Movie outing with PA friend

Posted on: Thu, 04/03/2008 - 4:54pm
BohemianBrunette's picture
Joined: 02/13/2008 - 19:09

Hey all,

Since the movie Juno is playing at my school, and we both want to go, my PA friend and I will be going to the final showing next Thursday. Yes, I know it was probably stupid of me to invite her to do that, but bear in mind that she's my friend first, and PA second, so the LAST thing I'd want to do is treat her differently, or make it look as if I'm trying to decide what she can and can't, with that in mind, we're going to the movies. Of course, that doesn't negate the fact that there'll be some element of risk, because the on-campus theatre has a concession stand that sells various movie snackstuffs, including some kinds of peanut candy--Oh Henry bars, Reese's, Glossettes, that kind of stuff.

Now, fortunately, my friend isn't contact or aerosol reactive, but she says that smelling or touching peanut residue makes her sick to her stomach, which I wouldn't want to happen. Of course, I never eat peanuts around her, and next week won't be any exception, but I can't control the other people in the theatre. If people sit next to us with peanut snacks, I'll try to do the "physical barrier" thing again, but what if the theatre is full, and we can't switch seats, or if there are people on either side of us with peanuts, and I can only "block" one side, or if people simply refuse to move?

To make things just a bit more complicated, I actually can't sit in the middle of the theatre myself, because I suffer from panic attacks that can be triggered by confined spaces, among other I have to sit either in the front row, or on the end. Maybe it'd work if we brought a third person along, so we'd have a two-sided "buffer zone" if the need arose? Of course, I wouldn't phrase it that way, I'd just say something like, "Murgatroid really wanted to see Juno too, I hope that's okay." Fortunately, my friend is really sweet and easygoing, so she probably WOULD be okay with that.

Posted on: Fri, 04/04/2008 - 12:49am
lj's picture
Joined: 01/26/2006 - 09:00

Maybe you could just let her pick the area to sit in where she feels comfortable?
PA people can do everything that non-PA people can...going to the movies is included.
It's nice that you are such a concerned friend. Hopefully my son will grow up to have caring friends like you. Just tell her ahead of time that if she feels uncomfortable at any time to tell you and you can leave.

Posted on: Fri, 04/04/2008 - 12:20pm
BohemianBrunette's picture
Joined: 02/13/2008 - 19:09

Yeah, that's a given....we'll leave if my friend feels sick, I can always rent Juno later. The only thing is, though, much as I'd love to be able to sit ANYWHERE in the theatre with my friend, I really can't, because I'm extremely claustrophobic. If the theatre is crowded, and I'm sitting someplace where I can't easily get out, I'll risk having a panic attack. So, I was thinking that, ideally, we'd find someone else to go with us "just because," and then I'd be on the aisle, my PA friend would be in the next seat over, and our other friend would be on the other side of her, so we could create a barrier around her. I guess the best thing to do would be to try to get there a bit early, so we can find a place to sit that won't make either of us sick.

Posted on: Sat, 04/05/2008 - 11:41pm
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Joined: 04/20/2007 - 09:00

If she is an adult who is accustomed to such situations, then she can handle her own surroundings just fine, as can you with your own panic attack issues. I would speak briefly to her about it and stop worrying.
You're an exceptional and thoughtful friend.

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