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Posted on: Sat, 09/04/2004 - 12:39pm
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Oh, Anna Marie, hon, you didn't have to explain to me what you were doing for the whole week-end because of my quip (although if you had been free I would have tried to talk you into meeting me downtown [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/wink.gif[/img] ).
You sound like you have a really full week-end. Wow.
My week-end is actually full of household chores, with that off-shoot to the movies I did tonight. I'm not sure when DH and the kids are coming home. It was either tomorrow or Monday.
Oh, I can just tell everything will probably end up in the same kind of thing with my SIL - petty b/s if you ask me. We have never really exchanged birthday gifts with the kids because we haven't lived close enough for quite some time. I did attend her twins' birthday party when they turned two I think and her youngest daughter's when she turned 1, but my soul, that was a long time ago.
This year, I wasn't here for the twins' birthday but DH was and apparently he gave them money and I know SIL complained that it wasn't very much, but Chrikey, she's lucky he remembered period.
We did go to her youngest one's birthday party a couple of weeks ago, it was my kids only that were at the party and I thought it went well.
But I'm not expecting anything gift wise from her for my kids, although Em's birthday will be hard to forget because, yes, it is on the same day as the wicked SIL's. Jesse, he always seems to get forgotten, December month, though at the beginning.
She's funny though, she's already counting on the money that she usually gets from her MIL for her birthday and it is actually a large chunk of change IMHO, but she's been talking about it already and her birthday isn't for three weeks.
I don't understand that kind of attitude.
So, I ran into her at my MIL's this morning. Then, she called me. Apparently, she has come up with some other food to send for lunches this week with the kids and there was no mention of pb and I just couldn't be bothered saying something snarky.
She's a couple of years younger than me and she's new back in Toronto, although she has a lot of acquaintances in this area, which I don't. The really sad thing is that I can really sense that she needs a *good* friend and I know I could be that to her, but when push comes to shove, she couldn't be that for me because of her nature (the gossiping and two faced stuff). Again, I just feel really sad because I can see so clearly how much a good friendship might help her.
Here's what a sucker I am. I ran into her at the plaza to-day as well when I went there (oh joy, oh bliss, every time I go to the plaza I run into an in-law [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/rolleyes.gif[/img] - why can't it be one of my family?) She had the girls with her because her DH was helping someone move and I said, well, if your Dad is home later, I'm taking your Mom to the show with me.
And I did call her before I left for the show. She wasn't home.
I really do forgive and forget a lot of sh**, he**, I've had to with this family or I wouldn't be speaking with ANY of them EVER, and I guess for me, that's why I was asking you, Anna Marie, if you felt sad you didn't have a relationship with your SIL (or a good one at least) or if it was self preservation. I still haven't learned the self preservation part very well when it comes to people I can see that are in need, even if they are toxic. I just really want to help.
But aside from calling her to-day to see if she wanted to go to the show (and she probably wouldn't have), I was welcome to go over to her place to-day and hang around and know I am all week-end, but I'm not going to. I'm just going to stay to myself and not really because I'm even angry or upset anymore but because I don't want to get further entangled because I do sense this is going to blow and when it does, it will not be pretty.
Have a good week-end Anna Marie. [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/smile.gif[/img]
Best wishes! [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/smile.gif[/img]

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