books or one. Do I get a book for each subject? I have searched homeschooling sites but haven't seen any kind of list, can anyone help me? Thanks Tamie

On Jul 20, 2003

Tamie ~ We use Calvert, and I've been really pleased. Some people call it "school in a box," as you receive everything you need, right down to pencils and paper! The supplies are included because Calvert is used quite a bit overseas (missionaries' and diplomats' families), and by people who sail year round with their kids - people who can't just run to their local BigMart and stock up!

Because Calvert has a private day school, some states will recognize your enrollment as enrollment in a private school, which can make some of the red tape issues easier, if your state is one that requires a lot of paperwork from homeschoolers.

They have a website, which I think they've been updating for the past day or two, where you can find out all about the curriculum, and print out sample lessons and so forth.

There are also at least two e-mail lists for Calvert users that you might be interested in -- a general one, and one for moms of "onlies" and moms homeschooling kids who are quite a bit younger than their siblings. If you plan on doing first grade, there are five or six of us on the latter list who will be starting that curriculum in August or September.

-Sue [img][/img]

On Jul 21, 2003

HI, Where do I order the whole kit from? Thanks!! Tamie

On Jul 21, 2003

Hi Tamie, There is also a homeschool topic running in the off-topic section. It may offer additional ideas. Andrea

On Jul 21, 2003

Hi, Tamie ~

I'm going to see if this link will work:



It did. [img][/img] There's obviously a lot more to the site, but this will give you a starting point. If you click on "community," at the bottom of the page, it'll take you to a bulletin board where you can ask specific questions.

[This message has been edited by M'smom (edited July 21, 2003).]

On Jul 22, 2003

If money is a factor, you can sometimes find the Calvert books on ebay (maybe even, but I haven't checked).

On Jul 22, 2003

Yes, the kit is pretty expensive! lol I did check ebay and didn't think of checking halfbay, thanks for the idea. I would prefer to buy the whole kit just so I get everything we need because otherwise, I'm not sure if I could get it all separate or not. Tamie

On Jul 22, 2003

Hi Tamie,

Even though I was dragged into homeschooling because of a situation like yours, both my daughter and I have come to love it. For me, the relief from the fear that hovered over me every day she was in school was worth it alone. I'm a new person now. I can sleep at night. My husband quit having migranes. I don't spend August with my stomach in knots.

She is very much the social butterfly and always loved school, and I was very reluctant to take her out. But after one trip to the ER in Kinder, and continued eye-rolling and mean-spirited treatment by the school, I decided it wasn't worth it to keep fighting to keep her in. It just wasn't safe and there was no sign they were going to try to make it so.

I kept her in her school Brownie troop (which has an anaphylactic, epipen-carrying leader!) and fortunately there is a large homeschool group around that we can do things with. She also does dance and drama, and those provide a social outlet, too. I'd say she's better socialized as a homeschooler than she was while in school, but this may vary according to one's location and number of homeschool groups.

As far as curriculum, I developed my own -- there wasn't anything I saw that I didn't think I could do a little better. :-) I do hear Calvert is very good. K12 (a distance learning virtual school) looks fabulous and is free in some states -- but if you have to pay for it -- yow! Worth looking into if you're one of the lucky ones. (s)


On Jul 23, 2003

There are lots of choices for you to choose from. I used Calvert School for 4th grade last year. I do consider it more like "public school in a box" just because they use a lot of the books public schools use. The big difference is you will actually complete the whole program as it is clearly laid out in their manuals (160 lessons). Our public school admitted to me that in 4th grade they only finish their math book as they spend most of their time teaching only what is on the achievement test.

I have h.s.ed for 5 yrs. due to my oldest dc's peanut allergies. She does go to a weekly P.E. class and Bible school class for socialization.

Here's a list of some h.s. curric. you might want to check into that sells complete programs..all are on the internet and have free catalogs:

Abeka (Protestant) Seton Homeschool (Catholic) Christian Liberty Press (Protestant) Alpha Omega (Protestant) Mother of Divine Grace School (Catholic) Sonlight Curric. (Protestant)(Is a literature based curric. You read a lot of wonderful Usborne books) - is a wonderful website with many boards of interest to h.s.ers..Just go to the homeschool board.

Calvert is one of the more expensive programs but I know a lot of h.s.ers who have their dc write in notebooks whenever possible so they can reuse the books.

My dc insist they want to continue Good luck on your decision.

P.S. Be sure to look up the state laws re. in your area on before you start. (homeschool legal defense assoc.)

On Jul 23, 2003

Thanks so much for all of your help. I finally got my packet in the mail for homeschooling here, it is very lenient and you are allowed to make your own curriculum, as long as certain criteria are met. I will check into some of the other homeschooling sites as well. I am interested in Calvert, mostly because I'm a little intimidated by the whole thing and I need the structure for myself, lol. Well, off to check the other sites, maybe I'll find something similar to Calvert but a lot cheaper! Tamie

On Jul 23, 2003

We use "A Beka". I tend to gravitate towards it since it was the staple my High School used.

On Jul 25, 2003

We use K12, but my son is charter-schooled at home. This just means the state pays for the curriculum, but back to K12. I like it because it is very structured, but if you buy it privately it is very expensive (unless you find it on ebay ).

On Jul 27, 2003

Hi Nancy or anyone else!, Can you tell me more about K12 and how does the state pay for that? Thanks Tamie

On Jul 27, 2003

K12 will pay for everything, but they decide what you teach. I'm using Sonlight, it uses real books to teach, instead of 'dry textbooks'. I have a huge stack of catalogs on my desk by almost all the big companies, because until 3 weeks ago I was still researching and deciding. Good luck. E-mail me if I can help you further.

Steph [email][/email]

On Jul 27, 2003

Tamie, I use K12 through a charter school, so it is paid for with my tax dollars. They call it a virtual charter school, but whether or not taxes pay for it depends on your state's laws.

An independent homeschooler can also purchase the K12 curriculum, which their website probably explains better than I can [url=""][/url] .

It is very cut and dry and probably would not appeal to the creative homeschooler-- so far that's not me.

My son did learn very much this (his kindergarten) year and was able to take both K and 1st grade math and learn to read. So far so good-- we like it.

On Jul 31, 2003

This is our first year of formal homeschooling for our five year old PA TN child. We rely heavily on the rec. dept. programs. Oakley plays soccer, basketball, t-ball and hockey. The rec. programs are his social outlet. We tend to find that usually the same parents and children are involved so they all are pretty much aware of Oakley

On Jul 31, 2003

I have most of the paperwork filled out and a friend is coming over tomorrow to help me with the curriculum part, she homeschooled her son when he was a first grader and is going to bring her copies of what the first grade here requires so that I don't have to contact the school first. Not like the school would have a problem with me homeschooling because many times they have mentioned it to me and were more than willing to get me out of their hair, lol! Well, thanks again guys, I'm nervous and excited about this opportunity to homeschool my daughter and hopefully will meet others in my area that homeschool as well. Tamie