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Posted on: Sun, 01/12/2003 - 8:15pm
Claire's picture
Joined: 04/19/2000 - 09:00

Lisa I haven't yet seen what kind of reactions you have witnessed your child having? Also how did you find out your child was PA. Maybe you missed my first question so I am reasking you. I am not sure if you ever posted in the introduction about who and why you felt the need for the boards. I myself started coming here just to visit with other moms,because my son almost died a couple times and this site was a chance for me to find some understanding friends. take care Claire

Posted on: Mon, 01/13/2003 - 11:38am
CVRTBB's picture
Joined: 11/23/2001 - 09:00

Two Thumbs up here! ROFLOL!
(Who is trying REALLY hard not to be a fellow mudslinger [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/biggrin.gif[/img] )
[This message has been edited by CVRTBB (edited January 13, 2003).]

Posted on: Mon, 01/13/2003 - 1:49pm
anonymous's picture
Joined: 05/28/2009 - 16:42

As *I* have asserted in another thread, it's not the message, it's the delivery. "Willfully negligent"? etc, etc, etc, blah, yak, yak.... Fancy schmancy law terms - are you a law student, perchance? Just bursting to douse the unwary with your new-found black-white-don't-mess-me-up-with-shades-of-gray knowledge? You serve, Sugar, we dish. No duh about the fact that kids grow up and move on, despite what we've taught them, but kudos for the cohonies to ridicule normal parental worry on a site comprised of mostly newly diagnosed lurkers. *sarcasm*
"Honesty without compassion is brutality."
Think about how your message could have been delivered without receiving the awesome backlash. Hmmmm.... A few "just my opinion"s and a dash of "not that I know *everything*" could have been just the ticket. Instead, everyone felt low wasting time on shite while you were busy spending time with your [i]family[/i] [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/rolleyes.gif[/img] . D-E-L-I-V-E-R-Y. Practice it before you present your next case or the jury will vote against your client because of your personality. Yikes.
[This message has been edited by Cayley's Mom (edited January 13, 2003).]

Posted on: Mon, 01/13/2003 - 8:17pm
LisaMcDowell's picture
Joined: 12/06/2002 - 09:00

Hi Dawn,
I based my "assumptions" on the wealth of information provided by the person the posted the topic. This is a very strong woman. My interpretation is also that she is a very loving & protective parent. The question is to what degree? With all the resources available, how much protectiveness is necessary?...this is not a "comfort level" question because the ability to control one's environment was stated.
Hi Claire,
You're looking for credibility on my part, for what purpose? If you have a real interest, I will answer your question after you answer my questions through the use of my e-mail, does that sound fair?
Does a PA parent need to have an anaphylactic demonstration by their child to understand its potential? If yes, why? If not, why? When spreading PA awareness, do you think it is necessary to have a visual aide for people to understand/"get it". If not, why? If yes, why?
For others: Neglect has varying degrees such as not reading a label or kissing one's child after eating nuts or not teaching one's child to use their Epi-pen. Is it willful...yes, it was a choice. Could it have harmed someone else...yes. I believe most can be resolved through acknowledgement, & forgiving oneself.
Also for those of you that missed it: In my initial reply to college bound; my intention was to shock thus motivate only one person, and that person has already confirmed her understanding through her post. It is not for me to explain, it is for you to look for on your own.

Posted on: Mon, 01/13/2003 - 8:53pm
LisaMcDowell's picture
Joined: 12/06/2002 - 09:00

Another good source of reading is:
The Parent's Guide to Food Allergies by Marianne S. Barber. Good topics regarding this issue are:
"Living gracefully in the real world"
"Anxiety, Anger & Depression"

Posted on: Mon, 01/13/2003 - 10:06pm
California Mom's picture
Joined: 07/14/2000 - 09:00

I've heard of another good book called "How to Win Friends and Influence People". You may want to check it out! [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/smile.gif[/img] Miriam

Posted on: Mon, 01/13/2003 - 11:29pm
Rae's picture
Joined: 03/28/2000 - 09:00

Miriam, Love that suggestion!
Lisa, Unfortunately, I guess I'll give up on waiting for direct answers. Sorry you weren't able to help - it is ashame that many times avoidance = guilt.

Posted on: Tue, 01/14/2003 - 12:39am
Gail W's picture
Joined: 12/06/2001 - 09:00

Hi Lisa,
I asked this on another thread and am still curious: What kind of PA awareness presentations do you give? You had mentioned somewhere that you have given PA awareness talks, and I'm wondering who your audience is. Your dd's school? I've given two presentations at my dd's school and also volunteer at health fairs. Is this the type of awareness you're talking about?

Posted on: Tue, 01/14/2003 - 12:45am
LisaMcDowell's picture
Joined: 12/06/2002 - 09:00

You're probably right, I can't do everyone's thinking for them.
My response, as I said, was to the person that posted that topic; people who chose to take it personally need to ask them self why? Then ask themself why they chose to enter the topic. Did the person that posted appear to be defenseless like a child?...or an adult able to speak on their own?

Posted on: Tue, 01/14/2003 - 12:56am
LisaMcDowell's picture
Joined: 12/06/2002 - 09:00

Also, your statement, "I must also be practicing them" indicated to me that you really were not interested in understanding my point of view.


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