Posted on: Sat, 11/05/2005 - 2:18pm
momtotwokidz's picture
Joined: 10/02/2005 - 09:00

ok, this being our first holiday season with knowing about my sons allergies has me nervous. I think he is doing well with knowing that when we tell him, it might have nuts, he knos it can cause owwies. This has even stopped him from eating a lollipop (he is allergic to soy and it had soy protein). We are having Thanksgiving at sister in laws, whose son has a peanut and tree nut allergy.
Our list just keeps seeming to grow, I think he is also allergic to either tomatoes, or some sort of peppers as he broke out when he helped eat my sald the other night. I feel ok at her house.
BUt at CHristmas we will be at mother in laws house with ALL of the family, which will be over 20-30 people, it is a big get together with lots of food just out for people to snack on. 95% of it I know my son will not be able to eat, and I in the past have just let him roam free during family get togethers and now feel like I can't let him out of my sight.
It seems like we are still learning, every time we think we have it all elimintaed, he either breaks out again, or we forgot to read a package and find it contains something bad. People say, just let mw know what he can't eat, and I feel like it is more like, what he can. That list is smaller.

Posted on: Wed, 09/25/2013 - 10:43am
mom1995's picture
Joined: 11/09/2004 - 09:00

It's never too early to start reminding everyone. In our family there is one my husbands Aunts that always is in charge of cordinating the dishes, she sends out the emails and reminds everyone to only bring nut free food. We had an issue one year and I explained that unless it was going to be nut free then we could not attend. Just that simple. I made sure that all the extended family understood that even second hand contact or left over residue on anyone of them would send us to the hospital and could potentially kill our daughter. I won't lie there is always that one person who just does not get it but every year we have a great family event. There have even been creative deserts just for us like pecanless pecan pie. Which is really just a sugar pie that when she was 6 and 7 she thought was the coolest thing ever. There are so many foods that can be served without nuts it really is not an issue. Only and individual can be an issue but not the allergy.

Posted on: Thu, 09/26/2013 - 9:16am's picture
Joined: 06/21/2013 - 11:03

Question of the Week: Answered!
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Our Answer:
Holidays and big get-togethers can be stressful for anyone with (or anyone related to someone with) food allergies.
Telling your family about your daughter’s peanut allergy was the first step you needed to take. Make sure that they understand the severity of her allergy.
You may want to ask them if they are willing to make holidays peanut-free so that your daughter can enjoy the celebration without having to worry about an allergic reaction. You can also recommend some PA-friendly recipes that are great for the holidays. Check out our recipes section for ideas!
However, if they decide not to go peanut-free for the holidays, you can still go to the get-together. Here are some tips:
- Ask to see labels and boxes of foods that others bring to the party.
- For home-cooked meals, request that your family members either label the dishes that contain peanuts or bring a list of the ingredients for you.
- During the celebration, make sure to check your daughter’s plate before she starts eating. You could also bring an entire meal for your daughter to eat.
- Ask that everyone washes his or her hands thoroughly before getting close to your daughter.
We wish you the best of luck and hope that your family has a fun and safe holiday season!

Posted on: Fri, 09/27/2013 - 2:40pm
stressedmommy's picture
Joined: 03/16/2006 - 09:00

My son has many, many severe food allergies. Granted we don't have as large of a family as some, but never the less, we all bring part of the meal for holidays.
Our family is use to me (and him now) asking, "what's in this?" or for packaged items like store bought rolls or something, "can I see the package?" My mom will even label containers with signs stating baked goods are free of his allergens so he will know he can eat them and attaches a recipe card to the side as well.
That in general is for his egg and fruit allergies. As far at the tree and peanut allergies...for holidays these products just are not used in anything, period.
For larger family reunions (30+ people) like this past weekend, we simply bring his food. It is too difficult for others we only see once or twice a year to work around his very long list of life threatening food allergies.

Posted on: Sat, 09/28/2013 - 2:55am
tomanyfoodalergies's picture
Joined: 09/01/2013 - 15:35

thank you everyone for the advice. I think I will send out a message to everyone(some of his family lives out of state) to let them no about our nut allergy. you guys really made me feel more at ease.

Posted on: Sun, 09/29/2013 - 1:20am
momtoemie's picture
Joined: 03/13/2013 - 20:19

I am a Registered Dietitian with a 2 year old with a peanut allergy. I created a handout for family that you could modify (it's just in word). send me an email address & I can share it.

Posted on: Sun, 09/29/2013 - 1:46am
txtina's picture
Joined: 05/06/2013 - 06:00

I adore my huge family, but in 10 years we have had to take our peanut kid to the ER 3 times because of peanut exposures at family functions. So many people, and every year someone forgets. For 6 years we avoided family gatherings, but we decided to get a new plan. We remind everyone OFTEN, and as they walk in the door with their dish...then my child only eats what I bring...nothing else. I'm sure to make several of his favorites. (Even though he doesn't eat their food he still does not to be around peanuts). We also either keep his food separate in a cooler, or let him go thought the line first...(cross contamination...people switching spoons, etc). Before we leave for the event I show him whats Ive made, and what dish it is in. He's 16 now, and still there are family members who just don't understand this and think we are just being dramatic....or that he's just a "picky eater". It's been such a hard journey to give him a "normal" childhood, and keep him safe. It doesn't get easier as he gets older...we just have a new set of problems.

Posted on: Sun, 09/29/2013 - 2:53am
jap's picture
Joined: 08/11/2013 - 08:33

Firstly i have looked after my 15 year old daughter who has never had a second exposure since age one. She is greater than 100 out of 100 on tests and is so allergic that peas and lentils are also an allergy.
Firstly your daughter will take her allergy as seriously as you do, hopefully you carry two epi pens etc ?
Sadly a girl died this summer when eating peanuts at a camp (frosting)
I cannot speak for the camp or parents, hindsight is always 20/20 and they have my sympathy.
What I do in functions is phone ahead and make sure no peanut products are served or contact the parents and organization ahead to let them know.
Your situation should be easy with family or should be and you have to be your child's advocate.I would contact all members and let them know that if peanut of any kind including oil is used this would exclude your child from the event. Schools recommend a buffer table between peanut so that could not be done at your family party. Quiet frankly if they could not make that concession to protect your daughter why would you go, it is a small sacrifice to make compared to your child's life, no food is worth that. this would ensure a nut free table, however it does not mean that the food is safe to eat for her. i cannot tell you how many times at events people have sworn blind it was safe and on re checking it had peanut . Unless you deal with it daily you don't know.
You then pack a cooler of all your daughters favorite foods, maybe she can help and you take her food with you then you won't have to go over every ingredient with every member.You just tell them that is the way it is, diabetics have to be firm ???
Advocate , advocate , advocate , donot bend and except no substitutes.

Posted on: Sun, 09/29/2013 - 3:06am
raye's picture
Joined: 09/15/2013 - 17:27

I respectfully disagree with asking family to refrain from cooking with nuts at holiday time. Rather, I would prepare her favorite comfort foods (yes, even mac and cheese) but keep it very festive for her. If she likes turkey or chicken, you can buy a package of pieces and cook them her favorite way, adding nut-free dressing and veggies that she likes, and be sure she has some special foods like cranberry sauce or pumpkin pie, whatever is nut-free that you can prepare and bring along. I would also suggest that you buy from one of the many online nut-free facilities, some of the delicious chocolate turkey-shaped lollipops, or Smiley-face candies--anything festive. Get enough to share with the other kids, for sure, so their dessert can be the same as hers! Instruct your child to, under no circumstance, take so much as a taste of ANY FOODS EXCEPT WHAT YOU GIVE HER. At the party, you can post a sign, maybe in the bathroom, or some convenient place, "Hi! Mary is EXTREMELY allergic to nuts, so please, do not offer her even a bite of ANY foods--no candy, no snacks. She has her own delicious lunch-with-no-nuts, and has brought some great candy to share with the other kids. THANKS!" Just before eating, again, make the announcement in a serious way: "I just wanted to again remind everyone-- Mary is EXTREMELY allergic to ANY NUTS (OR PEANUTS, whatever it is), so I need to say again that she has her own super-Thanksgiving lunch and under no circumstnces can she even taste any other foods here. And by the way, she brought some great chocolates (or nut-free pumpkin cookies, whatever)to share with the other kids!" so Mary can definitely eat lots of those:-)!!" Then, go DIRECTLY and prepare your daughter's very attractive plate, which will look much like everyone else's, if you plan it right--but will just be safe and nut-free. Bottomline, YOU prepare any food she might eat at gatherings. Consult her--ask her "What SPECIAL treats would you like to have to eat for Thanksgiving at Grandma's?

Posted on: Sun, 09/29/2013 - 7:16am
Saralinda's picture
Joined: 01/12/2004 - 09:00

My sisters and I are all allergic to different stuff, I have a BIL who can't have garlic or onions, and I have one kid who is a vegetarian. Does this mean we can not have a festive (and yes, even traditional) holiday meal? Of course not. Here is our basic menu: No nuts in anything (of course.)Blackberry jelly for the sister who can't have cranberries. Make the turkey stuffing without chicken broth, use turkey instead. Skip the onions and garlic. Who needs 'em? Can't have green beans? Have peas or broccoli instead. We make special stuffing for the vegetarian which can have onion and garlic. Pies are pumpkin and apple. Cookies are sugar. We can deal with dairy or gluten sensitivities. Not every one eats everything served, but no body starves and nobody has a reaction. A good hostess makes her guests feel at home and safe.

Posted on: Sun, 09/29/2013 - 11:15am
tomanyfoodalergies's picture
Joined: 09/01/2013 - 15:35

thank you for all the husband sent outa message to all of his family to ask them if their food has any nuts or could contain nut please make it. so I hope they will but we will take all the precautions for her.



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