I got a glimpse...

Posted on: Sun, 05/21/2006 - 12:50pm
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...of what my ds goes through on a daily basis at school. First, let me preface this by saying that he is in Kindergarten, and his school has been WONDERFUL! His classroom is free of blatant peanuts, and there aren't many other times where there is food anyway, besides the snacks that the teacher buys from my safe list. All blatant nuts have been removed from the cafeteria, although there may be some 'may contains' (ds always brings his lunch). And, he's allowed to carry his epi on himself at all times.

So, the Friday before Mother's Day, they had a little program in his classroom for all the Moms. After the songs they sang, they had a cake provided by the cafeteria, and punch. All the Moms were sitting in their kids seats, but since we didn't know if the cake was 'may contain' or not, they had ds and I sit at a separate table with two of his "safe treats" that they always keep on hand. Ds was fine with this, and didn't even flinch. I, however, realized first-hand what kind of life he has in front of him. Always having to sit apart from others, etc. I felt ostracized (sp?) from the other Moms, who were all chatting away. I did not let it show, and ds and I enjoyed our snack together. I just felt sad for him, and the future he has in front of him. [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/frown.gif[/img]

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Posted on: Sun, 05/21/2006 - 1:05pm
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My heart aches, too.

Posted on: Sun, 05/21/2006 - 1:14pm
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Ditto.

Posted on: Sun, 05/21/2006 - 1:45pm
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That is sad. I'm glad we all ate at our own desks off of placemats when I was in elementary school.
But, did the cake have anything that looked "nutty" in/on it? If it was at most only a "may contain", why put him at a separate table? I could see if it was a definate peanut product, but the odds of having a reaction from a trace from a may contain someone else is eating is pretty remote...I hope they're not physically separating him from the other kids for every "may contain" served... [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/frown.gif[/img]

Posted on: Sun, 05/21/2006 - 10:03pm
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That was my thought too. My DD goes to pre-school where they don't have nuts, but they do have many "may contains..." and she sits at the same table with all the rest of the kids. Hasn't had a problem I know of.

Posted on: Mon, 05/22/2006 - 12:32am
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That also strikes me as sad. If you want a physical separation from "may contains" might it work to put an individual desk at the end of the table? It seems there should be a way to have him sit with everyone else. If they don't have individual desks, could they put a regular table alongside the other one? That way, he wouldn't be separated from everyone else.

Posted on: Mon, 05/22/2006 - 1:06am
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I know how you feel. DS school had cake for an anniversary , (may contain) so the principal decided who of the peanut allergic children may have some who may not . I have no idea how he determined that. DS was not given any, but was put to sit at another table while everybody else ate the cake. Afterschool came home very upset about the whole thing.
I called and complained, first of all why there was cake (may contain) in a peanut free school. 2) why was I not notified about it 3)I could have brought something in for him to eat while the others had cake.
Aparently other parents of PN allergy children complained aswell

Posted on: Sun, 05/21/2006 - 1:05pm
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My heart aches, too.

Posted on: Sun, 05/21/2006 - 1:14pm
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Ditto.

Posted on: Sun, 05/21/2006 - 1:45pm
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That is sad. I'm glad we all ate at our own desks off of placemats when I was in elementary school.
But, did the cake have anything that looked "nutty" in/on it? If it was at most only a "may contain", why put him at a separate table? I could see if it was a definate peanut product, but the odds of having a reaction from a trace from a may contain someone else is eating is pretty remote...I hope they're not physically separating him from the other kids for every "may contain" served... [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/frown.gif[/img]

Posted on: Sun, 05/21/2006 - 10:03pm
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That was my thought too. My DD goes to pre-school where they don't have nuts, but they do have many "may contains..." and she sits at the same table with all the rest of the kids. Hasn't had a problem I know of.

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