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Posted on: Wed, 11/05/2003 - 11:02am
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Hi Gizmo,
So sorry to hear what happened to you. I can totally understand how you were feeling, and can say that I would have been just as angry. I do agree with Peg, though, that diplomacy is the way to go. FIRM, but diplomatic - it seems to take you a lot farther.
I am also in Canada, in B.C., and have found that the school boards have come a long way over the last ten years in recognizing and accommodating peanut/nut allergies.
You said that your school was 'Peanut Aware'. That is not the same thing as 'Peanut Free', but in my opinion it is the safer of the two. 'Peanut Free' would be a guaranteed totally peanut free school, which I don't think is possible, given that schools have anywhere from 200 - 500 kids in them. It also tends to get the backs up of the students and parents. 'Peanut Aware' does more to educate the school community, and, I think, makes it a safer place, as the allergic child knows that they still have to be careful, without a false sense of security.
It sounds as though you have taught your child well to be responsible about the allergy. Keep up the good work. Apologise for losing your temper, but don't apologise for having those feelings.
I do think this is the longest post I have ever made - I hope I have made sense [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/smile.gif[/img]

Posted on: Wed, 11/05/2003 - 11:46pm
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Dear Kate,
Thank you for your words - I was excited to seek a canadian answer me!!!!! The US ladies are absolutely wonderful too.
We were "peanut safe" up until October 31 of this year. But now he wants to call it "peanut aware". I realize that there will never be a 100% safe school so this is the best that I can hope for.
And we do have parent/teacher interviews coming up and I will address my issue.
We are also heavily looking at that alternative school here - as they are so dilegent about their policy. It is just a matter of $$$$$ as it is private.
Next time I will let my husband do the talking as I am just not good at being diplomatic. I just speak whatever is on my mind.
Dorothy

Posted on: Thu, 11/06/2003 - 12:25am
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Dorothy,
I really sympathize with your situation as I too have "been there, done that" with different people/situations.
I have 4 children ages 9,8,7 and 5 who all go to a private school. We could not afford this after we had more than one in school so I went to the principal and asked if there was something that I could do around the school to work off my kids tuition. I started out teaching computer and yearbook and also cleaned bathrooms for a year and a half. I have been working at the school for a total of 4 years now and I love being there and having my kids in school there. It has been sooooo worth the sacrifices that we have had to make.
Just an idea... don't know if it would work for you, but it wouldn't hurt to find out.
Valerie

Posted on: Thu, 11/06/2003 - 1:14am
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Dear Valerie,
Wonderful idea!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Actually I went to this private school here and have filled out the application forms, and have an appointment again to take my husband back there.
While I was there I did hand in a resume cause I am a teacher aid, noon hour supervisor, and a school bus driver - so hopefully they can find somewhere for me.
If not I am looking at any type of job that will give me full time work.
You are probably wondering why I am not working at any of the above positions now??
We just moved to this town a year ago and it is very hard to get in - sometimes it is what you know and then sometimes it is who you know and then sometimes none of the above help.
Well I am doing the noon hour supervison,
School bus driving I gave up this year due to the fact I did not like the company I was working for teacher aid - I just finished my course last year and am on the sub list but there has been nothing at our school and I have been applying at all the other schools. So now I will go anywhere - be it Walmart or superstore - money is money right.
Thank you for your advice.

Posted on: Thu, 11/06/2003 - 1:43am
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Dear ladies
Can we contact each other on our emails?? I need to ask a ??? privately,
Do we give out our email addresses on this board????

Posted on: Thu, 11/06/2003 - 1:51am
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Quote:Originally posted by gizmo:
[b]We were "peanut safe" up until October 31 of this year. But now he wants to call it "peanut aware". I realize that there will never be a 100% safe school so this is the best that I can hope for.
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*Personally?* I've never been impressed with labels. Appealing labels are nothing more than lipservice without a plan to bring about appropriate behavior modification. I also believe that such plans should be defineable, enforceable, and achievable. Also feel that open hearts and minds (moral/ethical constraints?) are conducive to such change. Yea, to a point, even [i]necessary[/i].
I *personally* have never depended on lipservice to protect my child. It doesn't sound like you do either.
Again, can't help but get this "Deja Vu" when I read your posts. I hope all goes well.

Posted on: Thu, 11/06/2003 - 1:56am
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Quote:Originally posted by MommaBear:
[b] I also believe that such plans should be defineable, enforceable, and achievable. Also feel that open hearts and minds (moral/ethical constraints?) are conducive to such change. Yea, to a point, even [i]necessary[/i].
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Forgot to add "Monitorable". As I am really into Quality Assurance. Have to be in my line of work. (It's a chicken or the egg deal, really. [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/biggrin.gif[/img])
Part of why I am a huge advocate of having [b]appropriately trained and experienced[/b], full time RN's in schools.

Posted on: Fri, 11/07/2003 - 12:43pm
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Well, I came to this site after a very long time...(not because I had any problems with it)...I wanted to gripe and vent to someone who would totally understand! Alas, I came to this topic first!
My 6 yr. old daughter is in first grade. She is peanut allergic and has asthma and has had a written plan in place both in kindergarten and this year regarding her PA. Her classroom last year was supposed to be peanutfree but failed many times to live up to that! She was never to get snacks sent in by others-only snacks from her personal bin. Last year they failed in this area also! I kept hoping the teacher would get it together and listen! Many times I sent in written reminders of our agreement in writing that she is not to get any snacks other than from her own supply. I guess my reminders fell on deaf ears...Fortunately, she didn't have any problems last year as far as reactions. This year I requested a teacher my son had before and I really like!
Same written instructions (an IHP in place)
this year and supposed to be a peanutfree room and I provide her snacks in a separate container. How's it going??? THE SAME MISTAKES OVER AND OVER!!! Today, I found out that someone brought cupcakes in and that my daughter had one. WHAT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!??????????????????
When am I going to get through to these people...my first reaction was to go to the school principal and let loose on him! My husband encouraged me to think about things over the weekend and then he will first go and talk to the principal. I have a tendency to cry when I have strong feelings about something and I don't want to be labeled as an emotional freak. Hopefully, I can pull myself together and go in with my hubby to talk to these people! My daughter was just retested last week for her PA and was off the charts....AAGGGHHHH!
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