overwhelmed and sad

Posted on: Thu, 04/26/2007 - 12:41pm
lilanne's picture
Joined: 11/02/2006 - 09:00

Just wanted to come somewhere to talk to people who understand....I feel like peanut threats are everywhere, and I can't always keep up. I know I am just feeling sorry for myself right now.....ever have one of those days when there's a new peanut school concern or your child is disappointed by some really great looking baked good that you didn't know about after a baseball game. Sorry if I'm rambling.....just wanted to vent

Posted on: Thu, 04/26/2007 - 10:16pm
SydNoahsmom's picture
Joined: 03/01/2007 - 09:00

Sorry you are feeling this way- hope today is a better day. I've been there myself, and it's not fun. Sometimes it feels like the world is out to get you and your child.
Sending lots of HUGS your way!!
Mom to:
Sydney 4 1/2 Allergic to: Egg, Peanut, Tree Nuts, soy, environmental/seasonal and asthma
Noah 2 1/2 allergic to Penicillin

Posted on: Fri, 04/27/2007 - 2:10am
Corvallis Mom's picture
Joined: 05/22/2001 - 09:00

These days come... and they go...
and they come.... and go.
Like the tide. After a while you just have a mental preparedness for them, and they get easier to take.
But don't feel like there's something wrong with you if you NEVER get to a place where there aren't 'those days.' At least, if it happens, it takes longer than 7 years. [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/wink.gif[/img]
{hugs} You definitely came to the right place for [i]that[/i]. [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/smile.gif[/img]

Posted on: Fri, 04/27/2007 - 4:56am
PennMom's picture
Joined: 08/01/2006 - 09:00

We are about 8 months into the peanut/treenut allergy diagnosis. There are days that are almost exactly like it was before (if we are eating at home since we are now a nut free house), days that are "ok", and days when I really think it is affecting our/her lifestyle dramatically.
Some things do get easier about it- but then new situations come up and we have to learn how to deal with them. But we learn as we go. as you are not alone in how you feel! I try to focus on all the positive things DD can do when I have hard days.
[This message has been edited by PennMom (edited April 27, 2007).]

Posted on: Fri, 04/27/2007 - 5:20am
lilanne's picture
Joined: 11/02/2006 - 09:00

Thanks for all the support....I was just having a bad day. One of the things that had me so worried yesterday was that the school was having a "kids fun day". I knew that there was games and stuff, but didn't realize that the kids bring their own money to by snacks. It had me very nervous because I didn't have time to check everything out. In my mind I could just see peanuts everywhere and in everything. I am pleased to say that everything they had was safe. Nachos, popcorn, snocones. Even the candy was safe. The mothers working the snack station were very caring and were checking with me. They were so pleased that everything was fine and wished that they had thought about it when they ordered. They even want to include me in ordering for next year. I think that I'm going to be much more prepared for my son's First grade year. Kindergarent was a huge learning experience for a mom with a pa child.

Posted on: Fri, 04/27/2007 - 5:46am
Christabelle's picture
Joined: 10/03/2004 - 09:00

Honestly, I have been so overwhelmed lately trying to juggle life and the peanut allergy that I actually feel clinically depressed. So I know what you mean.
It is mentally painful to be so bored...and here is what I mean ... after I drop my nonPA child off at the school at noon, right after I get out of my part time job, I have just about 40 minutes until my PA daughter's lunch period (at the same school), and that is not enough time to go home or do anything. So I sit a lot and wait around. WITH MY INFANT, who is suffering from lack of babytime. And...then after lunch there is about 1 hour and 15 minutes until I have to be in the carline to pick both kids up (my PA child can't ride the bus and neither does my other one, it would be logistically insane.) So again I wait around alot with my infant. Then we have about 45 minutes until the afternoon lesson (sports or whatever). More waiting around. What I wouldn't give to condense the things so that I'm not always SITTING DOING NOTHING, trying to get lunch in my infant, and entertain her, and not go batsh** crazy at the same time. I am so sick of the inside of our vehicle, I could throw up!
It is horribly overcast and dreary here today, and I was sitting again waiting around, going crazy and feeling like a lunatic, trying hard not to just break down and cry. I know the minute I don't attend lunch something will happen and I won't be able to live with myself. It's NOT safe.
I work in the mornings part time, and work now is very slow, and at the same time it's gotten very strict - so during slow periods you can't even read the news on line or something. I AM GOING CRAZY AND NEED A BREAK FROM THE LACK OF MENTAL STIMULATION. I wish sometimes that I didn't have to live at the school. Hovering over situations where I normally wouldn't belong is - well - tedious and ridiculous. I wish I had someone on occassion to fill in. The pressure is to find a way at the same time to be cheerful and useful so I'm not asked to stop coming in, which is an even worse scenario. DH doesn't get home until 8 pm. My parents have made it abundantly clear that they raised theirs, they didn't sign up to raise anyone else's...so I feel very uncomfortable asking them to fill in more than rarely. I am an only child... so no Aunts or Uncles. My MIL is forgetful about the PA, so I am uncomfortable there.
OK, pity party over.

Posted on: Fri, 04/27/2007 - 6:05am
anonymous's picture
Joined: 05/28/2009 - 16:42

It is a bit of a roller coaster ride sometimes. The saying "What doesn't kill you makes you stronger" is so true. But some days it's hard to be the strong one. When I get down about DS PA I think about my neighbor who has twin autistic boys that will probably live with her and her husband the rest of their lives. Be strong, girl!

Posted on: Fri, 04/27/2007 - 8:28am
lilanne's picture
Joined: 11/02/2006 - 09:00

Christabelle....your life sounds very similar to mine (minus the infant)my ds pa is 6 and then I have dd that is 9 KNA. I guess that is what draws me to this site, knowing their are others that really understand and walk in our same shoes.

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