I should have planned better...

Posted on: Thu, 06/07/2007 - 7:25am
CorinneM1's picture
Joined: 06/20/2002 - 09:00

My son's kindergarten graduation was last night. I knew that they were going to serve cake, coffee and juice afterwards, so I attempted to plan ahead and made my homemade brownies (which I do have to say, are sinfully delicious) bc they are one of his favorites.

I put the plate down towards the end of the table and took our seats. After the ceremony was over I was speaking with another mother for what couldn't have been more than a few min. I made my way over to the table to get my son a brownie and they are all gone! There were kids running around with 3-4 brownies on their plates apiece!

I tried to located an adult with a brownie to try to explain and attempt to get one for my son, but there were none in site, and I was not about to grab a brownie from a 4-year-old's plate (although my mom was ready to. [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/smile.gif[/img]).

I felt bad that he couldn't have anything, so my lesson learned is that I will need to create a seperate plate for him, label it and place it in a safer place/or carry and extra in a small container or zip lock with me. We stopped at McD's afterwards and got him an apple pie instead, which did the trick.

Posted on: Thu, 06/07/2007 - 9:06am
McCobbre's picture
Joined: 04/16/2005 - 09:00

This is something that I fear, so when I am in a similar situation I keep DS' in a baggie in my purse. It's not like I would want DS to have something from the plate after others have taken from it, KWIM?
At church potlucks I just try to get in front of the line so I can get DS' first. People understand about, but in this kind of free for all situation, I always worry DS won't have anything.
It's good that there are safe treats at McDs for these occasions. I do rely on them so much for times when I don't have anything for DS. "Well, we'll just drive by on the way home and you can have an ice cream cone DS!" Whew.

Posted on: Thu, 06/07/2007 - 10:28am
lilpig99's picture
Joined: 12/22/2005 - 09:00

Doesn't it figure?!?! [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/wink.gif[/img]
And here you took the time to prepare something special for him...sorry he didn't get to enjoy the brownies, but hey, don't the kids just love that special trip for a special safe goodie? It feels good to 'make it right' for our kids.

Posted on: Thu, 06/07/2007 - 10:35am
chanda4's picture
Joined: 12/14/2006 - 09:00

I was hoping the same thing yesterday. I prepared my son some safe muffins(also milk/nut/egg free so he coudl share with his brother and sister) as well as crackers, cheese and some fruit. I came early and sat it on the pf table in the lunchroom. I turned another plate over on top of it and write his name HUGE across......and then *safe food*(and an allergy sticker too!!!) and thankfully no one touched it, because I was traapped int he sea of parents for a bit trying to get out of the gym!
Sorry the other kids took his brownies(shame on their parents, right!!).....HUGS
Chanda(mother of 4)
Sidney-8 (beef and chocolate, grasses, molds, weeds, guinea pig & asthma)
Jake-6 (peanut, all tree nuts, eggs, trees, grasses, weeds, molds, cats, dogs, guinea pig & eczema & asthma)
Carson-3 1/2 (milk, soy, egg, beef and pork, cats, dog, guinea pig and EE)
Savannah-1 (milk and egg)

Posted on: Thu, 06/07/2007 - 1:48pm
Chicago's picture
Joined: 04/21/2001 - 09:00

I try to do that to - it is a good idea. Not only could all of the safe stuff be gone, but once people start eating off the buffet often the voluteers start conslidating the food and if there are only a few of something left, moving things together onto the same platter. This happened to us once when dd and I went up to get what I had made and it was over halfway gone so the platter had been partially filled with nut tartlets!

Posted on: Thu, 06/07/2007 - 10:29pm
JacksonsMom's picture
Joined: 07/21/2002 - 09:00

Oh you must have been so mad to see those kids with 4 brownies each! (wasn't their fault, I know, but the idea of it....)
What I always do is make the safe batch of whatever, brownies or cupcakes. Put most of them on a plate for the table, and then pack up a few "clean" ones in DS red lunch bag with his name on it. Along with a cool plate (usually cars or whatever he likes at the time) , napkin, and hand wipes. I don't even let him grab a paper plate or napkin at a party. I know that may be over the top - but for us it works fine. He could care less if his plate is diffrent than other kids.
I also keep 1 or 2 pieces at home for him for later. So he usually makes out with 4 treats every time theres a party [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/smile.gif[/img]

Posted on: Thu, 06/07/2007 - 11:48pm
peanut_mom11's picture
Joined: 05/11/2007 - 09:00

This is something we have had to deal with for many years as well. When it is a function like this I usually go up before the event and prepare his plate with my treats and other safe treats. Then I place the plate in a safe place (in the kitchen, on top of a cupboard) After the function is over I grab that plate and hand it to him while he files through the line. It really works and he never feels any different from any other kid.
Sorry about your brownies...that is a bummer. My ds went to a birthday party the other day and did not have cake or ice cream because both had the may contain nuts label. Since he has dealt with this for so long it was no big deal because he knew he would get a special treat at home! Knowing you took the time to get him the apple pie means a lot to him!

Posted on: Fri, 06/08/2007 - 1:13am
Peg541's picture
Joined: 12/29/2002 - 09:00

No peanuts here but I hate potlucks. I see some people piling their plates HIGH and me at the end or middle of the line gets three carrot sticks because the others have emptied the table. I just do not participate in them any longer after going home hungry so many times.
So next time you'll pack a separate treat for your child. Sorry that happened to your little one.


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