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Posted on: Fri, 01/07/2005 - 4:06pm
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Joined: 09/23/2002 - 09:00

Quote:Originally posted by AnnaMarie:
[b] [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/smile.gif[/img] Yes, over time you can relax.
btw, when my husband eats anything with peanuts, nuts, or sesame seeds - I sleep on the couch. [/b]
[i]Good strategy[/i]. [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/wink.gif[/img]

Posted on: Sat, 01/08/2005 - 2:09am
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Necessary strategy for me. I have had serious reactions from his sweat. [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/redface.gif[/img]
He no longer eats peanuts or sesame seeds when at home. Well, not intentionally. He did eat something with sesame seeds in it and didn't realize until after he had eaten it. (Why the heck would someone grind up sesame seeds to put in a bread product???? I thought they were for texture not taste.) Anyway, when he got home he told me, so we slept separate for a few nights.

Posted on: Sat, 01/08/2005 - 7:45am
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Joined: 12/27/2004 - 09:00

Had yet another talk with my husband. Don't mean to sound dumb, but does DH stand for dear husband or d___n husband, b/c right now mine is not dear!
He's out of town, I wasn't feeling good. I've had a lot of problems with my throat swelling for the last two months. Finally found out it's from mono. Anyway, I was still paranoid, so I began once again talking to him about the severity of allergy attacks. He actually said I should be able to get a shot to cure me. I asked him if he zoned out when he was at the Dr.'s office with me b/c he said the same thing to the Dr. He said he rembered the Dr. telling him that there was no shot to cure this and it was very serious. I told him once again that the epi-pen is crucial, and if it's a reaction that goes beyond hives, that benadryl won't fix it. I've only had two ana reactions, and he was with me both times. I don't get hives. It goes straight to my throat. I get an excrutiating itching burning in my throat and deep in my ears like someone lit a torch in my throat, my throat swells, I start coughing, and my chest gets extremely tight. Both ana reactions have been within a few seconds of eating. He has seen both of them and taken me to the ER. He is driving me crazy! I told him the next time he came home I really needed him to read up and absorb this into his brain, b/c I can't afford his naievity! I can't get him to understand that if I'm alone and don't get my epi-pen in time that I could pass out and die. He thinks benadryl will cure it all!
Sorry, didn't mean to vent.
BTW, I did show my son how to inject the epi-pen on me. I just hate it that he is 10 and I have to put this all on him b/c he is the only one here old enough to understand since my husband is always out of town.

Posted on: Sat, 01/08/2005 - 12:51pm
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Joined: 06/29/2001 - 09:00

My husband at times has given me a bad time about my food allergies.
One thing I have done is that every time I read about a death on here....I tell him about it and how it happened. I have noticed his resistence has lessened. We went to a wedding reception last month and he told me when they got the desserts with peanuts out...so we left and went shopping. He didn't even argue about it.
I, too, worry about having reaction when my family is gone...we live in the country...also worry about having reactions during snow storms.
Here are some good strategies for you to think about that I use...
First, have enough epi-pens to cover a trip to the hospital....an epi-pen lasts about 15-20 minutes.
Second, restrict your diet when you are alone to fresh vegetables, fruits and meats...no manufactured foods at all. (This is the way I eat 98% of the time, anyway.) Don't eat restaurant food at all.
Third, wash your hands a lot.
Fourth, wash all dishes in a dishwasher.
Fifth, don't allow any peanuts in the house. It has been a rule in house for years and it took some time but everyone complies with it now.

Posted on: Sun, 01/09/2005 - 1:52am
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Belinda - the d in dh stand for either, depends on the mood of the writer. [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/wink.gif[/img]
This is [b]the[/b] place to vent. Do it as much as you need to.
Mostly my husband *gets* it. I saw my anaphylactic reaction through his eyes. It was my first sign that this was really serious - the look of terror in his eyes.
But then, sometimes, he kind of [i]forgets[/i]. (That's not really the right word, but, I'm just not thinkinging really clearly and forgets is the best I can come up with.)
Since we were married many years before I developed my allergies - sometimes he thinks they'll just *go away*. He thinks, maybe I should just try a bit. (He suggests doing this in a hospital, not at home - but I still won't do it.)
For him, the [i]refresher[/i] usually comes at work - not at home. A guy that works for him had an ana. reaction to a bee sting (he's fine). A co-worker had an ana. reaction to cross-contamination with a walnut (he's fine). And an out-of-town employee lost his wife to an ana-reaction (ate a doughnut that never used to have nuts in it). The guy described the entire thing in detail to my dh - not realizing that he was talking to someone who's wife has had an ana. reaction.
cathlina, you are an adult with pa? Do you allow may-contains in your home? I'm just curious. I do allow them in my home, but I don't eat them.

Posted on: Thu, 01/13/2005 - 11:45am
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Joined: 04/02/2002 - 09:00

It would be sad if your dh and mother only got it if you died from a recation. I'm lucky, my dh is very vigilent (he saw 1st hand a reaction 1 month after we started dating, been together nearly 20 years) and dd (also pa) is learning to be more careful. Only last Sat at dh mother's house dd checked the label of some biscuits and they said "contain peanuts". I immediately took the pack off her, we washed our hands, no reactions. I am however worried because the open packet went into the biscuit tin - cross contamination could be a problem unless the tin is washed properly. I will be checking this when we visit again. I hope that your family get it asap as there could be a tragedy for which they would never forgive themselves for.

Posted on: Fri, 01/14/2005 - 6:45am
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Joined: 12/27/2004 - 09:00

I called about the cookie dough. There's not really much they can tell me since I threw away the package. They did tell me that it didn't seem possible for that to happen, but will try to look into it.
Last night I broke out in hives after eating some bread I made with a new bag of flour. My dh is still out of town. I called my sister who is about 20 min. away to come over. I called my dh and he stayed on the phone with me while I took benadryl and to see if I was ok. After about 15 min., the hives started going away and nothing else happened. My dh has 2 cell phones, so on the other one he kept calling my sister to see where she was, and called around to neighbors to get my son home b/c I was alone with my 4yr. old. I was shocked at how concerned he was. He kept telling me to call the dr. or go to the dr. I kept telling him I didn't need to b/c nothing else was happening. My sister walked in, and I got off the phone with him. I was ok, but had to call the dr. anyway b/c dh kept insisting on it. Dh kept calling back to check on me, and he has called several times today. I was really surprised, I think he may be coming around.
Now my mother may be another story. My sister told her she was coming to my house and why. My mom did not call one time to see if I was ok. I sent a book home with my sis and marked the very imp. things, but told her to tell mom to read it. I just hope she does.

Posted on: Tue, 01/18/2005 - 12:05am
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Joined: 07/21/2002 - 09:00

Hi Belinda,
First thanks again for responding to my intro thread. I just read yours for the first time and I am so sorry that you are going through this and feeling alone. It must be very scary when your husband travels and you begin to have a hive reaction. Luckily your kids are not babies - not that its any easier - but at least you can teach them to call for help if they need to.
Do you have a neighor close by that is aware of your situation? Someone the kids can call if they need help?
I'm glad your husband is starting to become more sensitive to all of it. I think some men have a different way of coping with things. Maybe his denial is beacause he's afraid to admit that he's scared.
Good luck to you. I hope it gets easier.
And btw -- the DH thing was too funny. Lately mine has been more of a D--N H also!

Posted on: Fri, 01/30/2004 - 11:21am
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Joined: 06/13/2003 - 09:00

Hello and welcome! Glad you found this site, there is so much good information here!
Trevor age 2 -PA
Harmony age 1 -KNA
Baby #3 due June 24, 2004

Posted on: Fri, 01/30/2004 - 11:25am
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Joined: 10/05/2002 - 09:00

Robynne'smom welcome,
Don't ever feel the need to say sorry for babbling,that is what this board is all about.Talking with other PA parents helps everyone.
We vent we cry we share we laugh and most of all we learn how to deal with this thing called the peanut allergy.And then we are able to teach our children how to cope and deal with it too.
There is a (world) of information here,and feel free to ask any question,big or small.
We are always here to help.
You dd reaction sounds just like Little V's
reaction.She is 4 1/2 years old now,she has a twin brother and a older sister.
At 18 months old I gave her a peanutbutter cracker,she got it to her mounth and immediately spit it out and started to cry.
After looking at the cracker(I think I am still not sure if she ingested it)ingested 1/4 the size of a dime's worth of the cracker.Needless to say here we are.
There are adults here on this site with PA,and parents that have childern that are in there teens and that are in college as well.
We have people that are from all over the world.
We also have angles watching over our children.(((Hugs to your dd.)))
My E-mail is in my profile if you ever need it.
Welcome aboard!!
Love this site


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