New and letter from selfish parent

Posted on: Mon, 09/08/2008 - 5:25am
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Hi there - I am new to the forum. I will post my story elsewhere - but short form, my kid is severely allergic to peanuts/nuts. 45.6 out of 50 on allergy test. I had some days of hell, but managed to make my kids school a nut/peanut free zone. you cant even bring it in the school. Ya, I'm proud of myself. However, I'm irate - because of this letter that was just printed in our newspaper. I've written a response already, but havent sent it in. I am just wondering if any of you have also written letters and what you put in them? I dont want to miss making an important point. I am sooo mad today that I could combust.

[url="http://nl.newsbank.com/nl-search/we/Archives?p_action=doc&p_docid=122FF8..."]http://nl.newsbank.com/nl-search/we/Archives?p_action=doc&p_docid=122FF8...

Peanut ban hurts too many, benefits too few
BYKathryn Nedegaard
September 4, 2008

GRAND FORK SAIR FORCE BASE

Posted on: Mon, 09/08/2008 - 8:57am
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Hmmmm...Sounds like that mom's children's only form of nutrition is from peanut butter. Maybe she should feed them better. Why else would this anger someone. A peanut free school could save a life. Sounds like she's a selfish inconsiderate unhappy person. Makes me almost self combust reading it, too. Sorry you have to deal with someone like that. Hopefully she is just a loud minority.

Posted on: Mon, 09/08/2008 - 11:27am
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She says she has a food allergy. I wonder what kind or if she even has one. Maybe she is one of those people who thinks she is "allergic" to sugar when it only makes her hyper, or thinks she is "allergic" to milk, when she is really only lactose intolerant. The dots don`t connect. If I had time I`d write a reply; maybe tomorrow. Do you have any idea how we go about replying? I tried clicking on the link, but it gave me an error message.

Posted on: Tue, 09/09/2008 - 3:22pm
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I dont know where you are, but we just opened and ice cream store that is truly 100% peanut and nut free.
Alot of people have come and returned for ice cream cakes for their kids becuse we are safe and we prove it with all allergen reports.
The store is located in Brick, NJ and called Mr. Creamees's Ice Cream, located at 2060 route 88 east.
If you dont live nearby - please spread the word. Thanks

Posted on: Tue, 09/09/2008 - 3:25pm
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You're not alone - many kids have peanut allergies and must be careful,
I dont know where you are, but we just opened and ice cream store that is truly 100% peanut and nut free.
Alot of people have come and returned for ice cream cakes for their kids becuse we are safe and we prove it with all allergen reports.
The store is located in Brick, NJ and called Mr. Creamees's Ice Cream, located at 2060 route 88 east. 732 295-2963
If you dont live nearby - please spread the word. Thanks

Posted on: Wed, 09/10/2008 - 11:57am
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Thanks for the replies. After posting, I read through thousands of posts by many of you who are going through similar things. I found great ammunition there! I wrote one letter right away, but it was too reactionary and included some name calling! So, after sitting on it for a few days, this is my response (although still in draft form). I hope to submit this one tomorrow. My newspaper is the Grand Forks Herald ([url]http://www.granforksherald.com[/url]). If you take the opinion link on the left, you can submit your own letters over email. You may need to register to see the content - but its free and just requires an email. We are a small community. I can use all the support I can get!!
Here is my letter.
Peanut/Nut Allergy Bullying Should Not Be Accepted in Our Community
Sandra Short.
By opposing peanut/nut bans in schools, Kathryn Nedegaard is engaging in allergy bullying. This backlash against restrictions on peanuts/nuts in schools is a new form of harassment, which, of course, is a crime. As defined by law, harassment includes words, gestures, and behaviors that are intended to adversely affect the safety of another person. Opinions like that of Kathryn Nedegaard

Posted on: Thu, 09/11/2008 - 3:22am
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Sandra,
I think the letter will be better received if you use "another writer" or "a parent" or some such instead of the woman's name. You don't want this to be a direct attack on HER, but on her ideas, which are shared by many people.
Ethel

Posted on: Thu, 09/11/2008 - 3:23am
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FANTASTIC LETTER!!! It is very well written.

Posted on: Sun, 09/28/2008 - 12:10pm
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Dear Sandra,
I am the mother of a young diabetic, whom we have decided to control her disease with diet rather than give her insulin, she is 11 and we have been on her diet for 10 years. she was diagnosed at the age of 18 months. My child has been in our school district since her first day of school, i did not ask for any special treatment for her, I would provide everything she needed my self. We have a new student in our school who has a peanut allergy, which I can completely understand the plight of these parents, but the peanut free diet and my childs diet are not compatable. the high sugar and high carb products that we are only to send to the school will put my child in diabetic shock, We all have to learn to comprimise, yes I am willing to work out a peanut free program, with zones where there are no peanuts, or peanut products. But you have to face the truth, we cannot kill one child to save another, and that is what some of us are being asked to do! making our children understand that we as adults do not have to fight, but can work together in comprimise and in the writing of policies that are safe for all parties would be the better way to do things. Not only are we all working together to get what we need for our children, but we are teaching our children that communication is the key to thier survival in this world. Our school is having a school board meeting where we can all as adults come up with a satisfactory policy making everyones diet possible. Our children have a long road ahead yours with the nut tree allergies and mine with diabetis we as parents need to be thier heros and teach them how to survive in the future, if we teach them to fight they will fight, if we teach them to communicate, they will communicate, if we teach them compromise they will compromise.

Posted on: Tue, 09/30/2008 - 2:46pm
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Your response to the very well written letter by Sandra prompts me to address some of the statements you make in your post.
First, you state "I can completely understand the plight of these parents, but the peanut free diet and my childs diet are not compatable." However, after reading your post, it is obvious you do not understand.
Second, you state "the high sugar and high carb products that we are only [sic] to send to the school will put my child in diabetic shock[.]" The American Dietetic Association (ADA) recommends controlling diabetes with a diet low in saturated fats. For your information, peanuts are high in saturated fats. Also, the ADA recommends a diet high in fiber and fruit, with the main sources of protein from beans, grains and vegtables. The peanut/nut free choices for your diabetic child's diet are plentiful. In fact, if you are having issues thinking of healthy peanut/nut free choices for your child's lunch, I highly recommend that you visit the ADA website or perhaps, based upon you lack of education regarding nutrition, hiring a registered nutritionist.
Finally, you state "[w]e all have to learn to comprimise [sic], yes I am willing to work out a peanut free program, with zones where there are no peanuts, or peanut products. But you have to face the truth, we cannot kill one child to save another, and that is what some of us are being asked to do!" With a few minutes on the ADA website I was able to locate nutritional information which would meet your child's nutritional needs and not violate the rights of a peanut/nut allergic child. Therefore, compromising with an uneducated bigoted parent of a diabetic child is not necessary for the parents of a peanut/nut allergic child.

Posted on: Wed, 10/01/2008 - 11:35am
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