I have a very concerning question about one of our members? (new & improved)

Posted on: Sun, 01/19/2003 - 1:46am
erik's picture
Joined: 05/15/2001 - 09:00

just wondering if people have changed the way they post here the past few weeks............

[This message has been edited by erik (edited January 19, 2003).]

Posted on: Sun, 01/19/2003 - 1:57am
mae's picture
Joined: 07/12/2002 - 09:00

No ...but, I find myself doing a lot more "lurking" or simply reading - rather than posting. I've posted in other threads, but stay out of others completely. More of a backseat approach - than before, maybe.

Posted on: Sun, 01/19/2003 - 2:17am
cynde's picture
Joined: 12/10/2002 - 09:00

No, but some threads I lurk in only and some I avoid completely. It's sad really.

Posted on: Sun, 01/19/2003 - 3:15am
Anonymous's picture
Anonymous (not verified)

erik, after what I consider personally adding to the melee that occurred on the boards, for which I am both embarrassed and ashamed, although curiously enough, not apologetic, I did have to take a break from the board. Of course, I was only gone for a week. I came back one night and read the My Apology thread and thought, oh no, I can't start posting again yet, I'm just not there yet.
However, what I am finding when I post (and I do think that I have always tended to be really careful with my wording of things anyway), but now I am being super careful about my use of words and apologizing in a post if I say something that may be even considered slightly off the polite tone. I find it sad. I don't find it sad that I have to be polite, I find it sad that I have to watch my words, which I consider well written and compassionate to begin with.
I was lost for a week but then I was found again (I think it had something to do with a certain someone e-mailing me off-the-board and luring me back with talk of interesting threads [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/wink.gif[/img] )
Back, but really super careful in how I word things. Super careful to the point where I feel as though I'm editing out what I really want or perhaps need to say.
Best wishes! [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/smile.gif[/img]

Posted on: Sun, 01/19/2003 - 4:04am
erik's picture
Joined: 05/15/2001 - 09:00

I was thinking.. one flaw with this question is that people who have stopped posting may not be around anymore... oh well..
at least there are some good responses so far [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/smile.gif[/img]

Posted on: Sun, 01/19/2003 - 4:51am
LisaMcDowell's picture
Joined: 12/06/2002 - 09:00

Hi Erik,
Did you ask Peg these questions:
1. Why did you make an insensitive remark about PA adults: "I thought they were all dead". Then jokingly admit to being a nurse which implied that you had medical access to information/personnel that could have guided you to yet other resources to find PA.com or FAAN before your son turned 18.
Peg demonstrated the use of the computer. She also mentioned that she has access to a telephone that can be used to call specialized medical professionals such as an allergist for helpful resources. And also mentioned that she has access to transportation to find medical personnel other than her workplace.
2. At what age did she think PA adults died...18? Did she think that PA people die only from their PA?
3. Why choose to start college in January rather then September? Assuming that the majority of students move into dorms in August or September therefore rules have already been established.
4. Starting in January, would that not be difficult to have seasoned students attend another meeting to set rules? Would that not also be difficult for seasoned students to remember a new rule? If a peanut free rule was adopted for a community area, what would be the punishment for a seasoned student? What would be the punishment for a new student? Would there be two sets of rules?
Would it be fair to have two sets of rules?
What if a student is reprimanded for bringing in peanuts, & it angers their parent? What if a student is asked to move because they continually walk through the community area w/their peanuts on the way to their room?
5. Why did she choose to be with her son every waking moment? Does that promote individual socialization? Does it promote self esteem in a PA person? Could talking to your PA child everyday about PA be interpreted as "fear" in a parent? Could it this "fear" be transferred to a child? How would it be interpreted as a parent's "fear" of peanuts or of other people?
6. Was it best for her or for him to be together every waking moment?
7. Does one need to give up their marriage to maintain safety for their PA child? Does one need to live their life only for their PA child? What about the siblings of a PA child? How can they receive nurturing if a parent has placed their PA child first & foremost?
8. Why did she choose to wait till her son was 18 to learn to accept the unwritten rules of society? Why did she not recognize them beforehand so that she could teach her son?
9. Why choose to give special gifts to school staff when business should be conducted on a business level? There are productive & effective ways to motivate school staff to become educated in PA/FA to make changes.
10. Why not promote PA/FA Awareness for all those with PA/FA instead of one's own child?
It could benefit others as well as one's own child.
11. Why did a college advisor know better than the PA parent at what was best for PA young adult?
12. Why did she have to be referred back to my original topic to read the story of "N"? What part did she choose to read?
So many questions that Peg can be asked by all of you since she gave everyone an open invitation in her post to do so. (I'm positive it was not meant for me!)
I am currently working w/GSUSA to implement PA/FA Awareness training for Leaders & Councils. If you wish to support this effort please refer to my post "GS Cookies ?" for contact information. I now ask that you include in your message any problem(s) that you have incurred with GS Leaders/Councils. They need to know that it is a nationwide problem. This is for your daughter & future girl scouts whether they join or not it will give them a choice to affiliate w/a national organization that will be trying to make changes.
You do not have to like me or respect my beliefs to support this effort. It is for everyone! Thank you.

Posted on: Sun, 01/19/2003 - 5:01am
kelly01's picture
Joined: 03/19/2001 - 09:00

Hi Eric:
No, I have not stopped posting. I do what I always have done: read what I am interested in, respond when I think I can help, and skip over anything that is not useful.
Take care,

Posted on: Sun, 01/19/2003 - 5:13am
anonymous's picture
Joined: 05/28/2009 - 16:42

I have always been more of a lurker then a poster, but I come here almost every day to see what new information there is. The recent negativity on the boards would never stop me from reading. I have gain SO much information from you guys...things I could not learn anywhere else!
- Sarah

Posted on: Sun, 01/19/2003 - 9:12am
erik's picture
Joined: 05/15/2001 - 09:00


Posted on: Sun, 01/19/2003 - 9:36am
LisaMcDowell's picture
Joined: 12/06/2002 - 09:00

No, you haven't asked or no you are not going to ask? If not, why? She gave out lots of personal information, and also posted an invitation for everyone that meant even personal questions are acceptable.

Posted on: Sun, 01/19/2003 - 9:37am
LaurensMom's picture
Joined: 05/23/2001 - 09:00

I cannot believe this argument is still going on.
I have wanted to respond to this on so many occasions but have bit my tongue. (I think I drew blood this time! Ouch!)
For everyone else, let's get on with business. This is getting very old and is only feeding the fire. There's just no need and no point. We know what is best for our own personal situation. It is obvious that nearly all agree on this. Support has been given to the individuals who need it. Take what you want and leave the rest. We have enough battles to fight. Let's chalk this one up to "those who don't get it".


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