I am so mad I could spit nails!!

Posted on: Tue, 01/09/2007 - 9:06am
seanmn's picture
Joined: 10/01/2003 - 09:00

My PA DS came home from school today telling me they had bakery cupcakes for a birthday. He is in 1st grade.

His teacher told him he could not have one because they were from a bakery, so he had to eat a snack from home. I guess this has been going on all year for birthday's. Even though when I had talked to her, she said they are not allowed to bring in anything for their birthday unless it was off the safe snack sheet I had given her.

He feels so bad. I don't know why he didn't tell me this before.

Anyway, I e-mailed her and send a copy to the principal.

It states in his 504 that he be in a peanut-free classroom.

This really upsets me. Everything had been going so smoothly, I guess. This is the first problem I have encountered.

Why are these teachers such moron's!!!! It just drives me crazy with the food, food, food!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Ok, I am going to go run a few laps around the house. Thanks for listening.


Posted on: Tue, 01/09/2007 - 11:39am
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Joined: 06/21/2003 - 09:00

[This message has been edited by NicoleinNH (edited March 05, 2007).]

Posted on: Tue, 01/09/2007 - 12:20pm
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Jan, does his 504 specify peanut-free or free of *may contains* or *trace amounts*. If the cupcakes did not actually contain peanuts the school may feel it is following the 504.
I find this entire birthday *thing* quite aggravating. During lunch a student was reprimanded for sharing a snack in his lunchbox with a friend. Sharing is not allowed due to some students having food allergies. Shortly after lunch, a student was allowed to hand out cookies to the entire class for his birthday. I pointed out to the teacher that it seems rather ridiculous to not let two friends share, and then let one student share with the entire class. Baffles the mind!

Posted on: Tue, 01/09/2007 - 12:48pm
Carefulmom's picture
Joined: 01/03/2002 - 09:00

We had it written into dd`s 504 that I am given a list of birthdays every year. When she was in elementary school, I always packed her a cupcake if any child in the class was having a birthday. That way if something was brought in, she would have something. If not, then she got an extra treat anyhow.
That is terrible that the teacher said the kids only bring birthday treats from the safe snack list, when it wasn`t true.

Posted on: Tue, 01/09/2007 - 7:59pm
PA-Mom's picture
Joined: 09/18/2006 - 09:00

So sorry to hear of your experience. It IS baffling that schools push food so much (should'nt they push academics?). If your agreement is that food comes from the safe snack list - this is a violation of the 504. I would also require two days notice prior to any birthday treat being brought in for your approval - maybe an approval form can be created? I also include the non-food suggestions on our treat list like pencils, stickers, etc. I hope this helps and your child has a safe year!

Posted on: Wed, 01/10/2007 - 12:32am
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Joined: 12/14/2006 - 09:00

I hate snacks in the classroom too....for parties and b-day's, make me a nervous wreck. But I am getting a 504 together as we speak and am wondering this same situation. If, like you, state that only apporved foods come in, if the bakery box has NO label, then it wouldn't/shouldn't have been allowed, right? What if it does have a label, like from the grocery store, and no mention of nuts/made in/facility....if everything was labeled and okay, is the treat allowed then?? And then if it does have a label, do you require them to let you read it as well, or just take the teachers word for it. Also, then does your child STILL not have any, only eat their safe snack.....this does get confusing!!!
Maybe the teacher read the label, found it safe and served them to the other kids? In your 504 is the teacher supposed to also have you read the label???
sorry if I am asking so many questions, I also want to be sure I cover every angle, like all of you have done. I also make sure I ask the teacher about the snack and not go from what my son tells me. I about had a heart attack recently(his room is not nut-free...yet) so he came home and said "so and so brought in peanutbutter cookies"!! I immedietly got upset and emailed the teacher....I asked if they were pb cookies then I needed to be called and I would pick my son up for the day, if they couldn't make the room pn-free then I didn't want him there.....she returned the email saying they were sugar cookies and he ate his safe snack!! By the 504 rules, this won't be allowed anymore, but for now, I had to relax and let it go.

Posted on: Thu, 01/11/2007 - 12:54am
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Joined: 10/01/2003 - 09:00

Well, DS's teacher called me yesterday. She admitted it was her fault for letting the cupcakes in class. This was the third time it happened. She did call the place where they came from to confirm they did not have peanuts, they did not, but my child still did not get a birthday treat.
I told her I did not trust bakery items at all, so no more.
She is going to send a new list to the parents today reminding them about only sending snacks off the safe list I provided for her.
Ryan is so happy there will not be any more cupcakes.
At the time she called me there was bread being made in the bread machine. WHAT?!
I told her, no room for discussion, that I need to know if she is going to have any food in the classroom, period. She is very good about reading the warning labels, but I told her I must know anyway.
I also said just because she reads the label doesn't mean it is safe. I told her we get notified of recalls that she would have no idea took place.
She is in full agreement of all of the things I want. I just think she needed a little scare in her to remind her of what could happen. Ryan has not had anything happen to him this year, so she may have eased up a bit.
I also told her to stick to the well known brands. My allergist said this is safer because they have to label for allergens, the ma and pop companies do not.
I also sent my e-mail to the principal so he was aware of what was going on. I don't care if she liked it or not, he has to be aware of what is going on in his school.

Posted on: Thu, 01/11/2007 - 1:35am
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Anonymous (not verified)

Quote:Originally posted by seanmn:
[b]I also said just because she reads the label doesn't mean it is safe. I told her we get notified of recalls that she would have no idea took place.
Excellent point to make. [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/smile.gif[/img]
Hopefully she will now follow the rules. It sounds like she is in agreement with you -- just not enforcing things properly.

Posted on: Thu, 01/11/2007 - 2:51am
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Joined: 03/19/2001 - 09:00

Hi Seanm:
I have a question, are you upset because you feel letting the cupcakes into the classroom jepordized your child's safety? Or are you upset that birthday treats were brought in that your child couldn't have?
edited to add: when I re-read my question(s) I am afraid that in cyberspace it might be interpreted the wrong way. I am not questioning your feelings, only trying to figure out what your main concern was. Thanks!
[This message has been edited by kelly01 (edited January 11, 2007).]

Posted on: Thu, 01/11/2007 - 2:54am
seanmn's picture
Joined: 10/01/2003 - 09:00

Both, his safety is nuber one, but it is also not fair to exclude him from something everyone else has. He felt very hurt.

Posted on: Thu, 01/11/2007 - 3:32am
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Joined: 12/29/2002 - 09:00

Quote:Originally posted by seanmn:
I also said just because she reads the label doesn't mean it is safe. I told her we get notified of recalls that she would have no idea took place.
I worry about this Jan because now we are telling the schools they don't read labels as well as we do. I know we get FAAN recalls but they are few and far between.
Maybe you can CC the school on any pertinent food recalls.
We have to be careful that we are not the only people that know how to keep our children safe. Sooner or later we have to put our trust in someone.
I know I don't like the sound of that either but it has to happen or they will start tossing our kids out of the schools.


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