letter to the editor...(not from me)

Posted on: Mon, 04/02/2007 - 9:15am
chanda4's picture
Joined: 12/14/2006 - 09:00

Well, the son of one of the moms who confronted me(see my other post...my school saga continues)...well, he wrote a letter to the editor, here is the link...
it's twords the bottom "my allergy"

I'd like some honest opinions, you know my school, my issues and here is his "side". He's entitled, I'm not bother by him writing the paper, but I am by what he said(again...are these parents, even of allergic children mis-educated??? Or am I out of line trying to protect my son??)

PS I never asked anyone to stop serving peanuts, remember, no bans for me. I did ask for a safe place for my son, that is all(at the basketball game, in the lunchroom, in his class).....but to these people, even that is too much.

EDIT, here is the letter...
Taking care of

my allergy

My name is Ryan Lee, I am a fourth-grader at Meridian Elementary. I think it would be helpful for (Mr. and Mrs. Organ) to hear from a kid who has a severe peanut allergy and has made it all the way to fourth grade.

I have heard all of the kids at school upset about the new changes in the lunchroom. I have heard my parents talk about their concerns. One of the best things my parents did for me was teach me about my allergy. Whether I go to school, Target, the rec center, the park or Coors Field people are there eating peanuts. That is the world, so it is up to me to make sure I am not excluded from anywhere. I take care of myself.

My parents have taught me how to watch for symptoms so if I touch something I immediately get medicine and help. As far as the schools, I have never felt anything but safe there. The teachers, staff and kids are always concerned for me. The lunchroom has always had a peanut-free zone for me if I feel I need to sit there.

I feel sad that everyone is forgetting about the fact that we want to make sure every kid is safe. Meridian has always done that. When there is a snack in the class, there are many times I just don't have any because I am not sure if I can

Posted on: Mon, 04/02/2007 - 10:02am
Carefulmom's picture
Joined: 01/03/2002 - 09:00

I do know about your school saga and about the horrible moms who confronted you and were way out of line, but about this article, what is Ryan`s point? I must be missing it. I don`t see what he is getting at. He has learned to live with allergy, okay fine. Is he saying he objects to the way the lunchroom is now? (I remember they were going to make some lunchroom changes next year, right?). I`m not really sure what his point is. Another thing to consider is maybe he did not even write the letter. Maybe his parents did. To me, it does not sound like the wording of a 4th grader. Just my opinion. I cannot imagine my dd writing a letter like that. But assuming he did write it, I don`t really find it offensive. I take it to mean that he doesn`t mind if people sell peanuts at events and he doesn`t mind if he can`t have a certain snack in class. That`s okay. I wonder how much he would mind peanuts at school events if he had an airborne reaction from all the peanut dust in the air and he could no longer go to these events. That would be a different story, wouldn`t it? I know my dd minds when kids can have things she cannot have, but she accepts it (remembering that she has a food free room so this stuff is eaten outside or in the caf). She would never on her own write a letter like this though.
[This message has been edited by Carefulmom (edited April 02, 2007).]

Posted on: Mon, 04/02/2007 - 10:04am
Peanut Militia's picture
Joined: 03/06/2007 - 09:00

That was not written by an uncoached 4th grader.
You are not a mom who is not teaching her child
I feel they have done this because they know you read the letter to the editor
There are minor league teams who have peanut free or food free areas--why not professional?
He mentioned the peanut free zone--are these the parents who do not want the cold lunch tables.
Remember--they are not your fight. If the school sets the policy, then it is the policy. Focus on the goal--not the little people

Posted on: Mon, 04/02/2007 - 10:07am
Carefulmom's picture
Joined: 01/03/2002 - 09:00

Okay, sorry chanda4. I did not realize that "Mr. and Mrs. Organ" was you and your husband. Now I see your comment added as "Chanda Organ". Yes, I would be offended. I`ll bet you anything that Ryan`s parents wrote it.
Edited to add: Look at this sentence. "If your son would ever like to speak with me about how to be responsible for his allergy I would be happy to do that."
I`ll bet you the parents wrote it. I cannot fathom a 4th grader saying that. It sounds very parental.
[This message has been edited by Carefulmom (edited April 02, 2007).]

Posted on: Mon, 04/02/2007 - 10:07am
Peanut Militia's picture
Joined: 03/06/2007 - 09:00

Hit submit without adding hugs.

Posted on: Mon, 04/02/2007 - 10:20am
Peanut Militia's picture
Joined: 03/06/2007 - 09:00

Soooo missed that Mr and Mrs Organ part--- Have you ever mentioned them by name? What is the newspaper's policy on pointing out children without approval--probably why they have your names in ( ). Depending on what you have said (permision by inclusion), it is my opinion you should call the editor and ask them to stop using your name due to the damage it could cause you son. Make it a 'for the sake of the child' argument. Be calm when you call. If you have used your son's name this is probably out the window unless you appeal to "I am changing my ways".
This is just my opinion,
[This message has been edited by Peanut Militia (edited April 03, 2007).]

Posted on: Mon, 04/02/2007 - 10:22am
Carefulmom's picture
Joined: 01/03/2002 - 09:00

Sorry, I decided to delete this post in case anyone from your school comes to this thread.
[This message has been edited by Carefulmom (edited April 02, 2007).]

Posted on: Mon, 04/02/2007 - 10:28am
chanda4's picture
Joined: 12/14/2006 - 09:00

thank you for the post [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/wink.gif[/img]

Posted on: Mon, 04/02/2007 - 11:10am
Momcat's picture
Joined: 03/15/2005 - 09:00

The letter is not logical. Consider this,
I would never ask Coors Field to stop selling peanuts to all of the people, however, I am not going to stop going to see my favorite team play.
Is the writer suggesting that if someone with a peanut allergy is "responsible" that they will somehow be protected from a reaction at a stadium filled with peanuts? The writer assumes that his sensitivity to peanuts is the same as that of your son. You know from experience that your son could not tolerate this type of exposure.

Posted on: Mon, 04/02/2007 - 11:39am
chanda4's picture
Joined: 12/14/2006 - 09:00

I think what bothers me the most, from this letter and from the comments they made to me that night...they assume that all allergies are the same, like this boy is the blue-print for peanut allergies. and if my son is so sensitive, that he should remain home...his mom said that to me that night. So my son has no right to be at school, in the lunchroom, in the classroom, at a ball game, or at Target. I will shelter him when it's necessary for his safety, but school shouldn't be one of those places, it shouldn't. Especially if we can do so without a ban...but what choice are they giving me? If the lunchroom won't remain the way it is(cold lunch table, hot lunch table, peanut-free table) then the pb will need to be removed, I see no other solution....I was *trying* to do this without a ban, but they are giving me no choice. Can you imagine if it comes to that?? I don't even want to think about it, it sends chills down my spine! HUGS [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/smile.gif[/img]
EDIT and if it does come to that, in order to keep him safe from just the peanut butter...hwo the heck do we handle the other allergies?? We can't ban everything, I don't know what to do.
Chanda(mother of 4)
Sidney-8 (beef and chocolate, grasses, molds, weeds, guinea pig & asthma)
Jake-6 (peanut, all tree nuts, eggs, trees, grasses, weeds, molds, cats, dogs, guinea pig & eczema & asthma)
Carson-3 1/2 (milk, soy, egg, beef and pork, cats, dog, guinea pig and EE)
Savannah-1 (milk and egg)
[This message has been edited by chanda4 (edited April 02, 2007).]

Posted on: Mon, 04/02/2007 - 11:41am
TwokidsNJ's picture
Joined: 05/28/2005 - 09:00

HUH? I'm confused.
Why would a 4th grader write a letter TO YOUR SON, TO THE EDITOR? Are the kids friends?
Chanda, my opinion is I would not engage with these people at all. Work only with the school. Be careful what you post here - post only what you'd want to see in the press. JMO, I see a lot of ranting and raving here and I can't follow you half the time, so not sure if you'd want everyone reading what you write.
I'd be pretty upset the paper printed a letter about my CHILD without my permission.


Peanut Free and Nut Free Community

Click on one of the categories below to see all topics and discussions.

Latest Discussions

Latest Post by Italia38 Wed, 01/15/2020 - 11:03am
Comments: 10
Latest Post by Italia38 Wed, 01/15/2020 - 10:52am
Comments: 2
Latest Post by penelope Tue, 01/14/2020 - 1:03pm
Comments: 1
Latest Post by penelope Sun, 12/29/2019 - 6:21pm
Comments: 2
Latest Post by sunshinestate Sun, 12/29/2019 - 6:00pm
Comments: 3
Latest Post by Italia38 Sun, 12/29/2019 - 5:44pm
Comments: 5
Latest Post by justme Tue, 12/17/2019 - 3:41pm
Comments: 4
Latest Post by justme Tue, 12/17/2019 - 2:39pm
Comments: 45

Peanut Free Store

More Articles

If you have a food allergy, you will probably need to make some changes to your diet...

When love is in the air we can get caught up in the moment and throw caution to the wind. However, if you have a...

Do you have a child with peanut allergies and an upcoming birthday? Perhaps you'd like to bake a...

Many doctors treat allergies, including pediatricians and general practice doctors. When allergies are severe, primary care physicians often refer...

If you are looking for a way to support food allergy education and awareness, you may be interested in a documentary created by a young filmmaker...

The most frightening thing about a severe allergic reaction to a new food is that it can happen so fast. If parents are not looking for allergic...

Skin rashes and itching are common allergic reactions to peanut butter. According to the Mayo Clinic, reactions to peanut butter can happen within...

A low oxalate diet may be recommended to prevent kidney stones from forming. Oxalates are chemicals found in plant-based foods. These may collect...

So many wonderful recipes call for peanut butter. These recipes can still be enjoyed by experimenting with peanut butter replacements.


According to the Asthma and Allergy Foundation of America, one out of five people in the U.S. has an allergy. Because there is a...

Hydrogenated vegetable oil sounds healthy because of the word "vegetable" in it. The truth is that it is not very healthy at all because it...

Foods with soy lecithin may need to be avoided if you have a soy allergy. Soy lecithin is present in many different foods. Since it is derived...

At some point in time, most people will suffer from food intolerance or a food allergy. Having an unpleasant reaction to something you have eaten...

The Jaffe Allergy Technique or Jaffe Mellor Technique (JMT) is an alternative approach to addressing symptoms of a variety of health issues, both...

Phenols found in healthy fruits, vegetables and grains could point to food allergies...

Allergies and anxiety are often experienced together, yet there is no scientific evidence that either condition causes the other. The enduring tie...

Tree nuts and peanuts are distinctly different. An allergy to one does not guarantee an allergy to the other. Peanuts are considered legumes and...

What can you eat if you can't eat peanut butter? Fortunately for people with a peanut allergy, there...

A few years ago, a 47-year-old Toronto woman received a lifesaving double-lung transplant. After the transplant, she suffered four anaphylactic...

Whether it's the holiday season, birthdays, or a dinner party, there's always a need for good gift ideas but it gets a bit more challenging when...