Just when you think they get it...

Posted on: Thu, 10/17/2002 - 9:24am
anonymous's picture
Joined: 05/28/2009 - 16:42

My mother has a car seat for my 4 yr old pa son in the back of her car since she picks him up from school on occasion. This morning my DH needed to borrow it since he was driving a group of kids on a field trip, and lo and behold, what was sitting in his carseat but a great big bag full of peanuts. EEK...

I don't think it really matters because it was a sealed bag, but it still gives me the shudders and I won't be able to let DS sit in the seat until I wash it thoroughly. It's just the idea...hope I don't sound all paranoid... [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/smile.gif[/img]

My mom feeds peanuts to the squirrels at her house, and I have no problem with that, since we never go there (she has 20+ cats so we stay far away). It's just that there was nothing else in her backseat...couldn't she have laid the bag someplace else rather than IN the carseat?

LOL - it didn't make me angry - no harm, no foul - but it just really drives home the fact that NO ONE thinks about this allergy all the time the way that my husband and I do. My mom overall is very, very good about DS's allergies, but she obviously doesn't go cold just looking at peanuts - of course, this could just mean that I need to seek counseling LOL...but seriously we as parents are our children's best advocates, and I hope I never forget to stay on top of whomever is caring for my DS...

Just wanted to share...

Lori, still trying to find the balance between "unswerving vigilance" and "unnerving paranoia" [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/smile.gif[/img]

Posted on: Thu, 10/17/2002 - 2:04pm
becca's picture
Joined: 05/22/2001 - 09:00

I completely understand your POV here! I have a friend, and I can talk so frankly, and have, to her about this topic. However, after a day at the(peanut free) Big Apple Circus with her and her family, we were invited to their home for dinner. Picking up take out on the way home. They like this Thai place. Eeek! They like this peanut dish and this peanut dish and Pad Thai, and Satay with peanut sauce...... Part of it was they were going to call it in in the car, and talk to someone with limited English language skills. Then, they just forgot, and do not realize that traces of the stuff are dangerous. They have a dd 2 years old who would eat it and does not sit to dine, but wanders. I was Passive-aggressive in my approach, and kept reiterating please keep peanut sauces and items on the side, and be sure *all of us* sit properly to dine. She just spaced it all, and we did eat there and all was fine. Dh and I ate nothing with peanuts to passively support out stance again. It was just the 6 of us.
But later, I was able to discuss it. I had another friend to complain about, and was able to bring this up in that discussion. She commented that people just forget. It is true. They really do not understand the sensetivity of the allergy, and will never, unless it is them or their child. Even then, I know parents who do not fill epi Rx's! It is frustrating, and speaks to having a better public awareness campaign.
This is a best and trusted friend, and we still go over this time and again. We do not see each other frequently, so that may be why. People are busy, and their own families have things to deal with as real and important as this is, to them. Our children are not the top item on *their* list. That is why I think it is very important to have legislation for labeling, menu items, and general public awareness campaigns.
This needs to be in the public's face on a regular basis to be an accepted issue requiring regular precautions to save lives. becca

Posted on: Fri, 10/18/2002 - 12:00am
California Mom's picture
Joined: 07/14/2000 - 09:00

Munchin's Mom, I totally agree with your POV also! (And if it's any consolation: I HAVE sought counselling for my anxiety relating to pa!) My mom is the nicest most caring grandma, yet her pantry has huge bags of peanuts in it. This is because her husband, my step dad, has diabetes and eats a lot of peanuts. It is always a shock to me to open the pantry and see the peanuts. It shouldn't be at this point; but it still is. My daughter eats there a lot and has never reacted, knock wood; but it gives me the heebie jeebies. It also reinforces the point, as you said, that as wonderful as my mother is: she is not thinking about this 24/7 as I am. Take care, Miriam

Posted on: Fri, 10/18/2002 - 2:07pm
KeithsMom's picture
Joined: 10/12/2002 - 09:00

Boy I'm sorry to hear about those Peanuts... You are right no one will look at things like you do because they are not educated enough on it.... So we must protect our children and continue educating, boy do we have a long haul...I feel greatful my PA son's grandmother just told me that at X-mas there would NOT be peanut brittle, clusters, or peanut butter candies in the house this year. She said she realized that we had been through a lot this year (started school), and it would not be worth it, I WANTED TO CRY FOR JOY!!!! I tell them about the web sits and the articles I find on PA, tell them my horrer stories, and I tell them how I protect my son and why (Cross-Contam.) I think it is finaly paying off, One house down and many more to go...Don't give up your doing the right things.....

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