Back to basics

Posted on: Fri, 01/02/2015 - 11:36pm
Momobubble's picture
Joined: 01/03/2015 - 06:25

I'm 17, nearly 18 and I have a severe peanut allergy,
Unfortunately my parents have become less and less careful about my allergy as I get older and have been eating,cooking and baking with nuts or ingredients that are unsafe for me to eat and complain when I refuse to eat them and say that I "just like to make things difficult for everyone".
My parents never took much caution with my allergy and I've never had much of it explained to me. I just want to know what the basic facts are about living with a peanut allergy. What did you tell your kids? What precautions do you take in your home and in life to ensure that you are safe?
I'd really appreciate any advice as I'm growing up and planning to move out ASAP.

Posted on: Sat, 01/03/2015 - 10:53am
glitterjulia2's picture
Joined: 01/03/2015 - 17:47

wow those parents dont sound very supportive. I find people are awfully sour about having to temporarilly avoid or be careful with their peanut snacks around me. Ive lived with this my whole life and they cant even handle a few minutes? some people are real children. I'd say if you are living with others just get your own jelly or butter, as people like to mix knives. always ask about brownies or cookies and generally be careful. ask about peanut oils at asian restruants (avoid thai) and ask about peanut oils with concerns about french fries Over here, chik-fil-a uses peanut oil on everything so just be aware. Also dont let it rule your life. People ask me about it and want to see my epi pen like its some sort of amazing mystical object but its not a big deal or burden and shouldnt be for anyone. Just be careful
Good luck

Posted on: Tue, 01/06/2015 - 5:13am
Saralinda's picture
Joined: 01/12/2004 - 09:00

When were diagnosed? I am assuming that you have been tested by an allergist. If not, do that first. I would think that your parents would have protected you while you were a child. If this is a recent diagnosis, they might be struggling with the new normal. If it is a long standing diagnosis and this is new behavior on their part, ask them why the change in attitude? Is it tough love? Are they preparing you for the real world? Harsh, but effective. Good luck.

Posted on: Tue, 01/06/2015 - 7:55am
Theresa DB's picture
Joined: 01/27/2014 - 17:11

Yes there is alot of self safe precautions you can start with, then you will automatically adapt as life situations and occasions happen. 1) Wash your hands alot. 2) Don't allow any peanut product in your home not even may contain (always read all ingredients on everything (Even washing dishes with peanut butter knife in water I have had a rash hives reaction) 3) If you realise you walk in to situation or a place where peanuts where eaten walk away go outside breath fresh air go back inside and periodically step outside (I have instant headaches when the smell of peanuts are in the air). 4) LET PEOPLE know of your allergy and the steps you take to protect yourself ( It is not rude to step outside for fresh air. Or refuse Hugs and Kisses from family members who might have eaten peanuts or nuts I say No Chance Peanut Butter Kisses Please HUGS ONLY PLEASE especially at Christmas) 5) I don't go out for breakfast most restaurants have Peanut Butter on table in little packets but people use it and leave there knives on table after their done eating. 6) DON'T ever eat chocolats, chocolat bars or desserts unless you read ingredients. NEVER eat anything offered that is homemade unless you made it or the person who made it is aware of peanut contamination or very vigilent on cleanliness. 7) when I go eat elsewhere I wash my dishes before I eat there.
THESE are a few precautious and steps you can apply
There is more you will adapt as you face situations
Be Safe Be cautious Be prepared
Planning ahead and educating others protects you SAFETY FIRST.
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Posted on: Wed, 01/07/2015 - 8:22am
cantufamily's picture
Joined: 02/06/2013 - 11:21

First of all being a parent with a child that has severe peanut allergies I would like to say how proud I am of you that you are aware of your allergies. As far as your parents you may have to be the one to educate them on the severity of your allergies. We as parents worry all the time for our son and like you he is aware and concern being only 11 years old. We make sure that we dont have any peanut products at home and read all labels because many items though they do not have peanuts in them may have been process in a plant or equipment that has peanuts. You should make an appointment with your family doctor to have a blood test to see the severity of your levels and other tree nuts that you may be allergy too. This site offers a lot of info for you and your parents as well as Good luck and my family and I will keep you in our prayers

Posted on: Wed, 01/07/2015 - 11:18am
LGriffin1's picture
Joined: 09/06/2012 - 10:45

I was diagnosed not too much younger than you. We all struggled with a new severe allergy. If you are working, you may want to consider having your stash of dishes, pots, pans, disposable dishes and silverware and even sponges. We live in a very mixed house. While most things don't have nuts, my dad still eats mixed nuts but he eats them when I'm not home. The peanut butters are on thier own shelf. We've had to adapt in the last couple of years by having seperate sponges, and triple washing as I'm highly senstive to gluten products. I don't know your history of reactions but if you haven't had one in a long time, they may have become complacent due to that.

Posted on: Wed, 01/07/2015 - 8:36pm
Momobubble's picture
Joined: 01/03/2015 - 06:25

I was diagnosed very young by an allergist. My parents just extremely ignorant!

Posted on: Thu, 01/08/2015 - 10:34am
DianeT's picture
Joined: 04/24/2012 - 19:48

I say go with your gut on what you should or should not eat. Let it go if they give you a hard time about not eating certain things. You are nearly an adult and it's your life. Have your parents ever seen you have a reaction? If so I ought to scare them enough to be more careful. I am a highly allergic adult and my son is also a peanut/tree nut allergy sufferer. I wouldn't take any chances.

Posted on: Thu, 02/05/2015 - 9:15am
CaitlinScoppetta's picture
Joined: 02/05/2015 - 16:00

I've had a severe peanut allergy my entire life. I was born with it, and I still have it at the age of 27. The only time I have gone in the anaphylactic shock is when I was very young and not able to read my own labels. The way I steer clear of having a reaction is... Make sure you read EVERY label of the food you eat. You would be very surprised what actually contains/may contain peanuts. Do not eat anything that says "may contain peanuts", "may contain traces of peanuts", "made in a facility that processes peanuts" or "processed on shared equipment with peanuts". You could probably get away with eating some of that but it's really not worth it. Also, if a food does not have written ingredients, like food from a bakery or deli, then avoid it anyway. If you don't know for sure... Don't do it. If you go to a restaurant and you haven't eaten there before, If you haven't eaten a certain meal before, or if you see that they have peanuts ANYWHERE on their menu... You need to have them #1- check your meal and make sure the ingredients do not contain peanuts #2- make sure they inform the chef of your severe allergy. The last thing a restaurant needs is a lawsuit for a death on their dining room and the last thing you need is to die for their negligence. Make sure you are VERY clear as to how severe it is. I always make sure to say "if there are any peanuts/peanut traces/peanut oils around my dish or in my dish, I will die within minutes." Another thing to think about is fast food chains or anything that's fried. Sometimes they will use peanut oil to fry french fries or chicken. Chic-Fil-A is a no-go. They use peanut oil. So does Five Guys burgers. And most Asian restaurants have peanut something on the menu somewhere. Make sure no boyfriends/girlfriends kiss you after eating peanuts also. My fiancé can no longer eat anything that has to do with peanuts as long as he's around me or going to be around me. As for your parents, they should take this extremely seriously. It's a life or death allergy. So go buy your own food if they refuse to help you in the eating department. Also keep your EpiPen with you wherever you go! If you don't have one already, go to the doctor and get one asap. It will save your life in case anything did ever happen. Hope that all helps!!!

Posted on: Sun, 02/08/2015 - 2:23pm
peanutfreechildren's picture
Joined: 02/04/2012 - 06:42

I have a 15 year old PA and TN child who has only known to have an allergy his entire life. We always tell him to ALWAYS BE AWARE OF YOUR SURROUNDINGS. Look around if others are around you eating or handling your allregen. If so remove yourself. When we go on vacation or school outings we always call or look up the food allrgy list before ever walking in the door.
Just telling a PA peson to not consume your allergen is just not enough. Read everything even if you have read it 100 times before. If the packaging plant breaks down and they send it to another facility there may be an allergen that can and will affect you.
There are a lot of books on peanut allergies. I had a friend give me a copy of one and I was amazed on all the things that I was not aware of. It will give you better ways to live a safer life. The best gift ever given.
READ, look, when in doubt dont go and most of all always carry you Epi or Auvi-Q at all times. Even to just go to the gas station or to go see a friend. You never know when you can come across your allergen.
Never stop living due to your allergen. Let your friends know that you havea severe allergy and they will want to help keep you safe. You may not be able to do everything that a non allergen teen can do but there are still a million things out there that are safe to attend..

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Thank you for reaching out to our community! We’re sorry to hear that you don’t feel safe in your parents’ home and that you are being bullied. Be comforted in knowing you are not alone - many peanut allergic people face and overcome similar issues.
You should know that your peanut allergy is not uncommon and you should never be bullied for it. The main reason that non-allergic people tend to bully those allergic is a lack of information. Don’t be afraid to be vocal and educate those around you about your needs and experiences. Here is an article about talking to people unfamiliar with peanut allergies so that they can be more aware and therefore more helpful.
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Some adults have mild or severe anxiety when their children or themselves are experiencing a food allergy. Though it’s good to be careful and proactive, you don’t have to live in fear. There are a ton of safety resources for people with peanut allergies to keep you safe and happy. A good list of them can be read here.
When it comes to cooking for yourself in an environment that may not be completely peanut-free, this community post can offer some useful insight. For when you do live on your own, you can find tips about staying safe and on a budget with your food allergy here.
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