PA Etiquette Question

Posted on: Thu, 04/03/2003 - 11:46pm
anonymous's picture
Joined: 05/28/2009 - 16:42

You guys really are a God send....I'm so new and inexperienced in this area. I already have my first hurdle....Logan has been invited to a Birthday Party tommorow, first since his PA diagnosis....we graciously accepted...then last night in bed it hit me....Safety! So, how do I tactfully ask the other mom if there will be PB or peanuts around....she is not yet aware of Logans PA. you really get adjusted to all we have to know and remember...I just want to cry.
Thanks again,
Logan (21 months)

The birthday girl is turning one but there will be other children much older who potentially eat PB.

Posted on: Thu, 04/03/2003 - 11:53pm
mattchrismom's picture
Joined: 02/12/2003 - 09:00

HI, what I would do is just call the mother up and explain that you have recently found out that Logan is PA and ask her if there will be peanuts and stuff there. Also I would bring Logan his own cake and some safe treats just in case it always works for me and often the other kids want my DS treats. hope this helps

Posted on: Thu, 04/03/2003 - 11:57pm
samirosenjacken's picture
Joined: 09/30/2002 - 09:00

I haven't had any difficulty in this area.
If I were you, I would call the mom and explain about Logan's allergy. It''s been my experience many people are just so unaware of the seriousness of PA. Tell her just how severe it is. Ask her what she will be serving. If she is going to have pretzels, potato chips etc.. ask if she will keep the bags so you can read the ingredients. If it is a homeade cake, ask if she minds going over the ingredients with you. IF it is store bought, chances are he won't be able to eat it b/c they can never guarantee safety.
Once you find out how receptive she is to your questions and how safe the food will be, then the decision will have to be yours. IF she plans to have any food with peanuts/pb, I would politely decline the invitation as there would be NO WAY to secure Logan's safety.
My daughter was recently invited to a party for a boy in her class who spoke partial english. HIs parents spoke NONE. I had to tell my daughter there was no way she could go. If I couldn't communicate with the parents, there'd be no way to ensure her safety.
I've also sent her to 2 parties this year and she's done great. The moms were awesome. I read every label. They ordered pizzas from the place I buy from just so she would be safe. Parents will surprise you.
Good luck!

Posted on: Thu, 04/03/2003 - 11:57pm
4turtle's picture
Joined: 03/10/2003 - 09:00

hi, what i usually do is explain the situation when i call to accept the invitation. i ask what will be served for food. if the party is going to be at another location (a kids play place etc.) i call the place myself to ask about peanut contamination etc. i also bring a cupcake for my son from home. hope this helps and good luck!

Posted on: Fri, 04/04/2003 - 2:49am
AJSMAMA's picture
Joined: 06/12/2002 - 09:00

I generally make safe cupcakes and decorate them according to the theme of the child's party. Most of the time the other children want the cupcakes instead of the big pieces of cake anyway. I have never had a problem with any parents but you might want to inform them that you will be doing this. I also ask if there will be pb or nuts at the party or in the goodie bags. If there will be unsafe candy I bring some other safe prize for my child.
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