New here- have major problem at school

Author:
Publish date:

Hello I am new here. I figured this would be a great place for advice. My son is eight he came home from school with a swollen eye redness, his teacher didn't notice it. We went right to the emergency room. He was having an allergic reaction. He has had peanut allergy since he was two. We never had a topical allergic reaction before. I was livid to think his second grade teacher didn't send him to the nurse after he complained of it being itcy and swollen. As my story goes on I found out his teacher although his classroom has a sign posted peanut free class had been allowing children to eat snacks with peanuts in the classroom at snack time! I have been sick all day. Not sure what to do next? The teacher apologized, but didn't explain why she did this. On top of it they think I should feel reassured because they cleaned the classroom I should feel safe. My school has no safe spot in the luch room for kids with allergies. I don't know how to get it started to have a peanut free area? Or what i can do to protect him further? Any advise you could send my way I would appreciate it!

On Mar 2, 2006

Welcome, to pa.com You are in the right place. Do you have a 504 or IHP in place. That is unacceptable. uuugggg. You are very correct in feeling unsafe. I had a doctor excuse my son from school on days the cafeteria served pbj because the doctor stated it was a threat to his life. He now has a peanut free classroom and the cafeteria serves peanut free. The school went from telling me my son would sit in the hall for parties and eat in the principals office for lunch, to what i consider a model of how a school should treat allergies. (wow I think I have read that somewhere...people magazine, maybe [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/smile.gif[/img]) You need to get your ducks in a row. Can you get something from the er or doctor documenting this reaction? You need to think about what you want the school to do. Do you want a 504? ( you have a right to one) Do you want the school to be peanut free? Or just classrooms? Do you want a peanut free table in the lunch room. The first step in all of this is a well worded letter from your allergist and peditricain and possible the er as well. the more the merrier. This, to me is the real key. Its like doctors orders to them. It also warns them of the real danger and makes them liable, which they do not like. Do some hunting in this schools board, there are some really good letters out there. And a whole load of info that can be overwehlming. very I would look at allergysupport.com to see a sample 504 and an idea of what to do. you can email me and there are a lot of others dealing with similar things. Do not stand for this type of treatment.

On Mar 2, 2006

*totally shaking my head* --- Your child's teacher sounds just as bright as my sons teacher. All I can say, without becoming completely riled: [b]504!!!!!!!!![/b]

On Mar 3, 2006

Thank you for replying so quickly. I am not sending him to school today we are going to the doctor i will suggest to him to write a letter for me. His teacher couldn't even give me an answer why she allowed this, she said I didn't do it everyday! I am not sure what a 504 plan can do for Tommy I will have to do some research, are they hard to get? What can be the benefits? I would like to have a peanut free school table to start in the luch room I'm not sure how you go about it. I don't know how peanut free schools get started? They take it so lightly they think because they cleaned his classroom I should feel he's safe to go back.He's nervous so awful!

On Mar 3, 2006

Oh, so sorry this has happened!

Sounds like the teacher knew she shouldn't have but did. Sounds like she's lowering the safety bar because she hasn't seen anything...she's testing the water.

I have a 504, presentations and outlines and such that worked well with our school. If you're interested, e-mail me.

HTH, Andrea

On Mar 3, 2006

Anyone have a list of suggestions I could giv emy school to make it more safe? My prinicpal let me know the school can't be in a bubble! She didn't comfort me at all! I'm not sending him to school agian his eye is still swollen.I feel sick today thinking about this! Especially how little care was taken to protect him!

On Mar 3, 2006

Get and excuse from the doctor that your child was unable to attend school because of the reaction. If possible see if it can say reaction caused by school environment. Your principal, however insensitive, is right, nothing can be a bubble but what they are doing is potentially life threatening. Do you have a emergency plan or anything in place now? A 504 is a legal protection for disabilities. Allergies are considered hidden disabilities. You doctors letter must have certain wording to be effective. I suggest writing a sample letter and offering it to the doctor. You do not want the school to be able to use something the doctor inadvertently says against you. It needs to say something about the allergy limiting the "life activity of breathing" I will try to link some other threads with letters that you need to read before asking for a letter from the doctor. Not just a letter, but the wording of the letter is important. Key in fact. Get the doctors excuse today and give it to the school with a letter documenting the inncodent. Ask for a meeting with the teacher principal and nurse at the very least. This cant happen again. Do these people live under a rock or something. You do not have to have a 504 but I would guess few people regret getting one and more people regret not having it.

On Mar 3, 2006

sample of how to keep your child safe [url="http://www.allergysupport.org/index.php?contents=rhondadocs/Outline.htm"]http://www.allergysupport.org/index.php?contents=rhondadocs/Outline.htm[/url]

On Mar 3, 2006

our plan in brief form My son's classroom is peanut free. No peanut products used as manipulatives. No peanut products except in closed lunch boxes. No exceptions to this rule at all. If the teacher is unsure about the possible cross contamination of a food items shared/used in the class, a substitute food is provided, and its always better! My son eats his lunch with his class just like everyone else everyday. You should read some discussions concerning peanutfree tables vs. not. I am a not. In out school he would be set aside and pointed out. He would miss the opportunity to eat with his class an be just like everyone else, which is my goal, after his safety. He sits at one end of the long table and peanut packers always sit at the other. Only classes with peanut allergic students use this table during the day and they all follow the same procedure. He carries a medical bag to each classroom/recess but its still the teachers responsibility. Of course our plan is more detailed and we have things in place for emergency, field trips, hand washing ect. I did not go for a peanut free school and my school likes the peanut safe term. feel free to email me if you want. if i dont answer right away, i am thinking about it. good luck.

On Mar 3, 2006

Kerniann, I sent you an e-mail. Andrea

On Mar 3, 2006

Kerianne, one thing I'd suggest, especially to learn about 504's is to read this thread:

[b]Why NOT obtaining Section 504 for your child is a DISSERVICE to your child... [/b]

It should just be one or two down from yours right now, or above depending on if anyone raises it again (I saw that it was just raised). It has an enormous amount of info, plus many useful links.

On Mar 4, 2006

This is really unacceptable. Your son's teacher needs some education about allergies and needs to pay attention to children who have allergies and are complaining.

In efforts to keep my son safe, I have given him permission to defy any adult who does not listen to him about his allergies.

He is now 7 and is very aware and responsible about his allergies. I have told him that if he is ever uncomfortable at school regarding food or if he feels "funny" itchy, etc. to tell the teacher that he needs the nurse. If the teacher doesn't listen, he is allowed to leave his classroom and go to the nurse. He is allowed to do anything he needs to do to be heard.

I feel that we have to give our allergic children this power to help keep them safe.

On Mar 4, 2006

Kerniann, welcome! [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/smile.gif[/img]

I checked your profile to see that yes, you are in America.

The only advice I have to offer (I'm Canadian and things are different here) is what the other people have said - get a 504!

There are several people here who I know would be quite willing to help you start the process and help you along the way (to me, it always sounds like an arduous journey compared to what I go through here).

You definitely found the *right* place.

Hope you get things worked out and best wishes! [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/smile.gif[/img]

------------------ "That was Polanski. Nicholson got his nose cut."

On Mar 7, 2006

Thank you everyone for your support advise and education! I wanted to update you on our school. My son returned to school yesturday, they removed peanut butter from the school menu and they also now put arrows on the luchroom tables having half if you have a peanut luch and the other half is without peanutbutter. They also agreed to letting me go on the rest of the year field trips. I filled out the emergency plan form now they have with photo and what to do in an emergency placed by the teachers desk if ever she is absent. I can't thank you all for sending me emails and so much information. I feel worried still, but I am going to bring as much awarness to my school as possible. My son's teacher is an idiot! I have looked to see if I can find anyone to come in to train our teachers and give them some information.I am never going to assume his safety at school again! I am looking into the 504 which before I joined in here I new nothing about!I'm very grateful for all your help!

On Mar 7, 2006

I have a lot of links to recent food allergy articles on my webpage. The URL is:

[url="http://www.geocities.com/thatboysmom"]www.geocities.com/thatboysmom[/url]

There are some good articles you might want to print out for your son's teacher. I actually put together a whole binder for my son's school.

Good luck! Lori

On Mar 8, 2006

Your allergist may be willing to come to school and do an allergy training class for the staff. Also, your school nurse should be able to do this. Glad things are going better.

On Mar 8, 2006

This is our son

Related