Language Learned at School

Posted on: Tue, 12/09/2003 - 5:43am
sport's picture
Joined: 10/01/2002 - 09:00

Are you discouraged by things your children learn at school that is not taught by the teacher? You know like ugly words, and ugly jokes. My child came home and asked me what a word meant last week, and I almost died. I did not tell him what it meant only that it was very ugly and never to say it. How do you handle this? I do not talk ugly myself and I sure do not allow my children to.

Posted on: Tue, 12/09/2003 - 6:26am
Peg541's picture
Joined: 12/29/2002 - 09:00

Long ago I taught my kids that because they heard it somewhere else, any kind of bad language or behavior was not welcome in our home. They caught on pretty quickly. They also learn by example. I treated my children with respect and honor and expected the same from them. At least your child asked what the word was instead of using it.
I also remember problems with kids who came to play with one of my children and thought it was fun to tease the other. ie: DD has a friend over who insists on speaking rudely or teasing DS.
I stopped that in it's tracks. If you came to my home to play you spoke to everyone in the home with respect.

Posted on: Tue, 12/09/2003 - 9:20am
anonymous's picture
Joined: 05/28/2009 - 16:42

A story which kind of relates to what you are talking about, but on a more humorous note:
Ryan came home from school a few weeks ago and said someone wrote "bad" words on the bathroom wall (or door, something like that.) Not knowing for sure if my son knew what words are considered swear words, the following conversation ensued.
I asked him, "What words? It's okay you can tell me..."
"The S word, Mom"
"Oh...what's the S word, Ryan?"
"Stupid." **** Thank you, Lord!*** "They also wrote the D word."
"What word is that, Ryan?"
Well, at least I know for sure it wasn't my child writing bad words on the wall, 'cause dumb and stupid don't make the swear word list.
I have long accepted that the kids will learn these words, but we're very strict that no gutter-mouth language is brought through the door of our home. So, especially with my older girls, if they're repeating foul language which I know they hear, they're not doing it in front of me.

Posted on: Tue, 12/09/2003 - 12:09pm
StaceyK's picture
Joined: 05/06/2003 - 09:00

I'm hoping that by choosing a conservative and Christian school we will cut down on some of this, but I am not naiive enough to think it won't go on at all. I agree with what Peg had to say!

Posted on: Tue, 12/09/2003 - 12:12pm
StaceyK's picture
Joined: 05/06/2003 - 09:00

PS. I am in for a rough ride with schools & other kids, and I know it. I do not approve of how a good % of kids are raised now, and I don't agree with popular culture, music and movies, and tv and Brittney Spears and the clothing that kids wear (don't get me started on A&F)~ so not only am I going to cringe when they hear bad words, I am going to really hate it when they are exposed to this icky and vacant culture through other kids. ACK. The choices seem bad all around: either bubble kid or kid in tune with a declining culture. Like I said, I'm in for a rough ride.

Posted on: Wed, 12/10/2003 - 4:55am
nancy023's picture
Joined: 12/12/2002 - 09:00

My six year old thinks the "F" word is FAT. Cracks me up.

Posted on: Wed, 12/10/2003 - 6:14am
MommaBear's picture
Joined: 09/23/2002 - 09:00

Chiming in that my 4 year old learned his first cuss word [i]already[/i].
"Bu!! &h!^" (Well actually, he was really hungry in the store and all I had was a single piece of candy to give him. [img][/img] Didn't want to stop for "fast food". He grabbed the candy, eyeballed it, and threw it across the isle (during the pre dinner rush at the grocery store) declaring: "Too small! I'm hungry! This is [b]Bu!! &h!^[/b]!" Crosses arms and wrinkles up that sweet little face.
[i]Oh, if you only knew how cute, even when terrible.[/i]
Ya, I know, just wait.
So much for the speech delay. [img][/img]
Older cub hasn't muttered a single one yet (age 8).
Might be child specific.
PS.......... NOW WHERE ON EARTH DO YA THINK THE LITTLE GUY PICKED UP ON THAT? [img][/img] [img][/img] [img][/img] [img][/img]
Do as I say, (literally), not as I do (verbally).

Posted on: Wed, 12/10/2003 - 7:54am
Anonymous's picture
Anonymous (not verified)

When my oldest started school (at 3 1/2) he learned that whole new language. He used a word (probably started with F) and I said "what does that mean?" "what" "what does F*** mean? I don't know that word." "It means I'm mad"
I suggested that he say "I'm mad" because I do understand that.
This entire conversation was repeated twice (each time he used that word). Finally, he walked away shaking his head saying something about mothers, but I'm not sure what. [img][/img]
I never heard him swear again until he was bigger than me. [img][/img] And he doesn't do it very often. [img][/img]

Posted on: Thu, 12/11/2003 - 12:16pm
KateB's picture
Joined: 05/11/2004 - 09:00

I always taught my sons that swear words are used by people with a limited vocabulary, and since they were so smart (and they still are [img][/img]) they didn't need to use those words - they knew better ones. They are now young men and don't swear (in front of me at least!)

Posted on: Thu, 12/11/2003 - 1:36pm
MommaBear's picture
Joined: 09/23/2002 - 09:00

Quote:Originally posted by KateB:
[b]I always taught my sons that swear words are used by people with a limited vocabulary[/b]
I cuss. With what frequency I'm really not sure. Figure if I destined to have a vice, can't think of a more benign one. I have been told my vocabulary is extensive as well as per examination. It's one of my strong points if memory serves me. [img][/img]
I can also cuss [i]creatively[/i] and with great exuberance, emulating the most literary of our species. [img][/img] Such promulgation occurs on those occasions when logic and reason escape my grasp and emotion prevails. As I said, frequency unknown. Not necessarily indicative of a losing situation, just another way to channel what is, for all intents and purposes, me. [img][/img] "Vice" and all.

Posted on: Fri, 12/12/2003 - 1:26am
becca's picture
Joined: 05/22/2001 - 09:00

Have to say I am guilty of my dd muttering "damn" for a few days a week or two ago. I am known to say, "OH sh**" if I stub a toe and these days, if I drop anything and have to bend over, LOL.
So, I think I subbed damn, sort of thinking it a softer swear, and truly trying to not do it at all. Usually sucessful at sayng, "Shoot!" Which is sorta funny to hear dd say, but then I still realize even that is not so "nice" sounding out of the mouth of a child!
But I had a great chuckle when dd and her friend were just appalled and totally indignant as they rode home it the car. They were discussing how a boy in the class said "'sgusting!" to dd. Apparently, he told her that her show and tell was disgusting(a red barrell of monkeys for red day). Not sure why he thought that but apparently said it out loud.
The two of them must have repeated the word a hundred times with this indignancy, "He said it was 'sgsuting!" "Yeah, 'sgusting!" "Hmph!"
I know they were thinking it was a *really bad word* they way they kept trying to use it over and over in the conversation and waiting for my reaction. Of course, I was actually more concerned with knowing what really happened and what the teacher did. I thought is wa so sad that another child told my 4 yo dd her S&T was disgusting. I so loved how her friend was really sticking up for her and sounding so protective of her and angry at the other kid too. It was all very cute for one of the trials and tribulations of childhood.
I now know this other boy is a huge behavior issues in class and teachers are very aware and working on it. He is routinely disciplined and parent involved. I suspect a LD/ADHD or other behavior diagnosis is imminent, honestly. Now I feel bad for him because I know the other kids avoid him, hide, etc....
Off on a tangent, but the bad word thing made me think of that story. becca
[This message has been edited by becca (edited December 12, 2003).]



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