KISSING!

Posted on: Wed, 05/23/2001 - 6:10am
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pI have already said something similar to this in a different thread, but I think I will get more responses here. /p
pAs a 16 year old, I find it extremely hard to ask a boy if he has eaten any nuts before I kiss him. Once he must have eaten some because I was very ill straight away and the symptoms were clearly those of a reaction./p
pSo what I need to know is how to get around this. I really can't picture anything less "sexy" than me demanding to know his eating habits at that crucial moment!/p
pAny help whatsoever would be great as I am missing out on essential teenage experiences!!!/p
pTake carebr /
Rach/p

Posted on: Fri, 05/25/2001 - 1:12am
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It may be easier to discuss the allergy when you're not in the moment, say over dinner or something. Explain what happens etc & what the risks are; kissing is just one of them. It's a lot less threatening & stressful to talk about it beforehand (& nobody gets swept up in the moment). Anyone who's worth kissing would care enough about you to make it their issue, too.

Posted on: Fri, 05/25/2001 - 10:31am
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I don't know how your parents feel about kissing, but I heard a story about a young lady with who kissed a young man who had had a peanut snack. Not only did her lips swell up to the size of elephants and greatly emberrass her on her date, but her parents immediately knew what must have happened when she walked in the door afterward and began demanding details...(Now this occured perhaps 20 years ago, but I know some parents would still ask....)
This is going to be pretty awkward for you if you don't ask, and sould be pretty uncomfortable if you do. Practice a humorous way...if the gentleman can't take it even as a joke, well further contact might be a problem.

Posted on: Sun, 05/27/2001 - 2:42am
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I have dealt with kissing many times, and there is no real solution that I have found. When I was younger, when I told a girl about my allergy they would just look at me like I was odd, and could not grasp what I was saying. Unfortunately, I was unsure of myself, I decided that instead of protecting myself, and ensuring my safety, I would rather take the chance and kiss.(I was afraid of the reaction from friends, if they found out I would not kiss a girl) However, when I was younger, after kissing someone I never swallowed my or their saliva, and when the person was not looking spit it out. There were a few times, I had an oral reaction, but nothing more then that. Now that I am older, I demand that the people I am with brush their teeth, and if I feel they have not done a good enough job, I tell them their breath stinks, that usually gets them into the washroom fast... lol.. But all in all, I have found it better and less risky to minimize the amount of partners you have, and always tell the person you are with about your allergy. If they listen and really make an effort, then it shows they care, and believe me, I know from experience, these are the people you want to date and to fall in love with.

Posted on: Fri, 06/08/2001 - 7:05pm
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I'm not in HS anymore, Rach, but I remember what it was like, so I empathize with you. (I'm 29 now). It is imperative you tell the boy sometime before you kiss him about your allergies, and if he is nonchalant about it, it's been my experience he's probably not worth kissing anyway. My boyfriend in HS once ate Reese's peanut butter cups 20 minutes before he saw me. All he gave me was a quick kiss on closed lips, and I had a violent reaction (though thankfully didn't need the Epi-Pen). And, once in college, my boyfriend ate M&Ms and then leaned down and kissed me without thinking (same thing, quick closed-mouth kiss), and he almost got his teeth knocked down his throat. If a guy doesn't take you seriously, then he's either 1) not very imaginative, 2) not very intelligent, or 3) a completely egomaniacal pig, or 4) all of the above, and not worth the effort anyway (consider him one less frog to kiss!). Good luck and hope all goes well. -- Julie

Posted on: Wed, 07/11/2001 - 2:14am
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Hi Rach
Just wondering how you are getting on lately (what with it being summer and parties are happening etc, etc...). Have you had to deal with this at all yet?
I remember that I was at a party when I was around 17 and I kissed a boy who had obviously been eating pn/tn before hand. Luckily (unluckily??) it was only my lips that it affected, but I swear, I looked like Pamela Anderson after having a bad lip job!! I was so embarrassed that I hid in the toilet for about an hour!!!
Here's hoping that never happens to you.
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Posted on: Wed, 07/11/2001 - 6:26am
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This is such an important topic because as our nut allergic children grow up, we will have to help them handle this very important issue. I think that one of the best lines is "your breath stinks!" and then they should go brush their teeth but is that enough to avoid a reaction in someone who had a snickers bar an hour earlier or who was munching on the M and M's while drinking a beer just before you got close?
Need help so when our son grows up, I know what to say!!

Posted on: Thu, 07/12/2001 - 12:03am
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Well, yes, summer is here, and there are many parties because all of our exams ended a month or so ago.
So, this has come up a few times because of all the parties. There has been only the one close call about three weeks ago - me and a boy were just dancing - holding hands and just dancing, but my hands got itchy and so did my eyes. Thank god I didn't kiss him! I went to casualty anyway, because my friends were worried, and my parents were away, so we couldn't call them (apart from the fact that it would really not impress them). But I was fine, but it has made me more realistic - I have to check right away (I don't "want" to, but it's going to have to be done).
AlwaysAviodAnaphylaxis, I don't think that just having someone brush their teeth is enough - it's unlikely that they will remove very much of the nut traces, and if they are going to be kissing, well, it's just not worth it.
But thanks for asking Gwen! Off to a party tonight as it happens, so fingers crossed.
There is one potential hazzard on the cards for next week so I might make an excuse and not go (which is unlike me because I LOVE parties). My friend who lives about an hour away wants me to stay at hers for a couple of nights, and wants us to go into Oxford at night to a restaurant (Mongolian - I don't have much idea about what sort of food it will be). And she is trying to set me up with some boy I have never met (which I'm not keen on because he is 20 - yup, I know that is older, I'm not so keen). But because he hasn't met me he isn't going to know about my nut allergy, and I hate relying on other people to explain it because you never know if they have got it exactly right or not.
HELP!
Take care
Rach

Posted on: Thu, 07/12/2001 - 8:52am
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Rach, if you are going to go on the blind date, what about asking your friend to give the guy your phone number. That way you could chat before the date, get to know each other and slip in a "oh by the way did my friend tell you I have life threatening allergies?" I always find I can say alot more on the phone than in person.
Do you know any stories of someone else that you could talk about such as-"I know this other girl with LTA that kissed a guy after he had eaten a peanut chocolate bar..."
That way you become the 3rd party in the story but yet get your point across.
Good luck, this is an area I am not looking forward to for my 11 1/2 year old daughter.
Is it legal to lock her up in her room!? LOL
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Posted on: Thu, 08/23/2001 - 4:57pm
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And, of course, there are other, more 'intimate' allergies.
I've read that peanut protein has been detected in semen, possibly causing reactions, but other women are simply allergic to the semen itself.
Hope this isn't too risque. This *is* the adults section. [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/wink.gif[/img]
More info.:
[url="http://allergies.about.com/cs/intimate/index.htm"]http://allergies.about.com/cs/intimate/index.htm[/url]

Posted on: Fri, 08/24/2001 - 9:52am
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Rach I am so glad to hear you raise this question,because I am dreading this day. Are you a very shy girl?? Very important to know in order to help you. Chris is extremely shy and would probably have a hard time with this. YOU KNOW he is only 15 you to would be a match. O.K just kidding and trying to make you smile. I am sure that this is why I have never allowed my son to date. I feel that I have worked so hard to make him safe that I would not handle a girl friend well. In Fear i am sure. I know he is talking to some and the fear of peanut bothers him.
I think that maybe your mom or dad should make an appoint to talk to your boy friend this way cover all basis and teach him. If he is not willing to listen then he is not worth it. Remember the one you end up chosing has to be perfect. Let your parents do it if it embarrasses you. Chris knows me I would.I don't believe in embarrassing things when it comes to the allergy.
Maybe you could invite him over to dinner and explain the measures that you have to take. If you don't want a houseful of people there then maybe your parents would allow you to cook him a safe meal at your house. I know that when i do allow dating it will be so hard to trust a new person in my sons life. Please relationships are hard enough to handle and yours will be even more special if he is willing to listen. Take care and feel free to mail us at home. claire

Posted on: Tue, 09/11/2001 - 5:52am
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Sorry it's taken me so long to see these messages, I've been away!
As for my parents getting involved we really aren't that close - they don't know that I date at all. My friends are pretty good at terrifying the boys I see so much that they are more protective of myself that I am!
I do find it embarassing, but I'm not too shy (well a bit about PA), but it has to be done I guess.
Also it's been quite hard these last couple of days and I think it will be for about another week yet because I have just started college and I have to explain about it to everyone. They are all really understanding, but I would prefer to talk to them about something more interesting than myself! Also it is hard to know how seriously 16 year olds take allergies like mine - lots of adults are bad enough!!
If Chris ever wants to talk to anyone in the same position, then he can feel free to e mail me.
Thanks again guys,
RACH

Posted on: Mon, 04/01/2002 - 3:25pm
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Rach
Take care when asking those questions about
"Have you been eating peanuts?" because you may have to ask what shaving cream your man might use. Here in Australia several brands of shaving creams, including Ladies shaving creams, that contain the dreaded oil.

Posted on: Thu, 04/25/2002 - 2:03am
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See, this is the worrying thing - even though I have had the allergy for years, I aven't had to ask these quesions all that often before!
Sometimes I just don't think (or I decide I've interrogated him enough)
Luckily at the moment I have sort of got a boyfriend, who is very good with the whole thing. I don't think my friends know how jealous of them I am!!!
Take care
Rach

Posted on: Thu, 04/25/2002 - 10:51am
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Is it true that brushing does not get rid of peanut residue? Is there anything that can be done about someone who has recently eaten peanuts?

Posted on: Thu, 04/25/2002 - 11:09am
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Quote:Originally posted by nopeanuts:
[b]Is it true that brushing does not get rid of peanut residue?[/b]
Brushing isn't enough -- small fragments of peanut may be caught in niches, between the teeth, at the gumline, and so on. It depends on how sensitive you are, of course.
Quote:[b] Is there anything that can be done about someone who has recently eaten peanuts?[/b]
Electroshock? A boot to the head? ;->
It depends what your comfort level is, and how sensitive you are. I've heard of some people who just use mouthwash to rinse the mouth out. Too risky for me.

Posted on: Wed, 05/08/2002 - 3:34am
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Anna wrote about peanut protein in semen causing a reaction. My sesame seed allergy was finally detected by what my husband ate. We joked (sort of) that I had developed an allergy to him. Anything *close* and I was red/itchy/blotchy/wheezy. Not exactly the reaction he was after. Turned out when he ate chinese food he would *sweat* sesame.
I found a site that might help any other young people dealing with the dating game.
[url="http://www.fankids.org/FANTeen/"]www.fankids.org/FANTeen/[/url]
Under He Said She Said teens write in questions and get answers from others.

Posted on: Wed, 05/08/2002 - 6:26am
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Wow, AnnaMarie! This is definitely possible. My bf is very careful about what he eats for this reason.
Do you have any other allergies?
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Posted on: Thu, 05/09/2002 - 12:25am
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Allergies to pets (probably revenge cuz I never really liked animals). Sesame seeds and peanuts. DH never liked peanuts or peanut butter so that's never been a problem for us.
I've been thinking (smell the smoke) and it's nice to have our *other half* show their love constantly by avoiding our allergens for us, but I can't imagine dating with this problem. Mine was adult onset somewhere between son #2 and son #3.

Posted on: Mon, 06/17/2002 - 2:44pm
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It is a hard topic to address, but it someone really likes you, they will accept it. If he doesn't really like you, you probably shouldn't be kissing them!

Posted on: Sun, 07/28/2002 - 3:07am
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Well I have just returned from holiday, and there were loads of teenagers, all about my age. Holidays being what they are, there was "romantic" interest, but I couldn't even kiss the lad I liked because I thought of PA and just froze. Although this has bothered me before, it has never stopped me, just made me think twice and ask questions. But this time it was just like any answer he gave wasn't good enough, when I know I have trusted vaguer answers than that in the past.
???
Take care
Rach

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Raising for Qinopio.

Posted on: Tue, 06/07/2005 - 11:40pm
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Re-raising for Lola!
Don't know how helpful this will be - but hope it's of some use. And seriously, credit to you for being so considerate of your boyfriend!
Take care
Rach
Just had a look at what I wrote on the topic a few years ago....I was 16, I feel old now - I'm 21 on my next birthday! Oh dear me!
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Rach,
Now that 5 years have passed, how did you find was best to handle the "kissing" problem? My DD is 15 and while we've talked about this a bit, some advice from someone who's been through it and survived would be great! And probably listened to more than a mother's advice, which is automatically suspect.
Thanks. Linda

Posted on: Wed, 06/08/2005 - 12:43am
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I have been obsessing about this for several months- even though DD is 4.5! Can't wait to hear answers!

Posted on: Wed, 06/08/2005 - 2:10am
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Hi, well, needless to say, the occasional incident has occurred, but touch wood, nothing too terrible has happened. Mostly out of the dread of having to tell my parents (even now! lol) that the reason I have had a reaction is because I kissed a guy!
Obviously, I had to get over being shy - it really wasn't worth it!
I had a serious boyfriend of 18 months during sixth form, and he completely gave up nuts, although I know that he took "educated guesses" with may contain products - he avoided may contain chocolate products, but not if it was on something like pasta or rice etc. We only ever had one problem over it when we were in Spain - he ate something containing nuts, as he doesn't speak Spanish and I wasn't with him - also I suspect him and the boys were a little tipsy! The reaction wasn't too bad considering, and I still don't know which nut he consumed - but am almost certain it wasn't a peanut because of the level of the reaction. We met the boys at the club we were going to and we just kissed on the cheek and held hands for a couple of minutes, then it was obvious I was having a reaction, which he then sorted out - took me outside, piriton, A+E and took me back to the apartment, and I was fine really.
Kissing friends on the cheek has led to a few reactions, but they are all generally quite good and if we go to kiss or hug goodbye, if they're not sure of what they've eaten they won't get too close!
I think I have been quite lucky to have had a steady boyfriend during sixth form because I think that's one of the times where you go out a lot, and drinking becomes legal at 18 during sixth form and I really think that affects how careful you are, especially when you're getting to learn your limits!
I think I'm "lucky" in the way that if I've ever had a reaction from kissing, it's always from a kiss on the cheek, or a small kiss on the lips (really not trying to be graphic but I do think it makes a difference!) - I think if things went up a notch, my reactions would have been much worse, but generally because things progress, you get the reaction before things get too intimate!
I know it's got to be hard for the parents when children get to the dating age, and I guess it must have been for mine, but hopefully their knowledge of their allergies and (hopefully) the confidence to say when they are moving out of their comfort zone will help to keep them safe.
Take care
Rach

Posted on: Fri, 06/10/2005 - 10:23am
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hi - I've had similar experiences as Rachel...the hives on the cheek or neck from a beau eating peanuts or nuts during the day. Nothing too severe. I know it's hard for some of the parents on here to think of their child someday being intimate, or that their child is older (like 18 or so) and it's still hard to bring up something you may read here...but let me tell you...and I'll try to be discrete (though this is the Adults Living With forum)...but there are places you really don't want hives, and once I had to go to the ER it was so bad. Try explaining that one to an ER doc without having them chuckle a bit! Additionally...geesh, how do I put this...if you are in a serious & committed relationship, let's say engaged or married...and your significant other (in my case my beau) has had a large enough dose of peanuts or peanut butter, or Pad Thai or something...Unfortunately I speak from first hand experience that the peanut allergen/protein can make it's way to being let out of the human body in a certain way, that could send the peanut allergic person into a really bad, uh, internal reaction (digested or otherwise internal) that could possibly require an ER visit. Not something you would normally think about having a "may contain warning" on it...(I'm actually chuckling outloud at this now...) But really, it can happen...and something for adults to be careful and aware of. I now require my boyfriend to be peanut-free, even though he doesn't "get it" about the allergy sometimes, in those cases, he really "doesn't get it" (if you know what I mean). He'll learn.
Hope the above has helped someone, sorry if it embarrassed anyone...but it is an issue I've dealt with as an Adult With Peanut Allergy.
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Posted on: Fri, 06/10/2005 - 1:24pm
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No way. Never even thought to worry about that.

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yup - I have to worry about it now. My primary care doc, when I brought the issue came up, at first didn't believe that the peanut protein can be digested and processed that way by the body. But...she investigated and consulted with some of her peers/specialists, determined that it can mostly depend on the individual guy, their own metabolism, etc. But yeah, something to think about, but I'm not sure how anyone could talk about it with their child, even their adult child...yeeps!
A

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[url="http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/Forum1/HTML/001701.html"]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/Forum1/HTML/001701.html[/url]
This old topic is a bit hard to read, but look for the posts toward the end discussing reactions Gwen and I had...
Rebekah

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Thanks Rebekah for that reference! I never searched for this particular topic on here b/c I've pretty much determined I can have a reaction from a guy, after several reactions and then piecing it together. This isn't something many doctors or allergists get asked often, that is why my primary care doctor (a few years ago) brought it up with her colleagues and they thought about it, and thought it was possible, given (1) the amount of peanuts consumed by the guy (2) the amount of time from his ingesting to my contact (3) his own metabolism
Did anyone ever ask Dr. Sue Johanssen or find that Cosmo article?
Also, it was nice to read Gwen and Rebekah's posts about their experiences...everyone thinks I'm a bit kooky on this one since noone else has really heard of it. And by everyone I mean a vague grouping of friends and family (not those here).
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Posted on: Sat, 10/01/2005 - 8:43pm
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Well, I thought I had this one covered by now, but it turns out that I'm not too sensible after a drink.
I know that it is nothing more than pure luck on my part that I have not had a reaction in the past couple of weeks, and this behaviour really isn't like me at all - I usually am so sensible but I've been quite thoughtless very recently.
There have been a few nights out this week which have all led to kissing lads, mainly because I've drunk too much, which also means that I haven't checked for nuts more than once this fortnight with the lads.
My friends have been there every time, and yesterday they gave me a long lecture (which I definitely needed!).
I guess my point is that I have really shocked myself and let myself down over something I used to be so careful about.
Any thoughts? (Adult type lectures are also welcome - apparently at 20 we think we are more intelligent than we actually are, otherwise this wouldn't have happened!)
Take care
Rach

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Hi Rach,
None of us are sensible about anything after a few drinks, which is why I'd caution you to be more careful, even if the lads haven't been eating peanuts!
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Oh, Rach, please, please, please be careful!!! I've had several trips to the ER simply because my boyfriend at something peanut-y that day. I know it's tough sometimes to resist and/or think clearly after a drink or two, but it really is vitally important. Please take care!
-Andromeda

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WARNING - Mommy lecture ahead!!!
Rach, peanuts aren't the only things you're at risk for when drinking, especially in crowded clubs and the like.
Please be careful - we don't want to see you putting yourself in danger. Have you been feeling particularly stressed out? Why do you think you've been acting uncharacteristically?
Take care,
Amy

Posted on: Mon, 10/03/2005 - 3:05am
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Quote:Originally posted by ajgauthier:
[b]I'm not sure how anyone could talk about it with their child, even their adult child...yeeps!
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My oldest son (22) has a latex allergy. So, as well as discussing the *usual* aspects of relationships as he got older, I had to explain to him that he has to carefully read the label of the condoms. He initially got angry with me. But then, later, when he calmed down he thanked me. [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/smile.gif[/img]
And personally, I think guys with food allergies need to have some concern about this type of reaction as well. It may be more common among women - or maybe just more women post here - but I think it [i]could[/i] happen to men as well.
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Rach, consider taking a break from drinking. It could cause you a lot more to worry about then a reaction.

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hi AnnaMarie,
well...it takes just once to forget about the latex allergy when being intimate...it's a very uncomfortable reaction (to say the least) - I am latex sensitive as well as PA/TNA.
One thing I have to deal with (since you brought up condoms)...is that the non-latex polyurethane ones have not been fully tested against STDs and HIV/AIDS. I am not a promiscuous person, so that's not an issue for me really...but...just bringing it up since it is a concern for those with latex sensitivity.
Also - any bar that has bowls of nuts or peanuts out is a problem for me...I have to try not to touch anything or anyone who has had a handful (and they say I'm antisocial *wink*)
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Nah, Rach, keep on drinking, just become a very gregarious and open drunk. Practice slurring, "You can't kiss me if you ate those peanuts from the bar" and "Cashew Curry means No Nooky". It worked for me. ;D
ygg

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The peanuts being digested and stored into bodily fluids is a real thing and a real problem!
I "grew into" my peanut allergies when I was 17, and they got worse and worse as I got older. I didn't think anything of the "kissing" muchless anything else, until I had a few bad reactions to various bodily fluids.
I am very outspoken about my PA, however, and before I even agree to go on a date with a guy, I go over my past experiences with him, and warn him of the issues. This means that I typically plan a "first date" atleast a week out - and ask that they please avoid eating items that contain nuts for that week, for my safety incase things proceed, and then give them an idea of other allergies that I have that could affect where we go or what we do on dates. I've learned that most men (atleast those worthy of having any sort of relationship with) are more than willing to watch their diet for the week.
Also, in my current relationship, since my boyfriend is trying very hard to avoid most of the foods I'm allergic to (even the non-nut foods) but can't always (work has food brought in on weekends - he doesn't have a choice in what they order, just whether or not he eats) we do a quick "litmus" test when he arrives home. He'll either kiss my neck or my wrists and see if I break out -- Oftentimes I do, and that is when we know to avoid each other for the evening and see if things are better the next day or not.
He is great about my allergies though and typically reads the ingredients to everything, has me present whenever he is grocery shopping or cooking, to let him know if everything is kopasetic (sp) or not, and calls ahead to friends houses for parties and such to inform them of my allergies and to make sure that I will be taken care of.

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hi princesshin (oh I already forget the rest of it!)
what a great guy! When I get to dating a guy, I use the peanut allergy as a "dating litmus" test. If the dude can refrain from Reese's, Thai food, and PB&J while he's dating me...he makes his way up on the keeper list. If the dude *can't* remember to refrain from peanuty/nutty foods...well...it shows he's not really interested in keeping on seeing me. It's funny sometimes, I'm all, "what? why do I have a hive? what did you eat today?" I pout a bit, give him one more chance, and figure it out from there.
Flowers? Who needs flowers? I just want to know he didn't cave into his 3pm Reese's or peanut M&M craving at work!
Adrienne :-)
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Posted on: Wed, 10/12/2005 - 12:20pm
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im totally in agreement with the 2 posts above me-- any guy (or girl) worth your time will be more than considerate of the fact that their diets pose a potential threat to your well-being. It takes a while to "train" a non allergic person on all the things to look for, but if they care, they certainly learn [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/smile.gif[/img].

Posted on: Thu, 11/10/2005 - 6:09am
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I was married to a guy who I explained the peanut allergy to over and over, he was really careful in the begining but then began to test me, he would eat a snickers bar then try to kiss me, but usually i would smell it on his breath and get really po'd... ultimatly one of his reasons for wanting a divorce was so he could eat whatever he wanted...
~Jennifer

Posted on: Thu, 11/10/2005 - 8:55am
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wow boston, that's really scary. i'm glad you aren't with him anymore, he could have ended up killing you by "testing" you...

Posted on: Sat, 11/26/2005 - 7:35am
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For anyone who thought it didn't happen, a teenager in Quebec died this week. Maybe I need a form for anyone I kiss:
[url="http://www.theglobeandmail.com/servlet/ArticleNews/TPStory/LAC/20051126/NATS26PU/TPNational/?query=peanut"]http://www.theglobeandmail.com/servlet/A...l/?query=peanut[/url]
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Posted on: Wed, 12/14/2005 - 1:10am
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reraising...

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Re-raising for Starting Over

Posted on: Fri, 02/03/2006 - 5:58am
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I agree with you about guys not being worth it if they can't "remember" to keep you alive! Even the jerkier guys I've dated have been able to live with the no-peanut rule.
My bf now is wonderful. He gets more upset than I do if there's a chance of me being exposed. Once a friend (who wasn't thinking) brought over some Thai pizza. My bf was like "Thai pizza? As in the kind that could kill Jen???" Needless to say our friend had to wait until he got home to eat his pizza!

Posted on: Sat, 02/04/2006 - 9:05am
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From day 1 I've always made it clear to women no peanuts when you are around me. I've never had anyone object.

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Quote:Originally posted by Tom:
[b]From day 1 I've always made it clear to women no peanuts when you are around me. I've never had anyone object.[/b]
There's a difference between us (the allergic) 'making it clear' and them (the ones kissing/etc us) --- I've thought I've made it abundantly clear (word death used...) and I've still have a handful of hive-reactions from beaus who 'just didn't get it til it was too late'
I think women may take it more serious that guys, just b/c we women tend to be more thoughtful and remember things in different ways. Men though...boy, they either forget most of the time or don't care enough to remember.
bleh on men...
Adrienne
EDIT: I forgot to say that I'm happy you haven't had any problems :-)
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Posted on: Mon, 02/06/2006 - 9:20pm
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Could be that men aren't as good as women are with this. Never thought of that.

Posted on: Tue, 02/07/2006 - 12:06am
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Quote:Originally posted by Tom:
[b]Could be that men aren't as good as women are with this. Never thought of that.[/b]
It's the mother in us. We want to protect everybody. [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/wink.gif[/img]

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