One kid with a peanut allergy and one without

Posted on: Tue, 07/16/2013 - 6:59am
daniswenson's picture
Joined: 07/16/2013 - 13:35

One of my friends as two children, one with a peanut allergy and one without. She is having a very hard time because the one without the allergy loves peanut butter. Do you have any advice for how to deal with this?

Posted on: Tue, 07/16/2013 - 10:28am
Jolenet9's picture
Joined: 07/16/2013 - 17:16

Hi, my son does not have any allergies and used to live on peanut butter. When we found out my daughter was allergic to peanut butter my pediatrician told me we had to become a peanut- free home. I took my son to Whole Foods and we bought every kind of substitute peanut butter; Soybutter, Wowbutter and Sunbutter. He tried all of them and loved the Soybutter. My son was 4 years old at the time and I had to explain to him about his sisters allergy and that none of us could eat peanut butter in our home. How terrible would it be if she got into the cupboard herself and ate some peanut butter? Maybe I was in the bathroom and by the time I found out she stopped breathing. Now, my son is her biggest advocate and always makes sure there is no peanuts around her wherever we go. He even got mad at his grandma for having peanut butter at her house and she kept it in a really high cabinet. Plus we only see her 2x a year as she lives in another state.

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It's important that you educate the child who does not have a peanut allergy and help them understand the severity of the situation. Help the child without a peanut allergy understand the importance of keeping the house safe for the child with a PA. A peanut allergy is a life-threatening condition and should not be taken lightly. Having a peanut-free house will help the child with a PA to feel safe and is a small sacrifice to make for the child without the allergy. Children should feel safe in their own home, especially since they will always have to have their guard up at school, in public, and at restaurants.
The good news is that there are some great alternatives to peanut butter, including Wowbutter, Sunbutter, and almond butter, if there is not a soy allergy. All of these alternatives taste almost identical to peanut butter and are very tasty!

Posted on: Sun, 07/21/2013 - 3:35am
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Joined: 03/04/2013 - 19:17

My oldest son is 5 and was recently diagnosed with a peanut and tree nut allergy. My 3 year old LOVES peanut butter. He is too young to really "get it" but he does know that nuts can make his big brother VERY sick. He likes Sunbutter or WOWbutter so I use that to make his "PB&J" sandwich and he liked the sunbutter cups that are kind of like Reese's cups. There have also been times when we have let him go to a grandparent's house and eat special peanut butter treats and before he comes home he gets clean clothes, a bath, and his teeth brushed.

Posted on: Sun, 07/21/2013 - 4:59am
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Joined: 02/06/2013 - 11:21

I agree with other comments as far as educating everyone in the family first. One of our twin boys also suffers from peanut and all nut allergy and we too have run into this. After educating my 19 year old and other twin we decided that what we would do is buy the small packs of peanut butter that come in single serving size and keep it high in the cabinet and when my oldest son wanted to have some for lunch or at home he used a plastic spoon to spread on bread then dispose of both in garbage. If at home we would make him immediately brush and floss teeth and wash hands before hanging out with his brother. This may not be the answer but it works for us and we continue to pray for a solutions for all those who have food allergies especially nut allergies

Posted on: Sun, 07/21/2013 - 9:47pm
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Joined: 08/03/2009 - 02:20

If it was me, I'd tell the other child straight out. "Peanut Butter will never be eaten in this house. You can use soybutter or other alternatives but there will never be peanut butter eaten here, ever". If the "other" child doesn't eat peanut butter it will not kill him/her. If the PA child accidentally eats the tiniest amount of pb, (even off a plate or knife that wasn't properly cleaned) they could die. It's that simple. Your friend will have to fight a lot of battles in the future to keep her child safe. Other parents, children, team coaches, teachers, wait persons, restaurant managers etc. If she isn't ok telling her own child No Peanut Butter under any circumstances. She either should start finding ways or make herself ready, quickly, or get ready to go to the ER on numerous occasions. Keeping your PA kid safe, alive and non-reactive is not for the faint of heart.

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