Is this normal

Posted on: Wed, 03/15/2006 - 7:01am
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My son is turning 3, and started talking about 2. He was dx with FA, at 2.5. I have been talking to him ever since. Every day, it is brought up in one manner or another. Lately, he has been asking with everything, or stating, Joseph can't have that, or is it safe for Joseph? and looks at me. He will say it for weird things like apples, or things he eats everyday, like pancakes, or his snacks. Is he looking for reassurance that his food is safe? Last night, I told him, we would never let him eat food that was not safe, and that is why he needs to always ask, or have someone ask us before giving him a food.
Therese

Posted on: Wed, 03/15/2006 - 8:33am
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Therese, can you tell me what foods Joseph is allergic to? Do you have a "ban" on any of his food allergens in your home?
Sorry, always have to ask a lot of questions to get things sorted out in my head so I *might* be of help.
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Posted on: Wed, 03/15/2006 - 9:02am
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He is allergic to peanuts, soy, g. beans, almonds, sunflowers, and chocolate. We only have soy bread (bread that has soy oil in it), and dh margarine that is soy based (soy oil again), around him (we make his bread), and dh eats nuts at work. Our house has food he is allergic to, but they are eaten only after he has gone to bed ie, chocolate chip cookies.
We did have mayo (now we have safe mayo), and dh used to eat things in front of him.
Therese

Posted on: Wed, 03/15/2006 - 9:32am
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I have a 2 year old girl, sophia, with PA. She was diagnosed around Xmas time. There have been several non-serious rxn, mostly contact a few ingesting. Well, I'm in the same boat as you. She's really verbal and will say "I can't have that, it has PB in it, I'll have to go to the doctors" for safe foods too. I think you're right about the reassurance thing. Its their way of taking control. but also its parroting. they hear mommy say stuff, so they do to.
I don't restrict her food, we have a peanut free home but she does her the speech that I have to give when she's at someone's house about what's safe and how to use the epi-pen. For me, though, the biggest problem is her 6 year old non PA sister, Marcela. She was really freaked out when sophia had her first rxn ( a trip to the ER) so she's taken to reading labels, and she tries to explain to sophia why she can't eat certain things. She's not neurotic or obsessed just concderned. Its hard to balance a healthy concern with an unhealthy preoccupation. You want them to be educated but you don't want them burdened.
Things have calmed down a bit. For a month or so, sophia was on a peanut and soy free diet beacuse the allergist forgot to test for so. That was rough beacuse soy is in everything! Peanuts seem to be easier. As long as your house is peanut free then its worry free.
Don't fret too much about it, especially in front of him, he's just a toddler who mimics mommy and is trying to get a handle on the situation. He's not scarred or anything. (I'm saying this to myself as I say it to you)

Posted on: Wed, 03/15/2006 - 11:22am
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I htink like one of the previous posts, that at 2 or 3, he is probably just mimicing what he hears around him. that said, as he gets older, he will likely start questioning for real, and I think it is great when they do. My PA son at 4 questioned ANYTHING he was not 100% sure of, and wasn't scared about it, just declined it if he didn't feel comfortable. I think that is his right, and it is important to know that he has some control over this stuff. He is 6 1/2 now, and is very careful about his food. So far , no reactions, so hopefully we are on the right track! take care, Jen

Posted on: Fri, 03/17/2006 - 9:57am
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My three-year old grandson fixates on my PA. He's severely allergic to cats & dogs so can relate.
Whenever I eat with my grandkids, he invariably brings up peanut allergy. I think he's a little concerned - and a little fascinated that food can make someone sick.
He used to tease me about it (oooo - that's has peanuts in it!) but now he has a friend in Montessori that is also PA so I don't let him tease.

Posted on: Sat, 04/22/2006 - 5:03pm
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It's important to find a balance between educating children to protect themselves and making them too anxious. (I know one mom who has made her kids nuerotic by being too overprotective to the pt its unhealthy). When my dd was that age I would say 'lets check the label...' whenever we opened something new and we would ask if we ate outside the home. Talking about it everyday with a toddler might be too much.

Posted on: Sun, 04/23/2006 - 9:22am
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You know what? I think what your son is doing is completely *normal* at his age. Nothing to indicate he's going to be filled with angst or anything else. He's simply checking at an age where he, himself, can't read labels. And because you're not dealing solely with PA, I would think that it would be more difficult and understandably there's a heckuva lot more food to check on.
Since your home is basically allergen free for him, what I would try to do is assure your son that your home is completely safe for him - that he does not have to worry about food that you have in your home (this is if you don't have other people bringing food in).
I'd rather have a child asking if each and every food was safe, at his age, then popping something into his mouth that he is allergic to.
I honestly think, at this point, it's completely *normal*. JMPHO.
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Posted on: Mon, 04/24/2006 - 2:19am
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Thanks, he started saying, that is safe for other kids, but not for Joseph, or when we drive by say a school and kids are outside, he will say, those kids have candy in their pockets, its safe for them. I don't know where that one came from.
Therese

Posted on: Mon, 04/24/2006 - 9:10am
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momtotwokidz:
My son is 4 and does the similar things. He will ask me to check the ingrediants, ask if his non PA sister can eat certain things, asks me if his non PA sister is allergic to peanuts etc.
Its normal and just their way of understanding their allergy and what they can and cannot do. For example the other day my son was at the sitters house and he told the sitter that he could eat the potato chips that her son was eating (he doesn't eat anything at the sitters house unless it comes from me and he brings his own lunch/snacks etc). She didn't bring it up to me, bc she told him no and gave him a snack out of his pack. That night he told me what he did and what he said and he started to cry. I didn't even say anything, he just knew that he was not allowed to eat anything that wasn't from his pack, and I suppose he felt guilty.
While I was sad that he was unhappy, I was very happy to see that he understood that it was wrong and could tell me, also understanding that I could have been mad.

Posted on: Wed, 03/15/2006 - 8:33am
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Therese, can you tell me what foods Joseph is allergic to? Do you have a "ban" on any of his food allergens in your home?
Sorry, always have to ask a lot of questions to get things sorted out in my head so I *might* be of help.
Best wishes! [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/smile.gif[/img]
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