Dating/Kissing with PA/TNA?

Posted on: Sun, 07/08/2018 - 1:16pm
Hanna Jordan's picture
Offline
Joined: 07/08/2014 - 19:34

My name is Hanna, I'm 14. I've had a life threatening allergy to peanuts and tree nuts since I was one. I am over-careful and sometimes I feel like I'm crossing lines sometimes trying to get the ingredients or finding out how safely my food is prepared.

But since I'm a girl and I go to parties and I hang out with guys, I have recently become aware that reaction-causing allergens can be present in the transfer of saliva from.. kissing? This makes me very uncomfortable because I'm sort of a private person. I don't want to seem high-maintenance to anyone, especially guys that I like/they like me. I'm not exactly sure how to handle kissing and going on dates at restaurants.

I've had boyfriends before, but I don't usually kiss them. I've never had a problem with it before.. but I'm terrified that I'm going to. Any tips on how to talk to your boyfriend about your allergy?

I've just been really worried about this and it's probably all I think about. I recently have been getting anxiety attacks, and no one I talk to really knows where I'm coming from or understands.

Posted on: Thu, 07/10/2014 - 9:07am
PeanutAllergy.com's picture
Offline
Joined: 06/21/2013 - 11:03

Question of the Week: Answered!
Every week, PeanutAllergy.com is answering one of the questions posted in our community.
Our Answer:
Hi Hanna! It’s good to hear that you’re being cautious and seeking information about living with peanut allergy. While your safety is priority #1, it’s important to try to lead a balanced life that involves dating.
It’s true that allergens can be present and transferred through saliva. While we don’t mean to frighten you, kissing someone after he’s ingested allergens could possibly lead to anaphylactic shock. You don’t want your first kissing experience to be like the one in this video.
Communication with the person you’re dating is essential. It may be hard, but don’t be embarrassed of your allergy. A great way of talking about your allergy could be by suggesting a place to grab something to eat and then explaining why you have to be careful about what/where you can eat. Then maybe share a funny story about an allergic reaction you had and how you could potentially suffer a fatal reaction by kissing someone who eats certain foods. Starting off in a fun, low-pressure setting could be a good way to educate the person you’re with about PA. Then when you’re more comfortable let the person know about the severity of the allergy. The right guy will take the necessary precautions and know how lucky he is to date you!
Check out this video for some some solid PA dating advice. And this thread about a 24-year-old with PA also has plenty of helpful dating advice.
We asked our Facebook fans for their input, and you can read their responses here.
Best of luck and let us know how everything turns out!

Posted on: Sun, 07/13/2014 - 6:18am
Hanna Jordan's picture
Offline
Joined: 07/08/2014 - 19:34

Thanks this was actually really helpful. I feel more confident. I guess sometimes I just feel isolated about it, since not very many people in my community have any intolerances.

Posted on: Sun, 07/13/2014 - 6:22am
Choppy's picture
Offline
Joined: 07/13/2014 - 13:08

Hi Hannah, I totally understand what you are going through. If they are a genuinely nice person they will understand. I'm allergic to peanuts and when I was 17 I kissed my boyfriend and went in to anaphylactic shock. He had been eating peanuts and I didn't know he had. He new I had a peanut allergy but I had always brushed over it because I was so embarrassed and thought he won 't be interested in me if he knew how severe it was. My advise to you would just be honest to boys and if they are really worth kissing they'll understand and don't be embarrassed like I was, it's really not worth it.
Choppyx

Peanut Free and Nut Free Community

Click on one of the categories below to see all topics and discussions.

Latest Discussions

Latest Post by merryjuicy Wed, 08/05/2020 - 3:05am
Comments: 0
Latest Post by merryjuicy Wed, 08/05/2020 - 3:05am
Comments: 0
Latest Post by merryjuicy Wed, 08/05/2020 - 3:04am
Comments: 0
Latest Post by merryjuicy Wed, 08/05/2020 - 3:04am
Comments: 0
Latest Post by merryjuicy Wed, 08/05/2020 - 1:01am
Comments: 0
Latest Post by merryjuicy Wed, 08/05/2020 - 1:01am
Comments: 0
Latest Post by merryjuicy Wed, 08/05/2020 - 1:01am
Comments: 0
Latest Post by merryjuicy Wed, 08/05/2020 - 1:01am
Comments: 0
Latest Post by merryjuicy Tue, 08/04/2020 - 10:38pm
Comments: 0
Latest Post by merryjuicy Tue, 08/04/2020 - 10:37pm
Comments: 0

Peanut Free Store

More Articles

Peanut oil is an inexpensive, healthful and inoffensive way to cook—unless you have a peanut allergy!

Light peanut oil is popular as a...

Are you looking for peanut-free candies as a special treat for a child with...

People with peanut allergy should know about foods to avoid, as many who are allergic to peanuts are allergic to other nuts like walnuts, cashews...

If you or your child has a peanut allergy, that unmistakable smell of peanuts wafting through the air...

Whether you have a child with a peanut allergy or you are sensitive to packing a nut-free lunch out of concern for other people’s children, it is...

For those living with peanut allergies, having a source of ready-to-eat 'safe' foods can be a...

Those with severe peanut allergies soon learn to look for the 'peanut-free sign' on any packaged food purchase. This is a notation found on a wide...

For many people with peanut allergies, baked goods present one of the most significant risks. Even if...

Are you craving sweets? Those with peanut allergies must be especially careful when indulging their...

Peanuts and Nuts Can Trigger An Asthma Attack

According to the American Academy of Allergy, Asthma and Immunology (AAAI), more than 3...

There are more "peanut-free" products than ever on the supermarket shelves. This means more choices than ever for peanut-allergic shoppers and...

It Is Easy To Buy Peanut Free Chocolate Online

Ask any parent of a child with a potentially life-...

How Do You Determine If A Food Is Safe For A Peanut Allergic Person?

The answer varies. “Peanut-free” means different things to different...

Recently, the U.S. Food and Drug Administration (FDA) approved a New Drug Application for an epinephrine auto-injector (EAI) designed for use with...

Fact 1: Over a third of food allergy reactions happen after the first known oral...

It can be easy to overlook the presence of nut allergens in non-food items because the allergens are often listed by their Latin or scientific...

It’s hard to think of Chinese food without thinking of peanuts. China is the world’s leading peanut producer, and that’s not a coincidence....

Soymilk is one of the most popular alternatives to cow’s milk. As well as being rich in fiber, soy is a great source of protein and contains all...

My mom was at a lakeside restaurant enjoying fish and chips when her mouth began tingling. The next day at a family gathering, we had grilled...

Peanuts and peanut oil are cheap and easy additives to food and other commercial goods. It is surprising (and alarming if you have a...