WHAT TO DO WHEN SCHOOL DONT WANT TO MAKE CHANGES?

Posted on: Wed, 01/30/2013 - 12:19am
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MY SON IS 6 YEARS OLD AND IM HAVING TROUBLE WITH THE SCHOOL TRANSPORTATION. THEY WILL NOT ACCOMADATE MY SON THAT HAS A PEANUT ALLERGY. IT IS SERVE THAT HE IS ANPHLAXS WITH IT.IM TIRED OF FIGHTING THEM WITH THIS, THE DR SENT PAPER WORK TO THEM TELL THEM ABOUT WHAT MEASURE TO TAKE AND IT STILL A FIGHT . HE HAS BEEN IN SCHOOL SINCE AUGUST, AND IT HAS BEEN A COMPLETE NIGHT MARE BECAUSE THEY WONT WORK WITH ME.I CANT MAKE THEM SEE ITS A MATTER OF LIFE HERE.I WAS TOLD I WAS MAKING THIS UP.I CALLED THE BOARD OF EDUCATION AND THEY WORK IT OUT THEN A FEW WEEKS LATER IT GETS CHANGED TO WHERE THEY SAID IT NOT THEIR PROBLEM. WHAT ELSE CAN I DO. DO I PULL HIM FROM SCHOOL AND HOME SCHOOL HIM? I JUST DONT KNOW ANYMORE.hE TELLS ME PEOPLE ARE EATING RESEES ON THE BUS. OR HE SMELL PEANUT BUTTER,ON THE BUS. I JUST DONT KNOW WHAT TO DO?
aNYONE CAN SUGGUST ANYTHING I MIGHT BE ABLE TO DO? OR WHATS MY NEXT STEP?

Posted on: Wed, 02/06/2013 - 4:38am
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I can relate to your trouble. My wife and I have twins boys that are 9 years old and one suffers from high levels peanuts and all nut allergy. Though he is not having trouble on the bus because eating is not allowed he recently had a run in in class with a student chasing him around with a peanut. After speaking to the teacher my wife and I found out that there is NOT ENOUGH AWARENESS with teachers and adminstrators. When I spoke to our priciple she told me that she does not have enough time in the day to deal with these things and possibly we can figure out how we could bring this awareness to our students. So we are talking to our " Dare Officer" from our school district to assist us with this matter. He and I spoke about our problem and he agrees that this is a type of Bullying and is not tolerated. My suggestion is that you see if your police department has a "Dare Officer" and bring this up to him. Our Officer meets with the school board every 3 months and addresses matter as this.Your Community Dare Officer will probably make a difference in talking to administrator and also the students because truefully they are unaware what can happen. Good luck and dont give up our kids need our invovlement and direction

Posted on: Mon, 04/01/2013 - 3:08am
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Probably not the answer you were looking for, we had the same issues with my daughter when she was old enough to ride the bus. I finally got to the top person in transportation at our district, he said "I can MAKE the drive do what is needed for your daughter as part of her responsibility, but do you really want to leave your daughter in the care of someone that is being "made" to do something they do not wish to do?" When he said that to me, my answere was absolutely not, so as a result we drove her to and from shcool everyday. Education is really the key, but some people do not want that responsibility and for us I'm not willing to force it on them, too much of a risk.

Posted on: Mon, 04/01/2013 - 7:57am
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A few questions : Are you in a public school? If yes then it is simple you have to have a 504 and in that you set up the requirements to make the environment safe at all times. They can not refuse to give you a 504 that would be a whole other violation. Once you have a 504 with the instructions on the care and accommodations required then you can go forward with holding them accountable.
Your son is protected under the ADA Law and as such he has every right to a public education and they HAVE to make all reasonable accommodations. If it is a small school dist you just have to keep in mind of their small budget. I have reminded MANY a stubborn administrator that I could require the school to pay for an aide to go with our daughter everywhere, clean surfaces and basically be her protector. On average that is a $20,000 per year expense they could save by simply agreeing to 'X' and following threw with it.
I do not know your circumstances regarding transportation but i have to agree with the choice of driving your child yourself. Or finding another parent or two to take turns car pooling. The fact of the matter kids with out food allergies are not safe on school buses let a lone one that is vulnerable so easily. I do not agree with home schooling BECAUSE of a food allergy. When the time comes your son will have to go out into the world and he will need to know how to manage day to day life and his allergy. Nothing against home schooling at all. But if you want your son to go to college chances are he will have to learn how to manage his allergy and other people.
Feel free to ask all the questions you need . There are many parents like myself with many years of experience dealing with schools.

Posted on: Mon, 04/01/2013 - 1:33pm
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Some excellent ideas. Though I feel obligated to clear up one point since you mention homeschooling and it is a viable option for some families, including those with allergies. The assumption that children will somehow be found lacking in their ability to go out and 'manage day to day life [including their] allergy' is a misconception as common as people thinking allergies are 'no big deal'. Just not accurate. After working with hundreds of kids from all sorts of educational backgrounds, one group simply doesn't fit that profile any more than another.

Posted on: Wed, 04/03/2013 - 9:26am
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Is driving him to school an option? If so, that might be your best bet. It seems that he understands the gravity of his allergy if he's thinking to come to you and tell you about the Reese's on the bus, but if the school isn't gonna change (and you can't ask a busload of 6 years to stop eating the Reese's), you may have to take him to school yourself and trust that he can keep away from the peanuts during the day. Good luck!

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