Minor Vent - 3rd Day of School & He\'s Back at the BENCH!

Posted on: Thu, 09/06/2007 - 11:29am
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This is a minor vent as the situation will be resolved by tomorrow.

So, Jesse is in Grade 7 this year and the Grade 7 and 8 classes have a separate lunchroom. Now, this is where the original "peanut free" BENCH is (on top of the heaters, etc.).

He ate lunch with the other Grade 7's on Tuesday and Wednesday. To-day, the lunchroom supervisor comes up and says, "oh, I see you're still wearing an EpiPen, you'll have to go and sit at the bench" (smack - um, did you expect the EpiPen to disappear over the summer?).

So, he did. He came home and told me. I called the school and told them that it was okay that Jesse sit at the regular table and that this was something that had been resolved with the principal two years ago.
The person on the phone told me that I had to put it in writing.

In writing in goes. Giving permission for Jesse to sit at the regular table - indicating that yes, he is still wearing an EpiPen and always will be as he is still anaphylactic to peanuts. Also, saying that since the school has proclaimed (didn't use that word) itself as having a STRICT NO PEANUT POLICY that I really don't see any difficulties with Jesse sitting with his classmates. Also, that this issue had been resolved TWO YEARS AGO!

In all of the literature we received home from the school so far this week - the only thing I have seen is that PLJM School has a STRICT NO PEANUT POLICY. Just those words.
Nothing else. Nothing to help anyone new to the school - but that's all a separate post (and obviously only means lunch-time and snack time, not the Fall Fun Fair).

I don't feel like getting into it right now - the words - the that's it about them, just wanted to post that my guy ended up at that gosh darn BENCH again. I'd like to BURN them! Oh, and he was the only child at the BENCH to-day.

Letter goes in with him tomorrow and he'll be back with the class, but still, it's like what don't you get?

Many thanks for listening and best wishes! [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/smile.gif[/img]

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Posted on: Thu, 09/06/2007 - 11:22pm
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Joined: 10/14/2003 - 09:00

It's here, the new school year and already we are faced with obstacles. I hear you! For us it is the opposite. My DD is also in grade 7 and she wants a pnut free table so she doesn't have to keep looking over her shoulder while she's eating and would like to have some time at school where she doesn't have to be on edge about pb being close to her.
So, I go to the nurse to drop off her Epis, etc. Its a new one (we didn't like the old one--this one is not looking good either!). What is it with these people who think they know what is best for them? We are their parents and we should know and we try to pass that on to them to keep our kids safe. Anyway, she starts asking why she is at a peanut free table (I explain). She asked if I checked with her doctor to see if it is OK now that she is older to be around PB! What?!! And she calls herself a nurse? I stressed that "avoidance" is the key and we are very dlligent about that and expect everyone to be dilligent as well.
I'm sorry this turned into a minor vent with yours. I totally understand. They don't want her to have the peanut free table and my DD does! I think it should be individual-based at this age. If they are comfortable with it--keep it. If not, then don't! Why can't these people just agree with the parent and not upset the apple cart KWIM? If we say it works for us, then don't fix it.
I can tell this is going to be a loooonnnnggg year!

Posted on: Fri, 09/07/2007 - 1:14am
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Joined: 04/16/2005 - 09:00

I am utterly amazed at the idea of this bench. A bench with no table in front of it, right? How is a child supposed to eat?
When I first read about this in response to gvmom's treats post I was traveling and couldn't really respond, but I was shocked.
Do you have something equivalent to FAPE in Canada?

Posted on: Fri, 09/07/2007 - 1:53am
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Joined: 07/19/2007 - 09:00

To let you know... my sil is a nurse and she admitted she knew nothing about FA when ds was diagnosed. Absolutely nothing about it in her education.... I'm studying to be an RN now and I plan to bring it up in each and every class. I may not be able to educate everyone, but I will educate anyone willing to listen. I will also be discussing with the teachers that this should be part of nursing education... at least some basics.

Posted on: Fri, 09/07/2007 - 4:27am
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Joined: 12/06/2001 - 09:00

I know you said that you have already addressed this with the school by now, but I can't help but comment on this:
Quote:Originally posted by Alternative to Mainstream:
[b]The person on the phone told me that I had to put it in writing.
In writing in goes. Giving permission for Jesse to sit at the regular table - [/b]
Really? I don't think so. Not that you aren't willing to do it. Not that I myself haven't written such notes.
But I don't think that the school can legally withhold something (i.e. seating at the regular table) that it affords to all Jesse's non-disabled peers until you provide them with a note. (Unless you've previously provided the school with a doctor's note on file stating that Jesse needs to sit at the BENCH, then I don't think they can *require* a note from you for something that's routine for the rest of the student population.)
And it sorta pi$$es me off when schools tell this to parents because it should actually be ther reverse: ask the school to provide you with a note that they *require* Jesse to sit at the BENCH because he has a peanut allergy. I dare them to put that in writing.
When our school nurse "required" Mariah to sit at the PF table (you know, the one that the kids referred to as the "reject table") and when she "required" a doctor's note that she may sit at the "regular" table, I wish I had asked her to put her "requirements" in writing to me. I think our sad situation would have resolved much more quickly had I forced them to "own" their demands by having them go through the exercise of putting it down on paper. KWIM?
Anyway, sorry the BENCH *continues* to even exist and that Jesse has continued to be 'sent' to it. . . [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/frown.gif[/img]
[This message has been edited by Gail W (edited September 07, 2007).]

Posted on: Fri, 09/07/2007 - 6:53am
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Joined: 08/24/2005 - 09:00

You must have been absolutely dumbfounded the minute before you got peeved! That would have totally given me a major double take like, "Huh? What did you just say?" (as you stick your finger in your ear to clean it out cause you MUST have heard wrong).
Honestly, I am sitting here still just shaking my head -- rereading your post again as I try to fumble through my own post back to you.
Hopefully it is just a new over-eager lunchroom supervisor that can be straightened out by a principal, who should be incredibly apologetic for having such morons on staff!
It does also seem a bit ... um.... lacking in intuitiveness (to be kind).... to tell a PA child, in a school having a NO PEANUT policy, that they have to sit separately from everyone else (who shouldn't have peanuts because of THEIR policy)!
I sometimes imagine big dots on the foreheads of these school type people, and I'm the one with a ginormous black felt tip permanent marker trying to chase them down to connect the dots for them ..........

Posted on: Fri, 09/07/2007 - 7:44am
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Joined: 10/04/2001 - 09:00

I did a double take when I saw the title of this thread. The BENCH? Again? Good grief.
I hope by now all is resolved, but it's so maddening to keep visiting the same issues over and over.

Posted on: Fri, 09/07/2007 - 8:52am
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Joined: 06/12/2007 - 09:00

Quote:Originally posted by Gail W:
[b]When our school nurse "required" Mariah to sit at the PF table (you know, the one that the kids referred to as the "reject table") and when she "required" a doctor's note that she may sit at the "regular" table, I wish I had asked her to put her "requirements" in writing to me. I think our sad situation would have resolved much more quickly had I forced them to "own" their demands by having them go through the exercise of putting it down on paper. KWIM?
Sorry this is off the topic...
GailW-What age was Mariah when the kids thought of the peanut-free table as the "reject table"? I can foresee that, though many people say the table becomes popular.
I can't fathom how the school thinks a BENCH is the equivalent to a table like his nondisabled peers. So, the kids have to hold their lunches on their laps and eat without a table?

Posted on: Fri, 09/07/2007 - 11:36am
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Joined: 12/22/2005 - 09:00

Yes, do the [i]non food allergic children[/i] need a parental signature to sit at a table?? You shouldn't have to jump through any extra hoops in the name of 'liability'. That's just crazy.
I hope they get their act together soon.

Posted on: Fri, 09/14/2007 - 2:52am
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Joined: 01/22/2006 - 09:00

Ok this post is upsetting on so many levels..
First.. Why would you have to send a note? As one other poster mentioned, have any of the other parents of non-disabled parents had to send a note.
Gail...What grade was it referred to as a reject table?
My child does sit at a "special table", however this principal has made it different from the other tables and excluded them in certain things. The principal before this one kept a "regular sized" table so they did not stand out. This new principal has done everything possible to make allergy kids different because of what I believe to have a personal bias toward them. Unfortunately my child cannot sit around others eating it. But the treatment is horrible!

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