PA Penpals?

Posted on: Thu, 10/26/2000 - 2:11pm
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I have given this some thought before even posting it, but I thought if we can have Americans posting on here that they want to receive Canadian Smarties and feel comfortable enough about giving some personal information out to another person and have food sent to them by a stranger, then perhaps this is okay.

I have been corresponding with several PA parents, all of whom I met from this site. At any rate, one of them had an e-mail sent from her 6 year old guy to my nearly 5 year old guy and they have now become computer buddies. They do know that they have one thing in common - they are both PA. This was important to my son because there are no other PA children in his school. But, that was simply the opening sentence in one e-mail. Now, they have only been corresponding for a couple of weeks, and obviously, at that age, it's the parents that are typing out the e-mails anyway. Well, yesterday, I received a package from Jesse's computer buddy's Mom which also included a picture of his computer buddy. You could not imagine the joy on my son's face! Well, he did not let go of that picture all last evening and even as he played at the computer tonight, that child's picture was beside him. It is very special to him.

I know that I have received pictures from other Moms of their PA children which are currently in Jesse's e-mail file to show him (if I can ever get him to stop this Nascar Revolution game!) and generally, when I'm corresponding with someone off-the-board, I tend to send a family photo so people can actually see who they're dealing with.

I'm sure a lot of you are already doing that and I'm sure a lot of you already have kids that have a computer friend like my son does.
And, if you live in a large city, where your child does know other PA children, then it's not something your child may even need. But before yesterday, my son had not seen anyone else with PA except Noah from NoNutsForMe.

For those of you corresponding off-the-site with other PA parents already, maybe you'd like to suggest that your kids could e-mail or even write back and forth, I know it depends on your child and if they're into that. You will not know the joy I received from having 20 penpals when I was a kid, all over the world. It was great!

But, I also thought I would start this thread in case some of you needed some help in co-ordinating ages of children and, if it is an issue, whether it's a boy or girl they write to. Do you know what I mean? Perhaps many of you do not e-mail off-the-board and don't want to but would like your child to have this experience. I know that I didn't think about the first e-mail between these two children, it was the other woman.

Anyway, please let me know what you think, and if anyone needs help and wants to say in their post, okay, I need a 5 year old girl to go with my 5 year old girl, I don't mind working out the details of it and matching people up. And, I actually thought that maybe this would happen with a lot of the people that were sending Smarties from Canada to The States, that their children would become friends of some sort, so it's almost an offshoot from that. Some may think I'm terribly silly, but if you had seen my son's face yesterday with his computer buddy's picture in his hand, it was priceless! Let me know what you think! Best wishes! [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/smile.gif[/img]

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Posted on: Thu, 10/26/2000 - 3:43pm
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Well you just spoiled my surprise! lol ;-) Matt is a little young for writing or even dictating messages/letters to friends yet, but I had been planning on taking a pic of him with all his PA safe treats and sending it along with a thank-you note to redtruck's daughter.
When I was a little girl, my girl scout troop put on a puppet show (with singing) for a retirement home. We made puppets while we were there and gave them to the adopted 'grandparents'. About a week after the show, each of us received a thank you note and a picture of our 'grandparents' and their puppets in funny situations. I think this was our favorite part. We felt good after giving the puppet show, but we REALLY felt good when we knew that the 'grandparents' really liked the show and the puppets and were having fun with them. =)
Some of us wrote back and ended up corresponding with some of the 'grandparents' for quite awhile. My 'grandma' and I only exchanged 3 or 4 letters before I forgot to reply again, though. =(

Posted on: Thu, 10/26/2000 - 4:38pm
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Matt's Mom, see I thought a lot of people would probably decide to do this with the exchange of Smarties or already doing it with other parents that they're e-mailing anyway.
But it was just a thought for those people who don't want Smarties, i.e., other Canadians and ones who don't tend to make e-mail friendships off-the-board. I am absolutely positive that Redtruck's daughter will be thrilled to receive a picture! And, by the way, only Cara and I are allowed to post this late! LOL! Best wishes! [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/smile.gif[/img]
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Posted on: Thu, 10/26/2000 - 4:46pm
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Well, I am hereby requesting permission to do likewise, then. lol I am known on all my egroups for staying up to all hours when I am on a 'research binge'. There have been several in the last two years. Some for myself, other times I research things for friends. This time, of course, it is PA. So, here I am. hehe
Chris who is going back to reading old threads now. =)
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Posted on: Thu, 10/26/2000 - 4:55pm
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No permission required whatsoever, but beware, you may be questioned about why you are up posting so late, or if you do a lot of posts so late, you may be questioned about the # of posts! LOL! I had to go into a very long-winded (when could I ever be short?) explanation of why I posted so much, and a lot of it had to do with being up in the middle of the night due to insomnia and pain. Sorry. But, at least I feel I can come here and maybe contribute something or maybe not, so why not? I love it when it's especially this kind of quiet, no noise in the house at all and it's better than lying in bed in pain knowing that tomorrow is probably a write-off now anyway. Best wishes! [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/smile.gif[/img]
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Posted on: Fri, 10/27/2000 - 1:40am
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My PA son is 6, will be 7 years old in January. While he does have another PA child in his class, I think he would love to have an e-pal. His older non-PA brother has had a mail pen-pal since he was about 4 yrs old (they started off by drawing pictures to send each other) and he's always been rather jealous of him.
By the way, we're in Toronto Canada, and I don't think it would really matter to him where his e-pal was from, but I think he'd really like it if it was a boy.
If anyone thinks their child would be interested in writing to him, please e-mail me and we can swap details.

Posted on: Fri, 10/27/2000 - 3:56am
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My daughter is 6 and although we have met a few PA children, I think she would love this. I would especially like to match her up with a girl, since all of the other PA children we have met are boys, and she asked me if there are any other girls with the same allergy. Great idea, Cindy!

Posted on: Fri, 10/27/2000 - 4:16am
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Torontosue, would you mind posting in this thread if you do get a penpal for your son?
Otherwise, I would put him on my co-ordinating list that I'll check each day, as I do with the Smarties (sorry to compare our wonderful children to Smarties!). Carolyn M., I may have someone in mind for your daughter. And, again, as is most usual, it was not "original thought" on my part. The other PA Mom I write to thought of doing this first and it worked wonderfully with Jesse so I thought I would share basically her idea. Best wishes! [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/smile.gif[/img]
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Posted on: Fri, 10/27/2000 - 4:23am
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CINDY
What a great idea, can you sign up my Theresa in about 3 years, I htink she can dictate by then, at least I hope she can [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/smile.gif[/img]
I think its wonderful, even though my child is too yound, I certainly hope when she is old enough to get on the computer without destroying the mouse, that she can chat with and relate to other kids with PA.
MAY YOU BE NOMINTAED FOR SAINT HOOD

Posted on: Fri, 10/27/2000 - 4:27am
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My son is 4 years old and does not know anyone who is PA. He has enjoyed writing to Morgansmom's daughter since she sent him some Smarties. He would love to have another e-pal to write to....though it takes him forever and I correct some of the spelling. When he gets an email I print it out and he reads it by himself! He loves this type of communication because he is a computer 'pro'. Thanks Cindy.

Posted on: Fri, 10/27/2000 - 6:32am
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Wow, NaomiR, you've just given me a REALLY GOOD IDEA! Jesse knows his alphabet, etc. so why isn't he typing the e-mails to his computer buddy? Hmm. That would be educational as well as him still communicating with his friend. He has one to answer right now!
For everyone else, I'll check later tonight and see if I can co-ordinate the ages/sexes of who needs matched up. I have two screaming beejeebees running around right now so my mind is not working! As far as sainthood, again, it was not original thought on my part, and some would also say in response to that that obviously I have nothing bloody better to do with my time! LOL! Best wishes! [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/smile.gif[/img]
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Posted on: Fri, 10/27/2000 - 3:33pm
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Okay, so as of Friday the 27th, we need three match-ups for:-
Boy, aged six, Torontosue (let us know if someone e-mails you off-line, please)
Girl, aged six, Carolyn M.
Boy, aged four, Naomi R.
Things "usually" slow down over the week-end, but hopefully we can get something going for all three of you by Monday!
Best wishes! [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/smile.gif[/img]
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Posted on: Sat, 10/28/2000 - 12:45am
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I have been contacted by e-mail, but my son says he wouldn't mind another pal, so you could leave him on the list and if you need to match him up with someone he'd like that too. He's very excited about this and can't wait to meet "new friends".

Posted on: Sat, 10/28/2000 - 1:00am
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Cool, Torontosue, thank-you for letting us know. So, we still need exactly what I posted last night (or was it in the wee hours of the morning)
Boy - Aged 6 (Torontosue)
Girl - Aged 6 (Carolyn M.)
Boy - Aged 4 (Naomi R.)
I'm hoping we get some response maybe on Monday to this thread so I can get some children matched up. I know that although my son loves his computer friend, he's terrible at actually pinning down to answer an e-mail and when I add the great idea of Naomi's for him to type his own, he might even be harder to get pinned down, or I'd match him up with someone else now too. Probably when I was 5 I didn't have the enthusiasm I did later, but I definitely know that by 10 I had a lot of penpals and I kept it up until I was 20 at least. Anyway, I ramble, as always..... Best wishes! [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/smile.gif[/img]
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Posted on: Sat, 10/28/2000 - 4:41am
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What a cool idea I had talked to my son about a message on the intro board and he would really love someone to write to!
He is 7 yrs old (PA) and loves dinosaurs and pokemon and would love to write any little boys around his age.
Also while we're on this subject what about the siblings of these children, my 8 yr old daughter would love a penpal and thinks that children who have a brother or a sister iwth this allergy would be fun to write to because after all they have to in a way deal with this allergy to! It affects their lives too.

Posted on: Sat, 10/28/2000 - 3:09pm
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Cindy-
My daughter is 6 and would like to be paired up with a six year old girl. How about Carolyn M.?
Linda

Posted on: Sun, 10/29/2000 - 1:06am
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First of all apologies for not checking in last night, I'm really migrained-out again. Rilira, your idea for your daughter to be paired with Carolyn M.'s daughter is perfect!
I'll contact you both by e-mail, if available, to let you know that you have been "officially paired". Now, as of Sunday morning, I still have the following to pair up:-
Boy - Aged 6 (Torontosue)
Boy - Aged 4 (NaomiR.)
Boy - Aged 7 (Yarnwoman)
Girl - Aged 8 (Yarnwoman)
This is proving a bit more difficult, I think because it's age and sex specific and not related to food! LOL! Best wishes! [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/smile.gif[/img]
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Posted on: Sun, 10/29/2000 - 1:12am
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Carolyn M., I have contacted Rilira because she has an e-mail posted, but your daughter has been officially paired with hers. Could you please contact her? Thanks! Best wishes! [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/smile.gif[/img]
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Posted on: Sun, 10/29/2000 - 11:20am
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Cindy, I have contacted rilira. Thanks!

Posted on: Sun, 10/29/2000 - 11:32am
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So, as of Sunday night, I still need:-
Boy - aged 6 (Torontosue)
Boy - aged 4 (NaomiR)
Boy - aged 7 (Yarnwoman)
Girl - aged 8 (Yarnwoman)
Hopefully, people usually get busy on the boards early in the week, after the week-end, so we can get everyone fixed up by then. Best wishes! [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/smile.gif[/img]
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Posted on: Tue, 10/31/2000 - 2:49pm
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I just want to really encourage someone to partcipate in this. My daughter is so excited to have a pen pal. After getting her first letter that was all she can talk about. The girls have so much in common. We know other kids with allergies but not someone the same age and same sex.
Linda

Posted on: Tue, 10/31/2000 - 3:05pm
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Rilira, thanks for bringing this one up again. I had meant to check back in on it after I got the allergist thing over and the Hallowe'en thing over. So, I still need the children listed in my last post. C'mon!
Actually, my son is funny (not humourous). He has his computer buddy's picture on the computer desk and he knows that he owes his buddy an e-mail, but do you think he will focus on that? But, perhaps, he's been like me, dealing with the allergist and Hallowe'en first and hopefully answering his buddy tomorrow. I got such joy from the penpals that I had as a child and I get much joy from the e-mail friends I have now and the card sending I do, etc. and I want him to experience that in a day when it is almost dying (except for e-mails and e-cards). I also would like him to be responding on what I consider a more timely basis. I know I could hardly wait to write my penpal back, but then again, I was old enough to be writing it myself. Linda, thank-you again.
Do you think your daughter could handle more than one penpal or would that diminish this initial (and hopefully continuing) excitement? Best wishes! [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/smile.gif[/img]
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Posted on: Wed, 11/01/2000 - 10:34am
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Cindy,
I just read this topic & I think my son Bobby who is 5 would love to participate by having a pen pal. This was a great idea, Bobby just started kindergarten & doesn't understand all the time why he can't eat all the other things the kids are with the exception of a little girl who has diabetes.
Can you please get back to me & let me know?
Thanks,
Ronna

Posted on: Wed, 11/01/2000 - 11:08am
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Cindy, I think this is a great idea. My son would like to participate, he's 8 and is a Pokemon & Digimon fan.
Could he possibly be matched up with Yarnwomen's 7 year old boy?
Please advise "how to & where to" connect? Will they correspond thru this website? Or by the individual's e-mail address?

Posted on: Wed, 11/01/2000 - 11:14am
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Caring Mom, I have a 6 year old boy that I could see if the parent would feel okay about her child writing to a child one year younger that I could try, or do you want me to add you to the list?
Lynn, I'll contact Yarnwoman and see if her son would feel okay about corresponding with a child one year age difference.
I'll let you both know. Thanks for bringing up the thread again because there's a few match-ups we need done. And, off-topic, I have a Canadian who wants to send Smarties to an American but no American wanting at this time! Any takers? Best wishes! [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/smile.gif[/img]
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Posted on: Wed, 11/01/2000 - 12:01pm
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I just want to reiterate what rilira said. Our daughters are corresponding. My daughter is so thrilled with this. She can't wait to check her e-mail. She is just so excited every time she reads about another similarity that they have. Thank you again Cindy for coordinating this.

Posted on: Wed, 11/01/2000 - 12:33pm
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Carolyn M., thank-you for the compliment, but it was really an off-shoot of the Smarties thing and although Smarties are delicious I somehow suspected that this may be a lot more rewarding.
Caring Mom, I have contacted Torontosue and am waiting for an answer from her about whether her 6 year old son would correspond with your 5 year old son.
Lynn, I have contacted Yarnwoman and am waiting for an answer from her about whether her 7 year old son would correspond with your 8 year old son.
Since I don't have responses from either of them yet, I'd like to post this as my concluding post for Wednesday, November 1st in this thread:-
[img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/smile.gif[/img] [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/smile.gif[/img] [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/smile.gif[/img] [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/smile.gif[/img] [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/smile.gif[/img]WANTED [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/smile.gif[/img] [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/smile.gif[/img] [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/smile.gif[/img] [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/smile.gif[/img] [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/smile.gif[/img]
Boy - aged 6 - Torontosue
Boy - aged 4 - NaomiR
Boy - aged 7 - Yarnwoman
Girl - aged 8 - Yarnwoman
Boy - aged 5 - Caring Mom
Boy - aged 8 - Lynn
I really hope this works out especially when we have proof positive in Rilira and Carolyn M's posts above! Best wishes! [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/smile.gif[/img]
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Posted on: Thu, 11/02/2000 - 3:22am
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Lynn, yes my son would love writing to anyone around his general age. Our email is [email]kingwcca@yahoo.com[/email]
Christyn

Posted on: Thu, 11/02/2000 - 3:57am
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Yarnwoman, thank-you for this post and also for replying to my e-mail off-the-board. So, your 8 year old son is now "officially paired" with Lynn's 7 year old son. I will now send you each an e-mail to confirm so you two can contact one another and get further details. Can I come in here later and figure out who I have left on the list to pair please? I'll check in tonight before I go to bed. Best wishes! [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/smile.gif[/img]
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Posted on: Thu, 11/02/2000 - 12:36pm
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Wow, Smarties are, sadly to say, easier to match up then kids are! Anyway, tonight, Thursday the 2nd, I am still in need of matches for the following children:-
[img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/smile.gif[/img] Boy - aged 6 - Torontosue
[img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/smile.gif[/img] Boy - aged 4 - NaomiR
[img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/smile.gif[/img] Girl - aged 8 - Yarnwoman
[img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/smile.gif[/img] Boy - aged 5 - Caring Mom
Hopefully, maybe tomorrow. Also, Caring Mom, I am still waiting for a response from the possible match for your son. Best wishes! [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/smile.gif[/img]
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Posted on: Fri, 11/03/2000 - 9:19am
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Yarnwomen, my apologies for not replying earlier, I've been a little busy at work and I have an Allergy conference to prepare for this Saturday, I'm feeling a little overwhelmed and stressed.
My son would love to correspond with your's.
I rec'd an e-mail from Cindy today, and replied to her asking how the kids are to correspond? whether through e-mail or this website, I guess the answer is in your reply when you provided your e-mail address if I had only read it before hand, sorry Cindy... [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/redface.gif[/img] as I mentioned I've been a little busy and STRESSED.
My son is attending a birthday party tonight, he's there right now, but when he returns I'll have him write to your son. Please provide your son's name or a user name if you prefer, just makes it a little more personal.
Look forward to your reply.
Regards, [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/smile.gif[/img]
Lynn

Posted on: Fri, 11/03/2000 - 11:51am
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Lynn, I'm glad you were able to work this out with Yarnwoman.
So, my list is still the same as it was the other day! I really wish I was getting more response here! Best wishes! [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/smile.gif[/img]
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Posted on: Sat, 11/04/2000 - 5:12am
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Cindy-
Not to step on your toes but i notice on the still wanted list tortosune and caring mom both have boys about the same age. Can they be paired up?
Linda

Posted on: Mon, 11/06/2000 - 7:45am
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I've decided I "should" be bringing this thread up on a daily basis so I can get the kids who want penpals hopefully matched up some day! Best wishes! [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/smile.gif[/img]
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Posted on: Tue, 11/07/2000 - 12:57pm
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Sorry, I said I'd be back in here every day 'til I got this sorted. I still have 4 children to match up. Please - it's not for me! Best wishes! [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/smile.gif[/img]
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Posted on: Wed, 11/08/2000 - 11:34am
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Wednesday night, I'm finding this one a bit difficult and actually rather depressing because I know what a wonderful experience it would be (hopefully) for the two children paired up. What I'm wondering though is, maybe a lot of us (not me) have children that are still too young to participate. Anyway, top of the thread again for the night and hopefully, we'll get 4 children matched up!
If not, I think I'll bring the thread up once a week rather than nightly. Best wishes! [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/smile.gif[/img]
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Posted on: Tue, 11/14/2000 - 2:00pm
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Okay, I got the Smarties thread all tidied up tonight with everyone matched up. Now, why can't I get some kids matched up for what I think will be a lot more rewarding experience than eating Smarties! Anyone out there?
Best wishes! [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/smile.gif[/img]
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Posted on: Wed, 11/15/2000 - 1:20pm
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Again I want to encourage everyone to get involved in this. It has been such a rewarding experience for my daughter. She is constantly telling people about her penpal! She is so excited to check her e-mail.
Cindy- could you recap who still needs matching up?

Posted on: Wed, 11/15/2000 - 11:35pm
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Rilira, yes, sorry, I was being lazy not doing a re-cap every time I pulled up the thread again, so here it is:-
Boy 6 (close to 7) - Torontosue
Boy 4 - NaomiR
Boy 5 - Caring Mom
Girl 8 - Yarnwoman.
Best wishes! [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/smile.gif[/img]
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Posted on: Fri, 11/24/2000 - 4:50pm
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Whoosh, gotta bring this one up again to-day, almost lost it to the 2nd page! Please, anyone? I understand that matching Smarties with Kids is great, but actually matching a PA Child with a PA Child, who knows what can develop - a lifelong friendship? I know I have discussed in this thread how I had penpals when I was a child and it was very rewarding to me. Well, I actually had penpals up until about the age of 35 and it was terribly rewarding. A lot better than simply seeing bills in your mail box. Now, I'm not clear how people are individually deciding to do this, if it's by e-mail or in the letter box, but either way, it is a terrific connection. Again, I must say that I am disappointed with my own son and his PA computer buddy because he cannot seem to focus on writing back. I tried having him type his own message and that was a disaster.
But even getting him to respond to the little guy is hard and I'm feeling really badly about that. But, this is just my son. I know that other people are having a really good experience with this. Please look at the list in the above post and consider if your child could be matched. Best wishes! [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/smile.gif[/img]
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Posted on: Sat, 11/25/2000 - 12:51am
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Hey Cindy! I just wanted to let you know that my son and I have been corresponding with Cayley's Mom through e-mail and regular mail.. I just recently sent her a picture for Cayley of my 3 YO and a family picture as well. And Cayley's Mom said she just loved the picture because she doesn't know any other PA kids. They have sent Nicholas 2 care packages of smarties, and I am still looking for hershey "sixlets" to send them. I got some at Halloween time, but now, they are very hard to find. They are safe chocolate candies that hershey makes, kind of like M&M's as well, but more ball shaped. Anyway(sorry, changed subject a little!) LOL I think it is great to talk through email and regular mail with other families. My son is 3, and although he uses the computer regularly, he obviously can't send mail, but it is a great idea to help him send his new pal a message, and I will do that! It does take trust in giving out your personal info, but I feel this site is trustworthy, and our new pals are great!

Posted on: Sat, 11/25/2000 - 1:02am
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Amy2, thanks for posting about how your experience with Smarties has turned into a penpal experience and a good one! I know that this happened with a lot of people sending Smarties, the penpal thing started going on with the Canadians and Americans and it makes perfect sense.
I just wish I was getting better response separate from the Smarties thread to matching the children up I have to match up because this doesn't have to be country specific, i.e., Canadians sending to Americans and getting hooked up that way. It could be someone from one province writing to another, or from one place in one province to another.
For example, my son's PA Penpal probably lives about 1-1/2 hours by drive away from us. So, in this one especially, it doesn't have to be a distance thing to get some enjoyment. Anyway.
I am glad that you posted about your experience with the Smarties exchange and how it has developed from there. I've heard this from a lot of other people too that have either sent or received Smarties. So, that thread was positive in more than one way.
So, still 4 children needing penpals! Best wishes! [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/smile.gif[/img]
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Posted on: Sun, 11/26/2000 - 10:56am
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My daughter might enjoy this. Dad goes away with the computer alot so she might not be able to contact her pal back right away. I think it would be great for her. Sorry this just adds to your list. Girl 10 1/2

Posted on: Sun, 11/26/2000 - 12:14pm
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Cindy, my daughter might enjoy writing to karent's daughter if her daughter doesn't mind writing to someone who is 8 1/2yrs old and doesn't have pa but does have a brother who is.

Posted on: Sun, 11/26/2000 - 1:01pm
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Yarnwoman, I have contacted Karen about your thoughts. She will get back to me re this.
However, I would like to say that if her daughter doesn't want to write to yours, please do not take it personally. Age really seems to matter when it comes to this and I believe we have to respect that. For example, I had a 5 year old that needed pairing and a 6 year old that needed pairing, but I was unable to pair them together, because the age difference was too much. The 6 year old was approaching 7. Age really factors into this highly. So, please do not take offense if your daughter doesn't get matched this way.
I'll see how that works out before I post the list of who needs matching again, and it's very important Yarnwoman, that you have mentioned that your daughter is non-PA so I can post that beside her information on the thread. I think her not being PA may also factor into another parent/child's decision, which is also not meant to be offensive. Funny how not being PA could be taken differently! But, also, I believe that a lot of this has to do with PA children communicating with other PA children because often times they don't know any other PA children in their lives at school and home.
Best wishes! [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/smile.gif[/img]
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Posted on: Mon, 11/27/2000 - 1:46am
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Cindy, I understand everything you said in your post but I feel you may have been the one seeing the bad in it. yes some people might have a problem with the age thing but why not focus on the good my 7 yr old was paired up with an 8 yr old and they are doing just fine. Sometimes it takes awhile for them to write back and forth but if we were using the real mail it would take awhile to get a letter.
Also I understand that my daughter might not know what it feels like to have a reaction to peanut butter but she does know what happens when one occurs. she has had to help many times with her brother. she also knows what it is like to have to leave somewhere because he can't eat there or he is having a reaction. She knows what it is like to have to have every label read before we can buy it. I think you are selling short the children with siblings who have this allergy. they to need support the same as we(the parents) do and often times they don't have anyone other then mom and dad to talk to about their fears. I just figured it was worth a shot to see if there were any siblings out there she could talk with. I hope that Karen's daughter might want to give it a chance but will understand if she doesn't and so will my daughter.
[This message has been edited by yarnwoman (edited November 27, 2000).]

Posted on: Mon, 11/27/2000 - 4:05am
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Yarnwoman, I am so sorry, I didn't mean to offend or hurt either you or your daughter.
That was not my intention at all. Perhaps I was not as clear in my wording as I could have been. I don't feel I'm selling short PA siblings, it's just that the intention of this thread was to match PA children with PA children because so often they don't know another PA child. But, I, in no way, meant any offence or disservice even to what the siblings of PA children have to also go through because of the PA.
Karen, if you come into this thread again, I tried to e-mail you off-the-board and your e-mail was returned to me. I need to speak with you re matching your daughter up with Yarnwoman's or perhaps the two of you want to do that in this thread, either way. But, if you want to e-mail me personally, I can be reached at [email]cscook@upath.com[/email]
If you could, please take a look at the discussion that has been going on between Yarnwoman and I and then decide for yourself and your daughter. And, in giving you my e-mail address, should your decision not work out the way Yarnwoman would like it to, then she won't be further hurt by you posting it on the board.
I may be completely wrong with this one, but I do know that I did have difficulty already once in this thread trying to pair children with less of an age difference and I completely understood where each parent was coming from. It is not my intention to hurt or offend anyone or to have this thread all of a sudden turn into another thread gone bad. It's simply that I have experienced difficulty matching children of different ages and we are talking 2 years difference here. Of course, I'm not clear if this makes a difference to Karen and her child because I'm not Karen and her child. I was just speaking from previous experience and also because I am trying to co-ordinate this. I would also be quite happy to not be co-ordinating this if people are going to start getting hurt and taking offensive when I sit back and so carefully word every bloody post on this board now.
Enough said. Karen, please either e-mail me at the above-noted e-mail address or post in this thread re Yarnwoman's suggestion. Best wishes! [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/smile.gif[/img]

Posted on: Wed, 11/29/2000 - 12:02pm
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I am sorry I have been out of touch. Just had a terrible reaction to codein cough medicine. My e-mail has been corrected. I think my daughter needs someone who is in Grade 5 (if possible) to talk to. The reason I say this, is because she is starting to deal with alot of pre-puberty things at school with her friends. She was not dealing with this sort of stuff 2 years ago. I am sure there is another 8 1/2 year old out their that would be happy to penpal with yarnwomans daughter. Thanks for the offer.
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Posted on: Wed, 11/29/2000 - 1:03pm
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KarenT., thank-you for your response. Your daughter is definitely on the list of children to "match up"! Now, Yarnwoman has made a very good point which should be separated from this thread. When I originally posted that I needed an 8-1/2 year old to match up with her daughter, I didn't know that her daughter wasn't PA but a PA sibling.
I think she made some really good points about how PA siblings do have to deal with PA as well as the PA parents and I really think that is another good, but separate, thread.
If anyone else would like to start it, please do, Penpals for Non-PA Siblings.
KarenT., again, thanks for your post. I definitely recognize, and believe Yarnwoman will to, where you're coming from. I believe I had mentioned earlier that I had difficulty pairing two children, one 5 and one 6 (but going on 7) because of the differences in age and I did think that 2 years difference was a lot, but it was definitely worth checking out. It's just that it's definitely not worth anyone getting their feelings hurt over. Best wishes! [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/smile.gif[/img]
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Posted on: Fri, 12/01/2000 - 2:03am
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Cindy,
Don't worry about Bobby getting matched up from this thread. As you probably noticed I have not been posting because, their is too many hostile people on this board.
I always thought this board was for us to learn from each other & it seems that certain people don't read things thoroughly & say(write) things to insult or hurt & I am not about that, nor will my child will be put in any situation to be hurt or insulted.
I will keep looking at some of the new threads but, I will never post another one. This post took me two weeks to reply because, I don't want to be pointing any fingers but, I am sure you & every one else knows who I am talking about.
Cindy, take care & keep up the good work. You have all the right intentions.
Ronna

Posted on: Fri, 12/01/2000 - 5:56am
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Caring Mom, I'd like you to keep Bobby on the list. The thing is, when I do actually pair two children, I e-mail each parent off-the-board to see if it is okay. So, if we get someone to pair Bobby with, you would know who the child's parent is that is posting here and could make your decision based very specifically on that factor. I do believe that it is okay for you to factor that into your decision. I would rather have you take that into consideration than have Bobby not have anyone to write to. Do you know what I mean?
I'm also very disappointed at how badly this thread is working out. I know now that we're into December, we definitely have an excuse for it, but it is proving to be quite difficult and I'm not clear why.
Please re-consider. You will be notified before you are "officially paired" in a post on the board, so you would be able to decide if you wanted your child to correspond with another parent's child. I hope you do re-consider for yours and Bobby's sake. Believe me, you would not know how many e-mail penpals I have from this site alone and we don't always discuss PA. It could be something totally different, or, with a couple of people in particular, it's developed into a real solid friendship. Very positive things can happen for both us and our children. Best wishes! [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/smile.gif[/img]
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