M&M Peanut Found in Our PA Safe House!

Posted on: Thu, 05/10/2007 - 6:01am
BBCBMom's picture
Joined: 01/16/2007 - 09:00

I am furious and don

Posted on: Thu, 05/10/2007 - 6:31am
Sarahb's picture
Joined: 01/22/2007 - 09:00

WOW. At first I had no words...at all.
Then I thought you just have to let it go because you will never get an answer and it's most likely an accidental thing and not malicous.
However...now I think that you should email the parents and emplore them to think about any possible way that these could have been brough into your house by them. Possible in a diaper bag or purse, etc. by accident. Maybe tell them that you would be so relieved to know and not be angry at all...just that you need to know.
I don't know...I am so sorry though and would be flipping out as well.

Posted on: Thu, 05/10/2007 - 7:38am
BBCBMom's picture
Joined: 01/16/2007 - 09:00

Thanks Sara. My DH thinks I am over reacting but he just doesn't get it. Very frustrated with him at this time. I will try to write up a "nice" email to the parents and send it out. It was such a nice party I hate having the memory crushed with this stupid incident.

Posted on: Thu, 05/10/2007 - 8:49am
McCobbre's picture
Joined: 04/16/2005 - 09:00

I'm really floored by this. And I don't know what to say.
I would really like to think it was an accident and that one of the kids had them in a pocket unbeknownst to the parent and put them in the bowl.
It's just really, really strange though. I don't expect people to bring food over--even when neighborhood kids come over to play--it's not part of what I would expect to happen or imagine would happen. I imagine them carrying pb on their hands, so we have them wash hands, and I just can't worry about clothing (however, I fear other peoples' clothing when it comes to cats). But wow--a peanut M&M.
How are you going to clean the bowl?

Posted on: Thu, 05/10/2007 - 9:16am
chanda4's picture
Joined: 12/14/2006 - 09:00

That would freak me out a bit. To find the very food....I don't need to say more. I bet it was by accident though. Like th eposter above, a kid probably found them in their pocket and though *omg, so-and-so is allergic I gotta get rid of these fast*....saw the bowl and thought all was good. Trash can would have been a better choice, but if they are young, they were probably more nervous of getting in trouble sot he *hid* the m&m's. I am glad you found them, glad the one eaten didn't cause a bad reaction. If this were me, I think I would let it slide though. Unless these are good friends and maybe you could ask in passing, an email sounds not-the-best-option(just IMO of course). If they weren't good friends, I would let it go...that's just me. Good luck in your decision...I hope that NEVER happens again. HUGS
Chanda(mother of 4)
Sidney-8 (beef and chocolate, grasses, molds, weeds, guinea pig & asthma)
Jake-6 (peanut, all tree nuts, eggs, trees, grasses, weeds, molds, cats, dogs, guinea pig & eczema & asthma)
Carson-3 1/2 (milk, soy, egg, beef and pork, cats, dog, guinea pig and EE)
Savannah-1 (milk and egg)

Posted on: Thu, 05/10/2007 - 9:33am
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Joined: 05/28/2009 - 16:42

Do you have a cleaning person who may have left it there?
I wouldn't send out a message -- if someone did do this out of spite, they already want some weird form of attention, do not give it to them!
mom to Ari(7) - severe nut allergies, asthma, you name it - and Maya (9), mild excema

Posted on: Thu, 05/10/2007 - 12:43pm
saknjmom's picture
Joined: 04/02/2003 - 09:00

Did any of the kids have other siblings who came along?
Did the parents stay?
this is bizarre....I probably wouldn't email them...I would probably call with another pretense...I found a grey hooded sweatshirt after the party, is it yours? Maybe they'll say, xx had fun at the party...and you can say I'm so glad. The strangest thing happened....we found two peanut m&ms in a bowl. etc.
That way it is not pointing fingers and maybe someone will say OMG, Jimmy actually had some before he came and I didn't realize he was still eating them when we got to your house.
Interesting too that your child didn't react. Will you have him re tested at some point. If I actually saw my PA kid eat a peanut m&m, I'd be beside myself. I am glad he's okay. Very bizarre.....

Posted on: Thu, 05/10/2007 - 1:06pm
Greenlady's picture
Joined: 06/30/2004 - 09:00

So sorry this happened! I would definitely freak out myself.
I think that I agree that an email might not be the best option. Is there one of the parents who you feel closer to, who you think "gets it"? I'd arrange to have coffee and tell them what happened and ask their advice on how to figure out what happened. You can say that you don't to point fingers, but you also don't want it to happen again.
Hopefully, that person can help you get some insight into the group and would be an advocate. It's so hard for us to advise at a distance.
If, God forbid, it was deliberate, they might also have the scoop on any "eye-rollers." Considering your signs, I can't imagine any parent thinking it was okay to do something like this.
But I honestly think it was a young kid's mistake. You might try and explain that to your son - that everyone makes mistakes. Poor kid to have this shadow over his birthday!

Posted on: Thu, 05/10/2007 - 1:48pm
BBCBMom's picture
Joined: 01/16/2007 - 09:00

Thank you for all your replies. I decided earlier today not to send an email out. However I talked with my son's teachers and they said they will keep their ears open if they hear anything. Also I will bring it up in passing if I talk to any of the parents that were at the party. Just too wierd. FYI: We don't have a cleaning lady, there were only five other kids between the ages of 3.5 and 4 plus their parents who stayed the entire time. It was an action packed 2 hours so not sure when this could have occured. Also, we haven't had anyone over to our house beside my parents since I put out this bowl and I know they would never bring peanut M&M's to our house. If I find out the mystery I will let you know. Thanks again.

Posted on: Thu, 05/10/2007 - 11:53pm
seanmn's picture
Joined: 10/01/2003 - 09:00

Maybe one of the kids had them in their pocket not knowing they were there and hid them so they would not get into trouble, KWIM?

Posted on: Fri, 05/11/2007 - 1:22am
DanielaW's picture
Joined: 03/22/2000 - 09:00

I truly guess that the most probable scenario is that a child had them in their pocket and maybe they hid it because they found in their pocket and that was a way to get rid of it not to get in trouble. I'm tough very encouraged that your son ate an M&M and he did not react! You should be very happy and very encouraged! Maybe this happened for a reason maybe he has a false positive certainly something to talk to your allergist about.The good news is that nothing happened to him and this is a very very positive aspect.


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