How did the Valentine\'s parties go in school?

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My DS's party went very well. There were several paper Valentine's along with a few pencils, a heart straw, a few little notebooks, a ruler/stencil and some safe candy from the teacher with my ok. So, I am very happy with how the party turned out.

Jan

On Feb 14, 2006

Well the piece of cake my pa son wanted to bring to school get smashed so he didnt eat it. He got some treats from classmates but nothing he couldnt have. One mom gave out a deck of heart shaped cards which I thought was great. Some lollipos and a reg sized hershey bar. My other son came home with alot of unsafe candy but alot of moms did pencils and safe candy too.

On Feb 14, 2006

DS came home excited, not about the candy he got with valentines, but about the bouncy ball he won at Bingo during the party.

On Feb 14, 2006

I assisted at the kindergarten and 4th grade parties. [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/smile.gif[/img]

both had an ice cream bar (I assisted the school with safe choices, including waffle bowls, toppings, whipped cream, sprinkles, candies, cookies, etc.) Soda was also present. Sugar junkies. go figure. I'm a bad mommy. [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/tongue.gif[/img]

Anywhooooooooo. there were several stations in the kindergarten including craft of "love bugs", tower building with hearts, bucket bingo, story time.

4th grade stations included: bean bag toss, valentine pictionary, valentine charades, limbo, and dancing (macarena, twist, electric slide, etc....) I also included a [i]polaroid[/i] opportunity, one for each student, with who they wanted a picture with. (Of course, both parties to consent.) [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/biggrin.gif[/img] (I received prior permission).

No advice, but....

I'm wiped. [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/tongue.gif[/img]

On Feb 14, 2006

oh, and parents provided "non-food" favors galore. Everyone who participated took home a handfull. Or more.

On Feb 14, 2006

My kids are all too old for Valentine's parties, BUT, while I was at the store last night, I heard a mom explain to her young daughter that she (DD) had to pick SAFE treats for her party - the package had to say 'no nuts'. It was good to hear.

On Feb 15, 2006

In 5th grade, you really don't have a "party". As the teacher put it, "You're in 5th grade, if you want to bring something in, do it." So, I wasn't aware that anything was being brought in, parents were not told. Well, my DD comes to me at lunch and tells me that a girl decided to bring in Reese's PB cups for everyone! They were all walking around the classroom eating them! She said the teacher did tell everyone to eat them at the "Peanut" table and to please wash your hands after you finish. My DD said nobody did that, but she didn't feel threatened.

I went to the nurse's office and told her about the situation (she's good with this stuff) and she was furious! She thought it was a good time to send a reminder notice home to parents about the allergy and not bringing stuff in and to alert the teacher once again.

This teacher is just not enforcing it. I am thankful that my DD is very cautious in this class and will walk out if she feels threatened. We'll see what happens. Just 4 more months and its on to middle school.

On Feb 15, 2006

Lindajo, oh my soul. [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/redface.gif[/img] I'm glad that your daughter is the age she is and was able to tell you what had happened and also keep herself safe.

I just posted about this under How Did PA Affect Your Day To-Day. I thought it was Hallowe'en all over again yesterday. I have never seen them bring home (or eat) so much candy at Valentine's Day. It was unreal (and in my mind's eye, unnecessary).

A lot of "may contains" that my guy couldn't have and he did trade unsafe stuff for safe stuff amongst his classmates.

But you really have to wonder - in a "reduce the risk" school with a classroom that is *supposed* to be "peanut free", you would think that some mention would have been made not to bring in anything that was not okay.

I'll have to ask him if there were any blatant peanut products.

Nothing bad happened - I had two kids on a sugar high that crashed very badly last night, but for some reason to-day I'm a bit upset about all of the candy and all of the candy that was not okay.

My daughter was given one of the Valentine's Day cookies that they are selling all month long at our school that I have to call about. I guess I'll call to-day. At worst, it's "may contain" but this just seems endless to me this year.

My son's class (Grade 5) did not have a party. My daughter's class (Grade 3) did. I don't think she has any PA children in her class. At any rate, she was responsible for providing for this party, so we made safe cupcakes. Someone else brought in store bought cupcakes that weren't safe.

The other thing that bothered me was that when they were sorting through the candy last night, most of the things didn't have ingredient labels. Oh well.

Another call to make.

Do they have parties at Easter time? If they do, perhaps I could mention something to my son's teacher about a PA notice for that. I don't know anymore.

Best wishes! [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/smile.gif[/img]

------------------ "That was Polanski. Nicholson got his nose cut."

On Feb 15, 2006

My son is 19 months old and in a "peanut free" daycare. I spoke to the director and his teacher last week and told them he could not eat anything that we didn't approve -- we preferred that for his classroom nothing would be served without a label -- the director said that she couldn't tell the parents what they could and could not bring (what?!?). I am currently in talks with her boss about what peanut free means and how to keep my son safe -- so, I went to the party and the teacher had already made a plate for him but he wasn't seated yet -- the plate had homemade rice krispie treats, homemade muffins, ritz crackers, cheese, and caramel rice cakes (that I brought). I told her that he couldn't eat the homemade stuff so she brought him a new plate and made it up for him. He was fine with his plate of food and didn't try to grab anyone else's. It went fine, but I was a little upset that she had put things on his plate that I hadn't approved -- I will never be able to not go to a party at his school. Okay, so here's the kicker -- this is a peanut free school, right? Well, my good friend has a son in the 0-12 months room and she called me last night to tell me that the teachers had given out valentine's to the parents that included SNICKERS!!!! What?!?!? Again, I'm in the process of calling and speaking with the area director about all of this. It's very disappointing. Any advice, please?

On Feb 15, 2006

My DD's kindergarten party went well. They played games. One of the games involved using Sweethearts as markers, but they didn't eat them and I'd talked to the teacher about which brand they were first. The teachers did give out Little Debbie heart cakes, but they'd asked me about it in advance, so I sent in homemade heart cookies for DD. She was fine with the equivalency. The kids' parents did remember the no-peanuts policy when it came to the candy given with Valentines. My DD did trade several things that were either unsafe or unknown once she got home; they aren't allowed to eat their candy at school. The bus driver asked if the treats she was giving out were okay for DD, which I appreciated; she'd bought suckers specifically because she thought they were a kind OK for PA kids, and she was right. My DS doesn't have anyone with food allergies in his 2nd grade class. They had a brief party that involved watching Charlie Brown, opening Valentines, and eating treats. When a boy gave my son Nutter Butters with his Valentine, my son went to him to see if he still had Oreos or Chips Ahoy that he'd given some other people, and explained that his sister has PA. When the boy didn't have any more, my son tried to just return the package to him so that he wouldn't have to bring it home! The boy wouldn't take it and wanted him to try to trade with someone else, but he didn't find any takers. It was kind of funny. Nice to think of his sister, maybe a little rude to his classmate, although he talked to him nicely. He did bring it home and traded with me for safe candy. He also traded a Butterfinger heart. He said he didn't even want that stuff enough to take the chance with his sister, he'd rather eat something else. It's nice, because otherwise he picks on her a lot.

On Feb 15, 2006

I just can't believe how much food is given out for holiday's even though the teacher's know there is an allergy. My DS's teacher has no problem with the "No Food" policy and was delighted that parents found so many neat non-food items to send. What happened to just passing out the paper Valentine's? That is all we did when I was in school.

I consider myself very lucky that my DS's teacher is so willing to cooperate with everything.

Jan

On Feb 15, 2006

This was probably the worst party I've been to in ds's three years in school. First of all, the class mom's decided to do ice cream - they only asked me after how I would "handle it". So basically I had to bring in everything seperate for my son, the ice cream, syrup, sprinkles, etc. V.V. annoying. Then someone (one of the class moms? another parent?) sent in goody bags filled with Reeses and Snickers. basically, a bag if death - gee, thanks. I was appalled that it would be handed blithely to my son. As soon as I saw it I threw it in the garbage. Then one of the class moms had her toddler there (which wasn;t right IMO) - he was walking around eating chocolate...there was melted choclate all over his hands and of course he was touching everything.

I was so glad when it was over. I'm scheduling a meeting with our head school nurse about establishing some guidelines for the school about hw class parents should handle parties wrt food/allergies, and also set some guidelines about parents just being allowed to send in whatever they want to class. I've been wanting to do this for a while, and I guess this party was the kick in the butt I needed. And the real kicker - one of the class moms has a PA child. You would think there would be more compassion or at least enough thought to check the candy in the goody bags - not that ds would ever eat it, but what if he reached his hand in to see what was in there? He isn't usually contact reactive, but last night he did have two littel hives on his hand which went away on their own. [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/frown.gif[/img]

When did the giving out of candy for Valentine's Day start, anyway? What's wrong with just paper valentines?

On Feb 15, 2006

I attended dd's preschool party. It's no problem with me that they have a special snack for party days. She, of course, couldn't eat any of it, but I was prepared with her favorite cupcake and some safe candy. The part that really bugged me was that as I talked with the other parents 2 of them said their children are PA, too. But they let their children eat everything offered. I don't understand. They, of course, think that I am just a freak.

I'm not insanely protective, right? If it doesn't have an ingredient list on it and the list doesn't prove to be completely pn free, dd doesn't eat it. And she understands it, for the most part.

Why do other parents not take pa seriously? As they stand there telling me that their dc had a reaction last week involving swelling and hives all over.

Frustrated. That's how I feel about Valentine's Day.

------------------ Patty mom to Sara (7/02) allergic to pn, grass, trees Julia (9/04) allergic to eggs?

On Feb 15, 2006

It went well enough, I guess. DS is in kindergarten, and this is our first year of dealing with holiday parties of this sort. The teacher had sent a notice home last Thursday reminding parents that there are PA kids in the class, and to not send in any treats with the valentines. I also instructed DS on what to do if he did get a treat from a classmate, explaining that not all parents find the time to read everything in the weekly newsletter. Out of a class of 22, 6 kids brought in treats to go with the valentines. That part was disappointing. The good parts were that 1)DS didn't even attempt to eat any of them, 2)all the kids took the treats home rather than eat them in the classroom, and 3)none of the treats had peanuts or tree nuts as ingredients, and 4 of the 6 were actually safe. Since the odds are against that happening by chance, I'm assuming that parents at least read labels when choosing treats.

A good friend of mine just had a baby a few weeks ago, and now has four kids in her household. She's a very busy lady, and sleep-deprived as well right now. She had gone shopping for treats to send in with her DS' valentines (he's at a different school and in 6th grade--I have no idea if there are any allergies in his class, but probably not or my friend would have mentioned it). When she got home, she noticed that the mini Nestle Crunch bars were "may contains". Rather than take a chance by sending them, she ate them herself for breakfast. [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/biggrin.gif[/img] Oh, and her husband was out of town for 5 days due to a death in the family, so she was handling it all on her own. I'm sure she deserved a treat like that.

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