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Posted on: Sat, 10/01/2005 - 8:43pm
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Well, I thought I had this one covered by now, but it turns out that I'm not too sensible after a drink.
I know that it is nothing more than pure luck on my part that I have not had a reaction in the past couple of weeks, and this behaviour really isn't like me at all - I usually am so sensible but I've been quite thoughtless very recently.
There have been a few nights out this week which have all led to kissing lads, mainly because I've drunk too much, which also means that I haven't checked for nuts more than once this fortnight with the lads.
My friends have been there every time, and yesterday they gave me a long lecture (which I definitely needed!).
I guess my point is that I have really shocked myself and let myself down over something I used to be so careful about.
Any thoughts? (Adult type lectures are also welcome - apparently at 20 we think we are more intelligent than we actually are, otherwise this wouldn't have happened!)
Take care
Rach

Posted on: Sun, 10/02/2005 - 7:09am
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Hi Rach,
None of us are sensible about anything after a few drinks, which is why I'd caution you to be more careful, even if the lads haven't been eating peanuts!
[This message has been edited by Adele (edited October 02, 2005).]

Posted on: Sun, 10/02/2005 - 10:15am
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Oh, Rach, please, please, please be careful!!! I've had several trips to the ER simply because my boyfriend at something peanut-y that day. I know it's tough sometimes to resist and/or think clearly after a drink or two, but it really is vitally important. Please take care!
-Andromeda

Posted on: Sun, 10/02/2005 - 10:55am
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WARNING - Mommy lecture ahead!!!
Rach, peanuts aren't the only things you're at risk for when drinking, especially in crowded clubs and the like.
Please be careful - we don't want to see you putting yourself in danger. Have you been feeling particularly stressed out? Why do you think you've been acting uncharacteristically?
Take care,
Amy

Posted on: Mon, 10/03/2005 - 3:05am
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Quote:Originally posted by ajgauthier:
[b]I'm not sure how anyone could talk about it with their child, even their adult child...yeeps!
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My oldest son (22) has a latex allergy. So, as well as discussing the *usual* aspects of relationships as he got older, I had to explain to him that he has to carefully read the label of the condoms. He initially got angry with me. But then, later, when he calmed down he thanked me. [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/smile.gif[/img]
And personally, I think guys with food allergies need to have some concern about this type of reaction as well. It may be more common among women - or maybe just more women post here - but I think it [i]could[/i] happen to men as well.
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Rach, consider taking a break from drinking. It could cause you a lot more to worry about then a reaction.

Posted on: Mon, 10/03/2005 - 6:57am
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hi AnnaMarie,
well...it takes just once to forget about the latex allergy when being intimate...it's a very uncomfortable reaction (to say the least) - I am latex sensitive as well as PA/TNA.
One thing I have to deal with (since you brought up condoms)...is that the non-latex polyurethane ones have not been fully tested against STDs and HIV/AIDS. I am not a promiscuous person, so that's not an issue for me really...but...just bringing it up since it is a concern for those with latex sensitivity.
Also - any bar that has bowls of nuts or peanuts out is a problem for me...I have to try not to touch anything or anyone who has had a handful (and they say I'm antisocial *wink*)
Adrienne
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30-year old survivor of sever peanut/tree nut allergy

Posted on: Mon, 10/03/2005 - 6:57am
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Nah, Rach, keep on drinking, just become a very gregarious and open drunk. Practice slurring, "You can't kiss me if you ate those peanuts from the bar" and "Cashew Curry means No Nooky". It worked for me. ;D
ygg

Posted on: Mon, 10/10/2005 - 7:54am
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The peanuts being digested and stored into bodily fluids is a real thing and a real problem!
I "grew into" my peanut allergies when I was 17, and they got worse and worse as I got older. I didn't think anything of the "kissing" muchless anything else, until I had a few bad reactions to various bodily fluids.
I am very outspoken about my PA, however, and before I even agree to go on a date with a guy, I go over my past experiences with him, and warn him of the issues. This means that I typically plan a "first date" atleast a week out - and ask that they please avoid eating items that contain nuts for that week, for my safety incase things proceed, and then give them an idea of other allergies that I have that could affect where we go or what we do on dates. I've learned that most men (atleast those worthy of having any sort of relationship with) are more than willing to watch their diet for the week.
Also, in my current relationship, since my boyfriend is trying very hard to avoid most of the foods I'm allergic to (even the non-nut foods) but can't always (work has food brought in on weekends - he doesn't have a choice in what they order, just whether or not he eats) we do a quick "litmus" test when he arrives home. He'll either kiss my neck or my wrists and see if I break out -- Oftentimes I do, and that is when we know to avoid each other for the evening and see if things are better the next day or not.
He is great about my allergies though and typically reads the ingredients to everything, has me present whenever he is grocery shopping or cooking, to let him know if everything is kopasetic (sp) or not, and calls ahead to friends houses for parties and such to inform them of my allergies and to make sure that I will be taken care of.

Posted on: Mon, 10/10/2005 - 3:39pm
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hi princesshin (oh I already forget the rest of it!)
what a great guy! When I get to dating a guy, I use the peanut allergy as a "dating litmus" test. If the dude can refrain from Reese's, Thai food, and PB&J while he's dating me...he makes his way up on the keeper list. If the dude *can't* remember to refrain from peanuty/nutty foods...well...it shows he's not really interested in keeping on seeing me. It's funny sometimes, I'm all, "what? why do I have a hive? what did you eat today?" I pout a bit, give him one more chance, and figure it out from there.
Flowers? Who needs flowers? I just want to know he didn't cave into his 3pm Reese's or peanut M&M craving at work!
Adrienne :-)
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30-year old survivor of sever peanut/tree nut allergy
[This message has been edited by ajgauthier (edited October 11, 2005).]

Posted on: Wed, 10/12/2005 - 12:20pm
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im totally in agreement with the 2 posts above me-- any guy (or girl) worth your time will be more than considerate of the fact that their diets pose a potential threat to your well-being. It takes a while to "train" a non allergic person on all the things to look for, but if they care, they certainly learn [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/smile.gif[/img].

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