Letters to parents re PA

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Does anyone have one that they have written?

As you all know ds will start Kindergarten this Sept. The school will send a letter home the first day of school asking that pa products and products with his other allergies are not brought in. I just thought I would send a letter home also from us. Just to make it a little more personnal and explain everything and offer to answer any questions anyone has. That way maybe people will be a little more postive about the situation and not feel like we are trying to invade there private life or anything. Arrangements have been made for me to stay with him the entire first day. That was the schools idea and they asked me to stay on the first day. Which I thought was awsome.

Any help or advice will be greatly appreciated. I have so much stuff to get ready before Sept.....

I made flyers with his picture on it and a list of his allergies and what would happen if he came into contact with offending foods and what to look for as far as symptoms. These will be posted in the classrooms and one will be given to every teacher or aide that will be around him during the day. He will have his own treat box in class. OMG now that I am typing and thinking there is more to do than I thought...I better get a move on.

Thanks for all your help [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/smile.gif[/img]

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On Jun 23, 2004

ALLERGYMOM, I need more tea, but YES! I'm fairly sure I raised the question before because there were two excellent letters posted here for me to use last year when my son started at this new school. The principal chose to use the school board letter instead and would not allow me to use a personalized letter.

However, the year before, we did use a personalized letter, which was actually one that another PA.com member vic wrote. I thought it would be effective because it is actually signed by the PA child.

Have to get that tea, but I'll try tonight to get back in here and find either the threads from last Fall or check My Documents to see if I still have copies of vic's letters of introduction.

Personally, I found them a lot more powerful than a generic school board letter, but apparently what the he** do I know. [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/wink.gif[/img]

Best wishes! [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/smile.gif[/img]

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On Jun 23, 2004

This one was posted somewhere here by Kathryn:-

Dear Parents and Children We have a child in Grade 3 this year, ]name of child], who has life-threatening, anaphylactic allergies to all peanuts. To help keep him safe, we are requesting that these items not be brought into Ms. x's classroom. We are also requesting that all Grade 3 students not bring nut or peanut products to school for recess snacks and lunch. Asking your children who have eaten nut or peanut products at home, before coming to school, to thoroughly wash their hands and faces, is another way you can help make our school safer for [name of student]. We ask this because [student] might react to very small amounts of peanut/nut proteins. Peanut/nut proteins, if they are transferred to hands or clothing and then to other surfaces, are very stable and durable which means that they can remain active for quite a while. This can create problems for [name of student] if he touches contaminated surfaces and rubs his eyes or puts his hands to his mouth. [Student's]peanut allergy is serious. He has almost died in the past during an anaphylactic reaction. He must avoid any contact peanuts. Anaphylaxis can begin within seconds of exposure and can cause death within minutes. Allergic individuals have been known to react to microscopic amounts of food proteins that they have eaten, smelled and/or touched. Smelling peanut butter or touching items (like desks, pencils, computer keyboards, sports equipment etc.) contaminated by peanut products can be harmful to [student]. For these reasons he carries epinephrine in a pre-loaded device called an Epi-Pen. Epinephrine when administered, gives an individual some time to reach a hospital emergency room where doctors will try to stop the anaphylactic reaction. An Epi-Pen alone does not stop a reaction. Please read food labels carefully because surprising things contain nuts or peanuts. Groundnuts, goobers, and arachis are other names for peanuts. Vegetable or plant protein should be considered a nut or peanut unless the label specifies that it is another protein. Nut and peanut flours, oils and extracts must be avoided. Please also avoid foods that are labeled

On Jun 23, 2004

This is the one from vic, also posted somewhere here:-

Dear Parents, September 2003.

I would like to make you aware of a health issue that we will be learning about this year. I have a severe food allergy to peanuts, their products, and oils. Strict avoidance is the only way to prevent an allergic reaction. The allergy is life threatening.

My body reacts to peanuts like some people do to bee stings, as if they were poisons. Not only eating these products, but touching or being touched by them cause me to have deadly reactions. These reactions, called anaphylaxis, affect several systems in my body. The symptoms can show up quickly or progress slowly. Some of my symptoms include, hives, swelling of my throat, lips, and tongue, and wheezing with difficultly breathing, just to name a few. For this reason we need to be most cautious with our classroom snacks, party foods, and lunches.

Out of the 21-plus meals we eat each week, five of those will be consumed at P.D. Public School. Each time he or she chooses to bring a lunch or snack without peanuts, your child plays an important part in decreasing the risk to me.

Reading ingredient statements for food and non-food items is extremely important. We can provide a Safe Snack and Lunch List which includes a list of peanut-/tree nut-free food alternatives. If you have any questions or concerns, please do not hesitate to contact Mr. T or Mrs. Cindy Cook at

I want to participate fully in all of our class activities this year. With your help, we can keep our classroom safe for everyone.

I appreciate your understanding and cooperation.

My name is Jesse Cook. I am seven years old.

Sincerely,

Yes, that's the one from vic that I used for Jess in Grade Two and was NOT allowed to use this year.

I actually did present the principal with copies of both vic's version and Kathryn's version and he still wouldn't allow it.

However, they are not the only two introduction letters posted on this board. There is a thread (or threads) running somewhere about this.

I need my tea!

Hope this begins to help regardless. [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/smile.gif[/img]

Best wishes! [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/smile.gif[/img]

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On Jun 23, 2004

Cin thank you. I know that you have alot on your mind right now but you still took the time to post these letters for me. What a nice person you are [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/smile.gif[/img] Thank you so much [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/biggrin.gif[/img] They will truly help me [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/smile.gif[/img]

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On Jun 24, 2004

Another suggestion would be to ask the teacher to say a few words at parent night or back to school night. This evening usually occurs very early in the school year and is a good way for others to put a face with your child's name. I have done this for the past 3 years and have found parents extremely supportive and willing to help.

On Jun 24, 2004

After a few days at school would your child be 'brave' enough to talk to the class? My son did that. Just explained to his new school friends what would happen if he came in contact, what stuff he couldn't eat. He opened his pouch and showed them where he kept his epipens, his medic alert braclet,etc.

Kids are awesome, and they want to help their friends. They don't want to take peanut butter sandwiches to school if it could hurt a friend.

Another suggestion is for the teacher to read some age appropriate books at storytime to the class, ie. No Nuts for Me!

Good luck.

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On Jun 24, 2004

With the introduction letter, I have also attached a BE A PAL sticker from FAAN. Some children ended up having them on their lunch boxes for the whole year.

What we did when Jess entered Grade Two here was we called the local newspaper and asked if they would be interested in doing an article re PA. This was done just in time for him going into school so that when you walked into the classroom, his teacher had put the article up. It was done in a series about "back to school" in our local newspaper. The one the week before had been about homeschooling.

In the past I have also given the principal videos to watch and certainly the teacher videos and books to show the children in the classroom.

I know there are a few members that do this, I haven't, but there are parents that go in and actually speak to the class (I'm thinking Deb O for some reason) at the beginning of the school year.

Best wishes! [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/smile.gif[/img]

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On Jun 24, 2004

Thanks for all of your advice. It will all help me out [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/smile.gif[/img]

I bought the book Allie the Allergic Elephant a couple months ago for his class. I will ask the teacher to read it the first day.

Scotts mom I love that idea [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/smile.gif[/img] My son has no problem talking in front of people.......lol Thats a good one Thanks

missingpbmom thats a good idea also. There is so much to do. I like to hear that people have a positive exper with other parents. I am so afraid of whats going to happen. BC DS has MFA and the school and I are asking for not just no peanuts but no tree nuts, eggs, shellfish or fish be brougt in also. He is ana to all of these foods. I just hope it goes over well. The school is not really worried bc most people dont send eggs, fish and shellfish to school. So I am just keeping my fingers crossed and trying to put a face one all the allergies so that no one forgets he is a child and a real person.

Cin thanks for all that you do [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/smile.gif[/img]

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On Jun 24, 2004

ALLERGYMOM, sounds like you might want to speak with katiee. I do know that one of her children was in a class this year (ending to-day, I assume) that had all of the allergic children from that particular grade in the classroom and the list of foods that were not okay was quite extensive. katiee has posted about it here. I know chicken was one of the items. A child that was anaphylactic to chicken.

I'm sure she's not the only member that could help you, but it just might be interesting to get her perspective on how that classroom did work (I know that her PA child was not in the classroom - different grade). She's a PA parent and yet, in this particular instance, she was sending a non-PA child into a classroom that was a lot more than "peanut free".

Did I happen to mention it here somewhere that I love it when people call me Cin? [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/cool.gif[/img]

I honestly do. Long story why probably. Totally off topic and I do have shopping to do. [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/smile.gif[/img]

Best wishes! [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/smile.gif[/img]

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On Jun 24, 2004

Sorry. Posters for the classroom?

I know I posted the link to one website run by another PA.com member where you can print off posters for free quite some time ago.

I also think Jana R. has one as well and the posters are awesome. I would have loved to have been able to use them at my children's school this year rather than the "standard issue" ones the board uses. However. [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/frown.gif[/img]

Best wishes! [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/smile.gif[/img]

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On Jun 24, 2004

ALLERGYMOM:

Just wanted to add our short note to my sons' fellow 1st grade parents. My approach might be outside of your comfort level, but I wanted to add this to the thread as an alternative. We chose to keep it quite short and not go into many details. Our reasoning (again, this is just what works for us) is this:

1) We are comfortable w/"may contains" in the classroom as (for our son) we feel it poses very little risk if he is not ingesting them. 2)My son feels comfortable w/others eating PB on an individual basis (although in preschool, we asked for no PB, even for personal snacks). The teachers, as well as my son were very aware and watched that hands were washed, etc. Many, if not most of the parents did not send in PB for personal snacks out of courtesy. 3)I want to make sure to point out that my family/my son has a good management plan.In preschool (where we were more restrictive...which was certainly appropriate) we found that some parents were afraid to include my son in outside playdates after learning of his allergy.

Anyways, it is a different tactic, but wanted to share it with you anyway.

Good luck with your letter!

Kelly

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Hello fellow 1st grade parents:

I wanted to send a quick note to inform you that my son (a classmate of your child) has a severe peanut allergy. Unfortunately reactions can be triggered by contact with his skin, as well as ingestion. He is able to manage it quite well, however, I would like to ask your cooperation in refraining from sending birthday treats that contain obvious peanuts (such as PB cookies, etc). Although he always has a supply of treats to choose from, an entire room full of 1st graders eating peanut products at the same time could trigger a reaction. (This note is only in reference to those types of treats that would be supplied to the entire class NOT personal snacks and lunches.) Thank you in advance for you consideration!

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On Jun 24, 2004

Still thinking - I've also found the Safe Snack and Lunch List posted here, revised for specific countries and comfort zones to be a helpful hand-out.

Best wishes! [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/smile.gif[/img]

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On Jun 24, 2004

Allergymom,

Good luck with everything! I can't offer any advice since my ds isn't in school yet. But, from your posts, I think things will go over well with the other parents because you seem very calm and respectful of others. [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/smile.gif[/img]Keep us posted!

------------------ Meg, mom to: Matt 2 yrs. PA,MA,EA Sean 2 yrs. NKA

On Jun 24, 2004

Still thinking. I think I actually posted the school board district's letter re the "peanut free" classroom here because there were a couple of glaring errors that I was upset about (i.e., no coconut in a "peanut free" classroom; why I don't know, except the principal did believe he was an allergist as well [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/mad.gif[/img] )

I see where kelly01 is coming from and her approach to her son's allergy and then, of course, light bulb moment for me, although thought about it quickly and wouldn't have done anything different for our family and my son personally.

But I have often complained here about Jesse's lack of birthday party invitations in particular and certainly play-dates and wonder if the years where he was identified by name had anything to do with this.

Then, thinking about this last school year, which the kids just finished to-day, and you know what? No. Jesse was invited to one birthday party all year. My daughter was not invited to any. Play-dates they had with one set of siblings later in the year.

Last year, when we did specifically identify Jesse in the letter that went home and also had the newspaper article done, it's not like he had a GREAT number of birthday party invitations, but he certainly had a couple, as did my daughter.

I really think it does have a lot to do with the school community you're dealing with.

Since Jess will be in Grade 4 this coming Fall, I'm really unsure as to what I'll be putting into place for him (or trying to put into place) at school. Obviously, a "peanut free" classroom but not sure about anything else at this point, probably because I don't even know what school the kids will be going to.

Best wishes! [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/smile.gif[/img]

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On Jun 25, 2004

mommyofmatt you are so sweet [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/wink.gif[/img] Thank you

I just dont want people to feel as though I am stepping on their toes or trying to force them into something. I dont like conflict and I want to work together. But if push comes to shove I can be a fiesty little women [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/smile.gif[/img] and if I am pushed I will push back.

Good thing about my situation is pa ds went to preschool with several of the kids that will start school with him and some were in my class when I was a preschool teacher. So several people are already aware of his allergies.

So far I have not had a problem with social outings(birthday parties). That may change in Kinder but in preschool it was never a problem.

edited to fix typos

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On Jun 25, 2004

I know exactly what you mean Allergymom. I hate confrontations and "bothering" people. But it's something I'll have to get better with. Anyway, keep us posted.

------------------ Meg, mom to: Matt 2 yrs. PA,MA,EA Sean 2 yrs. NKA

On Jun 25, 2004

ALLERGYMOM, people may find this hard to believe about me, but I am so non-confrontational in *real* life it is unbelievable. I do believe that PA has made me become more *assertive* if you will, when it comes to what I believe is okay or not okay when it comes to stuff going on with my son, particularly at school.

I also tend to believe in not overwhelming people with a lot of information, unless I think (or the school administrators think) they need the information. The Safe Snack and Lunch List is a lengthy document and at the beginning of the school year, you get SO much paperwork it is unreal. However, I think when presented with it *properly*, it can be so helpful to other non-PA parents and people that really do want to try to keep your child safe.

What I liked about the personalized letter that I got from vic was that it put a face and a name, along with a short explanation as to why the classroom was "peanut free" to everything. It simply wasn't another letter from the school that really leaves people wondering, sometimes for the whole year, who the PA child is in the classroom. I also really felt as though it humanized things a lot. I don't know.

The wonderful thing is, if your child will not be changing schools a lot, is that the education you do the first year, you don't have to do to the same degree year after year after year. Things start to fall neatly into place as your child moves through the grades with other children who are already well aware of his allergies. I saw this happen even with Jesse in JK, SK and then for the first two months of Grade One. People just "knew".

I honestly believe that one of my biggest reasons for the insurmountable difficulties I would seem to have with the schools is because we do change schools yearly. Chrikey, doing it again this Fall. [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/frown.gif[/img]

Anyway, children now fighting, Lizzie McGuire must be over, and dinner should be served.

Best wishes! [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/smile.gif[/img]

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