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Posted on: Thu, 01/09/2003 - 5:04am
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Raising for Qinopio.

Posted on: Tue, 06/07/2005 - 11:40pm
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Re-raising for Lola!
Don't know how helpful this will be - but hope it's of some use. And seriously, credit to you for being so considerate of your boyfriend!
Take care
Rach
Just had a look at what I wrote on the topic a few years ago....I was 16, I feel old now - I'm 21 on my next birthday! Oh dear me!
[This message has been edited by Rach (edited June 08, 2005).]

Posted on: Wed, 06/08/2005 - 12:07am
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Rach,
Now that 5 years have passed, how did you find was best to handle the "kissing" problem? My DD is 15 and while we've talked about this a bit, some advice from someone who's been through it and survived would be great! And probably listened to more than a mother's advice, which is automatically suspect.
Thanks. Linda

Posted on: Wed, 06/08/2005 - 12:43am
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I have been obsessing about this for several months- even though DD is 4.5! Can't wait to hear answers!

Posted on: Wed, 06/08/2005 - 2:10am
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Hi, well, needless to say, the occasional incident has occurred, but touch wood, nothing too terrible has happened. Mostly out of the dread of having to tell my parents (even now! lol) that the reason I have had a reaction is because I kissed a guy!
Obviously, I had to get over being shy - it really wasn't worth it!
I had a serious boyfriend of 18 months during sixth form, and he completely gave up nuts, although I know that he took "educated guesses" with may contain products - he avoided may contain chocolate products, but not if it was on something like pasta or rice etc. We only ever had one problem over it when we were in Spain - he ate something containing nuts, as he doesn't speak Spanish and I wasn't with him - also I suspect him and the boys were a little tipsy! The reaction wasn't too bad considering, and I still don't know which nut he consumed - but am almost certain it wasn't a peanut because of the level of the reaction. We met the boys at the club we were going to and we just kissed on the cheek and held hands for a couple of minutes, then it was obvious I was having a reaction, which he then sorted out - took me outside, piriton, A+E and took me back to the apartment, and I was fine really.
Kissing friends on the cheek has led to a few reactions, but they are all generally quite good and if we go to kiss or hug goodbye, if they're not sure of what they've eaten they won't get too close!
I think I have been quite lucky to have had a steady boyfriend during sixth form because I think that's one of the times where you go out a lot, and drinking becomes legal at 18 during sixth form and I really think that affects how careful you are, especially when you're getting to learn your limits!
I think I'm "lucky" in the way that if I've ever had a reaction from kissing, it's always from a kiss on the cheek, or a small kiss on the lips (really not trying to be graphic but I do think it makes a difference!) - I think if things went up a notch, my reactions would have been much worse, but generally because things progress, you get the reaction before things get too intimate!
I know it's got to be hard for the parents when children get to the dating age, and I guess it must have been for mine, but hopefully their knowledge of their allergies and (hopefully) the confidence to say when they are moving out of their comfort zone will help to keep them safe.
Take care
Rach

Posted on: Fri, 06/10/2005 - 10:23am
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hi - I've had similar experiences as Rachel...the hives on the cheek or neck from a beau eating peanuts or nuts during the day. Nothing too severe. I know it's hard for some of the parents on here to think of their child someday being intimate, or that their child is older (like 18 or so) and it's still hard to bring up something you may read here...but let me tell you...and I'll try to be discrete (though this is the Adults Living With forum)...but there are places you really don't want hives, and once I had to go to the ER it was so bad. Try explaining that one to an ER doc without having them chuckle a bit! Additionally...geesh, how do I put this...if you are in a serious & committed relationship, let's say engaged or married...and your significant other (in my case my beau) has had a large enough dose of peanuts or peanut butter, or Pad Thai or something...Unfortunately I speak from first hand experience that the peanut allergen/protein can make it's way to being let out of the human body in a certain way, that could send the peanut allergic person into a really bad, uh, internal reaction (digested or otherwise internal) that could possibly require an ER visit. Not something you would normally think about having a "may contain warning" on it...(I'm actually chuckling outloud at this now...) But really, it can happen...and something for adults to be careful and aware of. I now require my boyfriend to be peanut-free, even though he doesn't "get it" about the allergy sometimes, in those cases, he really "doesn't get it" (if you know what I mean). He'll learn.
Hope the above has helped someone, sorry if it embarrassed anyone...but it is an issue I've dealt with as an Adult With Peanut Allergy.
A
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30-year old survivor of sever peanut/tree nut allergy

Posted on: Fri, 06/10/2005 - 1:24pm
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No way. Never even thought to worry about that.

Posted on: Sat, 06/11/2005 - 9:17am
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yup - I have to worry about it now. My primary care doc, when I brought the issue came up, at first didn't believe that the peanut protein can be digested and processed that way by the body. But...she investigated and consulted with some of her peers/specialists, determined that it can mostly depend on the individual guy, their own metabolism, etc. But yeah, something to think about, but I'm not sure how anyone could talk about it with their child, even their adult child...yeeps!
A

Posted on: Sat, 06/11/2005 - 2:09pm
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[url="http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/Forum1/HTML/001701.html"]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/Forum1/HTML/001701.html[/url]
This old topic is a bit hard to read, but look for the posts toward the end discussing reactions Gwen and I had...
Rebekah

Posted on: Sun, 06/12/2005 - 10:37am
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Thanks Rebekah for that reference! I never searched for this particular topic on here b/c I've pretty much determined I can have a reaction from a guy, after several reactions and then piecing it together. This isn't something many doctors or allergists get asked often, that is why my primary care doctor (a few years ago) brought it up with her colleagues and they thought about it, and thought it was possible, given (1) the amount of peanuts consumed by the guy (2) the amount of time from his ingesting to my contact (3) his own metabolism
Did anyone ever ask Dr. Sue Johanssen or find that Cosmo article?
Also, it was nice to read Gwen and Rebekah's posts about their experiences...everyone thinks I'm a bit kooky on this one since noone else has really heard of it. And by everyone I mean a vague grouping of friends and family (not those here).
Adrienne
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30-year old survivor of sever peanut/tree nut allergy

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