little vent here!

Posted on: Wed, 02/14/2007 - 3:57am
momll70's picture
Joined: 09/26/2006 - 09:00

My son had a Valine's day party today and I had to work today because he was sick last week and I was home taking care of him. My son has a treasure box at school with safe treats for parties like this. The other class moms asked me if he can have "regular pretzels". My son is PA/TNA and also allergic to seeds (including sunflower). I told them he can only have 2 kinds and not to worry about it because he can have his safe treat. They told me they will by safe pretzels. I told them Rold Gold (the Rods or the tiny sticks) that's all. Well, picked up my son today from school and he tells me that he ate pretzels but they were a different shape. I told him that he could only eat the Rods even if the bag looks the same. He still thought that the bag was fine. His eye was a little pink when I picked him up and lately after getting over his bad cold his eyes have been getting irritated. Now I don't know if he is getting a reaction or if his eye is just irritated. It was better when we got home but I gave some Benadryl anyway. He has never reacted to pretzils before but we stay away because you never know how much protien is in the sunflower oil.

Lesson learned here. Do not trust anyone you don't know very, very well. I feel that this is my fault because I almost told him not to eat anything else but his special treat anyway and then I changed my mind. What if it was something else like cookies and they would have given him the wrong ones. In the future I will tell anyone who offers to buy "something safe" just not to worry about it because he is only allowed to eat what I give him so that there are no mistakes made. Usually I supply the safe treats or bake but this time I did not find out until yesterday because my son was sick and I remember that they were only going to eat their regular snacks and give cards out to each other.

Thanks for reading. I feel better letting this out. I think he is o.k. but I'm still keeping an eye on him.

Posted on: Wed, 02/14/2007 - 4:06am
chanda4's picture
Joined: 12/14/2006 - 09:00

I hate class parties anymore. I was at my sons today(with younger brother and sister in tow) but I made all his own foods(they had a breakfast, pancakes, bacon, fruit etc...) he had his own plate, everything I made...then another mom walks over and asks if he wants more bacon, off her tray. He started to say yes and I cut in and said he had his own food but thank you. I just don't know, I know there is going to be a time I can't be there, then what??! This stresses me out, I'd probably keep him home if I couldn't go on special party days, just to watch for other parents slipping him stuff, or saying it's okay....they did that at Halloween too, "it's just a sugar cookie, here" AGGGGGGHHHH!!!
Hope your son is doing better, I go pick mine up soon, I hope he is okay, I've been stressed all day.
Chanda(mother of 4)
Sidney-8 (beef and chocolate, grasses, molds, weeds, guinea pig & asthma)
Jake-6 (peanut, all tree nuts, eggs, trees, grasses, weeds, molds, cats, dogs, guinea pig & eczema & asthma)
Carson-3 1/2 (milk, soy, egg, beef and pork, cats, dog, guinea pig)
Savannah-1 (milk and egg)

Posted on: Wed, 02/14/2007 - 4:17am
JennB's picture
Joined: 01/31/2007 - 09:00

I feel for you...I have been worried all day because when i dropped my child off at her peanut free school, candy was in her box.....

Posted on: Wed, 02/14/2007 - 4:26am
krc's picture
Joined: 01/16/2007 - 09:00

Ugh- I feel for you. Hope he continues to do ok. Have you called the parents to find out exactly what kind it was they gave him?
We've had to learn this lesson ourselves the hard way and now (well for quite some time now) had to keep w/ our rule of no food unless it comes from home. It gives me peace of mind and avoids uncomfortable situations.
I also dread all of the holiday parties. It's like our school plan is non-existent all of sudden when a party comes up. The communication never occurs the way it is supposed too and w/o fail a parent always sends in something unsafe.
I was so happy when school was cancelled here today! One less party to have to be worried about.
Sorry this happened!
10 yo dd- PA,TNA, tests pos to soy, CATS, many environmentals, Asthmatic
5 yo dd- NKA, avoiding nuts
3 yo dd- outgrown milk/soy, avoiding nuts

Posted on: Wed, 02/14/2007 - 4:56am
niche LH's picture
Joined: 02/06/2007 - 09:00

glad to know I am not the only one who has been sick to my stomach all day - worring about the valentines snacks. Even though I signed up for everything but jello jigglers - I am still worried about who put what in his bag...
ds 4 ana p/tnuts
dd don't know yet 7 mo

Posted on: Wed, 02/14/2007 - 4:56am
momll70's picture
Joined: 09/26/2006 - 09:00

Hi so far he's o.k. He's sleeping. He used to eat these before we found out he was allergic to sunflower seeds/oil. They are Rold Gold but the regular pretzil shaped with the loops. He described them to me and I draw a picture and he pointed it out to me. He told me he thought they were o.k. because they are the same brand as the safe ones. This shows me how confusing it can get for a 5 year old when I constantly tell him that not all pretzils, chocolate, etc from the same brand are o.k. I usually don't trust anyone, now I know why.
The unfair thing is that they brought in cookies too and knew not to give them to him so all he had was the pretzils and not his safe treat from his treasure box which would have been more exciting. Not that he needs all the sugar. Big lesson here for me.
Happy Valentines Day and I hope your children have a happy and safe day.
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Posted on: Wed, 02/14/2007 - 5:11am
momll70's picture
Joined: 09/26/2006 - 09:00

How crazy is this? I just went on their website Frito Lay (Rold Gold) and looked at their ingrediants for those types of pretzils and it says corn oil. They may have changed since I last looked at the label. I hope this is true. But this doesn't change the way I feel about trusting other people though. Maybe she did read the ingrediants and saw that it didn't say peanuts, tree nuts or sunflower oil. I'll have to check next time I go to the store. This will give me more options for my son.
[This message has been edited by momll70 (edited February 14, 2007).]

Posted on: Wed, 02/14/2007 - 5:38am
PennMom's picture
Joined: 08/01/2006 - 09:00

We have a bag of Rold Gold "classic style" tiny twists pretzels (small original pretzel shape)from our bag: Ingredients: enriched flour (wheat flour, niacin, reduced iron, thiamin mononitrate, riboflavin, folic acid), salt, corn syrup, corn oil, yeast, malt extract, sodium bicarbonate, ammonium bicarbonate, and artificial flavor. Contains a wheat ingredient,
Of course check each individual bag- but just some information from a bag we have.

Posted on: Wed, 02/14/2007 - 6:36am
Lori Jo's picture
Joined: 09/17/2003 - 09:00

I basically don't trust anyone else to feed dd. No exceptions (well, besides my mom who totally "gets it"). I just say nicely that I would hate to put that amount of responsibility on them to make a life and death decision regarding what dd can eat. Put like that, I don't really get any arguments from people. While there may be some instances where it could possibly be safe, I don't have the time and energy to follow up/check labels/grill the person about the food. Much easier to smile and say "Oh, gee, that's so nice, but no can do." We do keep certain treats on hand that dd is only allowed for parties, etc, so as far as I can tell it doesn't bother her to have separate food.
Lori Jo,
Rose, 7-31-02, PA
Beatrice & Georgia, 8-14-99

Posted on: Wed, 02/14/2007 - 11:12am
Peg541's picture
Joined: 12/29/2002 - 09:00

My son is 22 now but he knew from age 5 that he was to take food from no one but mommy.
We broadened that a bit once he started visiting friends homes but not much.
Never in school. He ate what I sent and took nothing else.
He never complained. It just worked out that way. I'd advise when kids are little and learning to use this rule. Give it a try.
I know he was not happy all the time but he knew the chance he would be taking.
Then give him things to say to adults who are trying to get him to take food from them. My son always said "No thank you I can't" It seemed to work.

Posted on: Wed, 02/14/2007 - 11:54pm
momll70's picture
Joined: 09/26/2006 - 09:00

Thanks everyone for yor replies. Thanks PennMom for posting the ingrediants too. I will be reading all the bags when I go to the supermarket.

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