I never thought of this

Posted on: Thu, 01/11/2007 - 12:58am
seanmn's picture
Joined: 10/01/2003 - 09:00

My DH was talking to his boss the other day and she mentioned she has a nephew with a peanut allergy.

She said he only had his firt reaction when he was 2 and then not another one until he was 16.

My DH thought that was pretty good and asked what had caused his reaction.

Seems that this boy went out with some friends, got drunk and ate some food with peanuts in it. He did not remember eating it and had a reaction.

I had never thought about this before. Have any of you?


Posted on: Thu, 01/11/2007 - 1:25am
Peg541's picture
Joined: 12/29/2002 - 09:00

Do you mean you did not think about eating the wrong food when drunk?
Sure. I talked to my son about that lots. He's 22 now and I know he drinks some but he's not the type to get drunk. But we discussed that when you are drunk your decisions might not be the best about what you are eating. etc etc.... Your taste might not be the same either and you might miss feeling a reaction if you were drunk.
One thing is he would never stay somewhere if there were peanuts in the room but someone could always offer him something. So he knows he never accepts food from someone else unless he can read the label which goes back to being too drunk to read the label.
So I have to take it on trust that he's smart enough to not put himself in this position. Being drunk for him would be more dangerous than for some non allergic person.
We also talked about the dark. If you were in a pub or at a party it might be too dark to see what you are eating. Also movie theaters. Who knows if there is a peanut in the middle of all of that popcorn or whatever people eat in movies. We stopped eating in movies when the kids were little. So much cheaper and safer really.
I never wanted him to drink but I assumed once he hit college he would at least try it so we talked about this way before high school and all during high school.
Rides in my car were more like discussions between my son and myself. We did all of our best talking in the car and it worked out pretty well.
Good question.
[This message has been edited by Peg541 (edited January 11, 2007).]

Posted on: Thu, 01/11/2007 - 1:58am
krc's picture
Joined: 01/16/2007 - 09:00

I have absolutely thought about this. My dd is only 10 now but I worry about the college years.
Drinking is of course known to lower inhibitions and alter your decision making ability. I am concerned that she will drink with friends and not be as cautious of the food she eats. Someone may just say "This is ok" or she will just assume something is ok and eat it. Or even not be as aware of her surroundings or symptoms.
I also think open communication and discussions (not lectures [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/smile.gif[/img]) are going to be the best way to prepare her and prevent this.
But yes, scenarios such as this weigh on me....I seem to always be in "what if" mode. Thoughts such as these even wake me up in the middle of night.

Posted on: Thu, 01/11/2007 - 2:16am
Corvallis Mom's picture
Joined: 05/22/2001 - 09:00

Yes!! Absolutely, this is something that we worry about...
we have definitely ALWAYS explained that alcohol and other drugs [i]impair your JUDGEMENT.[/i] Even in moderation. So we advise her (if she should choose to drink) to follow certain "rules" for behavior when she does. This is no different than what we as responsible adults model in our own behavior.
If either of us drinks (even ONE) we [i]do not drive[/i]. PERIOD. So for her, we have used this example as one of a "rule" that prevents us from using bad judgement after drinking. It's a rule. Even if we [i]feel[/i] fine to drive, we don't.
We've explained that for her, following rules about food will be every bit as important.
We began speaking with her about this issue well before she was 5. As soon as she asked questions about drunk driving and alcohol consumption, quite honestly.

Posted on: Thu, 01/11/2007 - 2:22am
chanda4's picture
Joined: 12/14/2006 - 09:00

Or...what if they were so drunk and had a reaction, people would probably just chaulk it up to *being loaded* and miss the allergy-emergency....that is also scary. I think talking to your child and also their friends, the close ones they hang out with. They need to also remember if anything unusual is happeneing to not be afraid to call 911. Then that opens up this whole thing with the kissing again....when your drunk, you don't think clearly, Then the whole *hooking up-thing*(the college-age crowd).....my son is only 6 and I have thought about all of this...years down the road. No wonder I am grey already!

Posted on: Thu, 01/11/2007 - 2:52am
seanmn's picture
Joined: 10/01/2003 - 09:00

I guess I never thought about it because my son has never mentioned alcohol or anyone drinking, he is 6.

Posted on: Thu, 01/11/2007 - 3:17am
krasota's picture
Joined: 04/24/2000 - 09:00

I have been known to party pretty hard. Even when drunk, I have *never* eaten something I'm allergic to.
If I can't focus on the fine print, I generally know that it's long past time to sit down with a glass (or five) of water and pull out my stash of snacks from my purse.
(And no, I don't slam shots while pregnant, lest y'all get the wrong idea.)

Posted on: Thu, 01/11/2007 - 3:24am
Corvallis Mom's picture
Joined: 05/22/2001 - 09:00

Glad to hear you're staying away from the hard stuff....

Posted on: Thu, 01/11/2007 - 3:45am
chanda4's picture
Joined: 12/14/2006 - 09:00

Krasota...I was trying to make my reply as pc as I could....I too have had my fair share of drinking/dancing and partying....so i was trying to imagine what I did, but in his shoes....and that is a bit scary. We'd have a fun night at the bars and come home and eat, taco bell, pizza, you name it. But hopefully, he'll be able to also make his own decisions and choices and have a *stash* of munchies ahead of time, or don't eat....the list is endless all the things that *could* go wrong. But we survive non-the-less.
Your comment was funny though....we're all human!

Posted on: Thu, 01/11/2007 - 5:18am
Jana R's picture
Joined: 02/09/1999 - 09:00

I think we started discussing this when my son was in fifth grade and was assigned a DARE (Drug Abuse Resistance Education) essay. I had an opportunity to help his write this and we discussed how his judgment about eating would be impaired under the influence of anything like drugs or alcohol. He wrote about it in his essay (I was really hoping he'd be one of the ones recognized at the DARE assembly for his insight but he wasn't).
He's 18 now and a freshmen in college - last year his group of buddies were apparently discussing drinking and DS mentioned his concern to his friends about ever being under the influence and his allergies - they told him one of them wouldn't drink to watch out for him if he ever wanted to try drinking. At the time he shared this with me, I was torn about what my response should be - (should I remind him that underage drinking is illegal?) but I decided I was more glad that his group of friends will look out for him. From what I gather now (he's away at college) though he's like the designated "nanny" he doesn't drink (it sounds to me) since he has multiple food allergies and alcohol doesn't have an ingredient labels.

Posted on: Thu, 01/11/2007 - 5:48am
barb1123's picture
Joined: 04/08/2000 - 09:00

I worry about this too but more for other reasons. My ds is allergic to so many things. Yeast is one of them. I worry about peer pressure for him to drink and he can't drink anything with yeast in it or fermented. What happens if\when he succumbs to pressure\temptation. It's the same with smoking. He has asthma. What if he feels the need to experiment with smoking. Or drugs even. Who knows how he would react to any experimentation (and I think that most kids do some) with recreational drugs?


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