PA the straw that broke the camel\'s back - I think I am completely overwhelmed...

Posted on: Wed, 06/20/2001 - 6:39am
anonymous's picture
Joined: 05/28/2009 - 16:42

First of all, and sadly enough, I wish that PA was all that I was dealing with. In February I had to become guardian/conservator for my grandparents. My grandfather had a stroke which left him needing to be in a nursing home, and after this occurred we realized my grandmother was too disabled by Alzheimer

Posted on: Wed, 06/20/2001 - 9:30am
Corvallis Mom's picture
Joined: 05/22/2001 - 09:00

I don't quite know what (if anything) I can say to make you feel any better... if its any consolation, you will someday look back on these years and wonder how you did it all. If I can help do any leg work for your proposed move to OR, let me know. (It would be great to have you in the neighborhood!!)
We went through absolute he** on earth the last year we lived in MN, so I know exactly what you are going through emotionally. I felt so dysfunctional some days that I finally "compartmentalized" all of the overwhelming stress in my life so that at least at work, there was just work stress (even if it was an 11 on a 1-10 scale- LOL). It felt like every day when I woke up, I had to cringe and think - what now? Knowing that nobody around me understood the magnitude of the sum total of things made it impossible to really cope. I simply ignored what was not actively "on fire" after a while. I definitely don't recommend that as a long-term coping strategy, since it was definitely turning me into someone I loathed.
I hope that some of this helps you. I will be thinking of you in the coming weeks. [img][/img]
Keep on keeping on. [img][/img]

Posted on: Wed, 06/20/2001 - 10:09am
CVB in CA's picture
Joined: 10/15/1999 - 09:00

I am so sorry to hear you have all this to deal with in addition to your PA child. I definitely think you have hit overload. This is so overwhelming no wonder you cannot focus at anytime! Give yourself permission for a really good cry. Maybe in a nice hot tub with bath oil and the bathroom door locked.
Put everything into the smallest possible chunks and keep after each one of your many to do lists. Don't rely on your memory for anything important, it's on overload also. Take shameless advantage of your friends, they will forgive you. A good friend can be better than any therapist.
If your company has an EAP, make a few minutes to go in and talk to someone. They might be able to offer some actual help with the government paperwork.
You have plenty of reasons to be depressed in this situation. Spend too much time that way and it's possible you might slip over edge into clinical depression. You don't want to go there, you have got too much to do right now. If you suspect you are heading there, talk to your doc.

Posted on: Wed, 06/20/2001 - 10:19pm
Gabrielle's picture
Joined: 05/23/2000 - 09:00

dear munchkin's mom. I am sorry you are so overwhelmed. I know the feeling. I know about the flashbacks you have of your son in E.R. and the terror that brings back. It helped me to stop thinking about the "what ifs" of previous reactions and just say THANK GOD he is OK now! everything worked out and he is fine. I know of the DREAD of public school you are talking about. My son starts first grade next year and I had been worried about it for the past 3 years. It is a waste of energy to worry about things that far into the future. Think of God telling you; "Don't worry about the future, I'M already there." Things have a way of working out and if you take things day by day you will feel less stressed out. Prepare for the things you have to, and don't think about the rest. Good luck to you!

Posted on: Thu, 06/21/2001 - 12:16am
brendaj's picture
Joined: 08/24/2000 - 09:00

I know that feeling of being completely overwhelmed and feeling that there is so much to take care of that you don't know where to start, or how to concentrate long enough to get anything done. It may be hard to do at first but ask for any help that you can get. I don't know the situation with your husband but perhaps you could ask him, even if it's just some things around the house. If you have people near you who you would help in a similar situation, then they probably would do the same for you. Maybe there is a reliable teenager you know who you could hire to do some chores also. I don't presume to know what it is like to go through your current problems, but even getting a few things off your plate with a little help from others may help you handle the rest.

Posted on: Thu, 06/21/2001 - 4:03am
jrizos's picture
Joined: 05/30/2000 - 09:00

dear munchkin's mom sorry to hear you are dealing with so much. You may want to see a counselor who can help you deal with some of the situations you are in. The fealings you are having is anxiety over your son. I have felt the same way and dealing with a recent family crisis was too much and I did go to someone and i found the therapist to be very helpful. She will give you and objective point of view.

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