I have read it on here but thought it would never happen at our school.

Posted on: Thu, 12/04/2008 - 1:56pm
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A girl at my daughter's school gave her a high five at school and later that day sat down beside her at lunch and told her she had eaten a peanut butter sandwhich for breakfast and didnt wash her hands, that she wanted to see if she would have a reaction to see if she was really allergic to peanuts. The girl got suspended for 5 days and principal said if it happened again it would be for 2 years. Principal even brought the parents in the office.

The kids have been saying things like she is not really allergic to peanuts and saying things like they seen her buy a reeses cup at the store and one girl that was suppose to be her friend is saying she seen her eat peanuts in her home. I told her to tell them if she had done so and ate it she would not be talking to them right now. She or I or anyone in this house who live here or visits here has never brought peanuts in our home. I have a sign by the door that says peanut free zone. She has never bought a reeses cup in any store or any where far as that goes.

I don't know where they get this stuff. My guess is the parents. I think I remember someone on that website while they were bashing me and the peanut ban, they said they wondered if she even had a peanut allergy and wondered if I was doing it for the attention. We live in a small town so it doesn't take long for gossip to spread. If this is the case and a kid at school thinks she's not really allergic to peanuts and is going to the extent to see if she is by having peanut butter on her hands and touching her I think something needs to be done. I would think a PTA meeting or something but I doubt those people would show their faces.

I asked the principal if this girl really ate the peanut butter sandwhich and didn't wash her hands. Principal said she didn't know but it didn't matter she shouldn't had done what she did. She could have put my childs life in danger. She might not have known the extent to what she did but she needs to know it was serious and not to do it again.

At the beginning of school they showed a video of a girl having a peanut reaction and even explained to these kids how serious a peanut allergy is but when the kids hear their parents complain and say things they shouldn't be saying, it doesn't help.

I would like to show these parents her rast test she had one at 3 years old and at the start of this school year. She is 11 now. Her numbers were still the same. High as the last ones.

She had been sick for the last 2 weeks and had missed school. She was nauseated and had a few episodes of her heart racing. Doctor said it was viral but I can't help but wonder if it didn't have to do with what she is going through in school. I asked the doctor if it could be stress and he said no but she hadn't had the heart episodes yet, so the doctor didnt know about that. Her pulse was going so fast I couldn't even take it. Finally counted 160 then a bit later 140 then it finally went down to normal. Then she had a few more but wasn't as bad as the first one. But she seems to be doing better just hope this incident doesn't start it all over again. I asked her if being sick had anything to do with school and she said no but I can't help but wonder would she really tell me because kids sometimes don't tell parents everything. Here she was in school for 3 days after missing 15 days of being sick and she had to come back to this.

Frustrated and stressed with peoples stupidity and selfishness!

Lynn

Posted on: Thu, 12/04/2008 - 11:41pm
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I am so sorry you and your daughter are having to go through this.
I am glad to see that the principal handled it boldly. That student now has a behavior incident in her record that will follow her. I hope her parents got a wake up call. Sadly they may still be ignorant and bull-headed and may think their child was unfairly punished, but at least the principal did the right thing and treated it as a serious case of bullying. I am also glad your daughter was brave enough to report what happened. She did the right thing too. I hope things improve for her soon.

Posted on: Fri, 12/05/2008 - 3:31am
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I absolutely cannot believe how ignorant people can be. On the other hand, the principal handled the situation wonderfully!! I hope this will set an example to the other kids. The only thing I would worry about is whether the behavior will continue, but the kids will just not say they have peanut residue one them. Is your daughter contact sensitive?

Posted on: Fri, 12/05/2008 - 7:46am
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Yes my daughter is contact sensitive.
I went to the library today and I was told that the mother and her daughter who got suspended had been in there and were getting books on peanut allergies. Her mother was making her do a report on peanut allergies.
That gives me hope that some parents do take it seriously!

Posted on: Fri, 12/05/2008 - 6:09pm
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Girls can be sooo mean at that age. I am glad the principal acted swiftly and appropriately. I hope the girl and her mother gets it now. Wow, suspended for two years, glad to hear the principal was not putting up with the bullying on someone's life.
Hope your daughter's stress level is ok. Does she go to the school counselor or anything?

Posted on: Sat, 12/06/2008 - 4:04pm
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The girl got suspended for 5 days but next time if she does something like this again the principal said it would be for 2 years.
No, my daughter does not go to the school counselor. She has been feeling better and she is eating better thank god. But if she gets to feeling bad again I will have her talk to someone about what she is having to deal with at school.
I had mentioned to the teacher about her being sick and I thought it was stress related due to her peanut allergy and the peanut ban at school. She thought everything had calmed down then this happened, so hopefully that opened the schools eyes and they won't be so quick to dismiss possible problems that could be still going on in the school that could have caused her to be sick. Hopefully the kids at school will put all the nonsense talk to rest since that girl got into trouble. One can hope it put the fear into them!

Posted on: Mon, 12/08/2008 - 2:02am
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Sorry for the misinterpretation, I did realize the principal told her that she would be suspended for two years and I think just saying that to her was great! Sends a clear strong message!
I wish they would make that girl do an oral report to the whole grade level. It would be a lesson she would never forget!
Hope your daughter is doing well.

Posted on: Fri, 12/26/2008 - 7:37am
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That sounds like a rotten situation--small towns and insular communities can be vicious, and the kids really do learn that stuff from their parents.
On the other hand, it sounds like you and your daughter have a really wonderful advocate in her principal. I wish more administrators could be that on the ball!

Posted on: Mon, 01/12/2009 - 1:06am
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Oh my goodness...bless your heart Lynn! That breaks my heart hearing what happened to your daughter. My son is severely peanut allergic and is in kindergarten now. I shudder to think of what may lie ahead for him. He's very very shy and sensitive too. All I can do is pray for him and make sure he's educated....and educate anyone who will listen to me. You are not alone.... we are standing with you. :-) I am so very pleased to hear how the principal handled it and how the girl's Mom is handling it too! Wonderful!!

Posted on: Tue, 03/31/2009 - 3:12am
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Living with an allergy that's airborne I understand greatly. I wish that more schools were like that so I wouldn't have the problems I live with every day. I'm struggling to go to college and I'm dealing with adults who just don't understand, even after I tell them. I finally got my work to understand after a year of fighting and they still don't fully understand what to do when I have a reaction. I wish more people were like that principle and keep fighting for your daughter. It's hard to do it on your own as I am and she will appriciate it as she gets older for having a mother who helps in these life saving battles.

Posted on: Sat, 04/18/2009 - 11:49pm
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Movies are not real to the kids. They watch murders and violence and death all time in them. You need to go in person and talk to the students. Ask for their help to protect your child. Cry about how scared you are when you have to take her to the emergency room. Tell them about children who have died. Make it real.
We did not have peanut allergies when I went to school. Not even when my children attended. The parents of children who are not allergic do not relate and think that it is only one child in a million who has the problem. And they do resent having to make any changes to accommodate one child. Peanut butter is normal everyday food in their households. To them it can be the same as telling people that they can no longer have any bread or wheat products in the school.
If you have to explain it a thousand times to children, then explain it a thousand times. And use emotion when you do it.

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