My 6 year old came home today very upset. He started crying and said that one boy callled him peanut boy and another girl told him he needed to sit on the P for peanut. I told him I was sorry and not to listen to them. This is not the first time this has happened. How do you handle it? Do you write a note to the teacher? Do you give your child something smart to say back to them? I need guidance. The last time this happened I said something to his teacher. I emailed her today after he told me. I told her that if it was true, that my son does not deserve to be called names just because he has a life threatening food allergy. My friend whom does not have a child with allergies told me I did not need to say anything (she also thinks I am crazy for fighting with the school to keep him safe, she says I have OCD). What to do????
On Nov 26, 2007
In my mind, I would tell you son to start calling them s for stupid and m for moron or i go to school and trip that kid in the hall, key the parents car in the car pool line and maybe fork their yard....but that is just not nice soooo instead.... You should call it bullying to the school. Our school takes that type of thing seriously. Tell the teacher and maybe the principal about the bullying and name calling. Sorry to hear that. My son gets called the peanut kid by grown ups too. I have had to explain the insensitivity of it to them too.
On Nov 27, 2007
I'm so sorry to hear about the name calling!
Our daughter went through this in first grade. I went to the teacher. She was horrified and nipped it in the bud immediately. She asked the kids if they would dare make fun of someone who was blind or paralyzed. Both kids said no. The teacher explained why their actions was wrong and what would happen if the situation was repeated. We were very fortunate to have had a teacher who had zero tolerance for such things. Our daughter has been fine since then.
I would definitely seek the help of your teacher. I wouldn't let it escalate.
I hope it turns out well. Keep us posted. Good luck!
On Nov 28, 2007
Hopefully the teacher will take care of it. It IS her job, after all! Otherwise I would use it as an opportunity to teach him a lesson about how name calling can really hurt someone. When my son was getting bullied about his allergy, I spoke with the teacher and we had a meeting with ALL of the parents about it. Most "got it", but a few didn't. (No big surprise that the ignorant ones had the name-calling kids.) Let's hope the teacher nips it in the bud. I would let her know that I expect the name-callers to be punished. Sorry your little one has to deal with that. It is so sad.
On Nov 28, 2007
I informed his teacher via email that night after he came home. She emailed me back the next day and told me that was bullying and there is zero torelance for that. She took the kids out in the hall and afterwards they came back in and apologized. One of them did not at first and the teacher took that child back out and when they came back in he apologized to my son then. I am not sure if they were punished but she did talk to them. I told my son that the next time anyone said anything to him about his allergies to tell them, "there is nothing funny about being allergic to peanuts, they could make me die." Maybe that would shut them up. I do like what one of you suggested about tripping the kid in the hall. That was too funny! That made me laugh and I needed that! Another one said that it is the ignorant ones that do that. You have got that right. IF some of these parents only knew what our kids go thru or us, they might change their attitude. Walk a day in my shoes and lets see if that pbj is still so d@#$ important to you! Thanks everyone!! That is why I like this website. Support from people who understand. A BIG HUG AND THANK YOU!!
On Nov 28, 2007
Originally Posted By: mom of L&C
Another one said that it is the ignorant ones that do that.
You can't fix stupid!