Hello, I am a mom of a boy with a very severe pa about to enter high school. I am so glad to find this sight and it is very educating and comforting in a way to read some of the postings to know we are not the only ones with alot of these problems. We are pretty "ignorant" in a way dealing with allergies and Thank God have been very fortunate to have made it this far. I would love to chat with some of you that may have some advice for a young man who is very active, very self conscious about being perceived as "different", and very stubborn to the concept of "nothing is going to happen to me!" (Most of this attitude stems from our school system's way of handling his pa from day 1, my lack of knowledge and the fact that I too was employed by them and did not want to make waves!) Stupid me, I should of just looked out for my son as I am no longer employed there and he is still suffering from some of the ramifications of how they dealt with it. Please help, as you can tell I need to talk! Thank you!
On Jan 19, 2007
I am posting to say hi and welcome!
My children are much younger than your son so I can't help with High School issues but you have certainly come to a good forum for information.
Don't beat yourself up about the past. You did the best you could with the information and situations you had. We all do our best for our kids [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/smile.gif[/img]!
I am betting you will have some suggestions for those of us with younger kids.
Jump in, ask questions, do searches for past discussions.
It is nice to have you join us.
On Jan 20, 2007
Hello and welcome!
My son is only eight, but it feels like the teenage years are coming fast! Exactly how you approach your son will depend a lot on him. Have you had a chance to talk about any of the other "big" issues (drugs, alcohol, sex)? PA is just as serious as any of those.
If you need a story to show him how fast a reaction can prove deadly, this poor girls story might get through (have a tissue ready before you read it): [url="http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/Forum8/HTML/001986.html"]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/Forum8/HTML/001986.html[/url]
Do you think you could enlist his friends to help out? Someone to watch his back and help counteract the pressure not to look different? FAAN has a teen website, which might help [url="http://www.faanteen.org/"]http://www.faanteen.org/[/url]
You also might want to try and post a question about this on the main board - it gets more traffic, so you might get some advice from those who have gone through the teenage years.
Hope this helps!
On Jan 20, 2007
Hi, my son is finishing college this year and has done very well with recognizing how serious his PA is and not being afraid to stand out.
How this happened? I think it's just him. He's not a taker of chances and he's not a very active kid so it's easier for him to stay safe. I mean I also worked very hard to help him understand WHY he had to be so careful all thru his teen years.
He went to small private schools from K till 12 and now even college. That was our way of being sure he could always get help if he needed it. And assuring us of cooperation from administration. Writitng that big check for a well behaved smart kid always gets their eyes and ears.
I wish I could help you more and I hesitate to tell you to read a few stories with your son on people that did not survive reactions. I mean that might jog your son a bit.
Be sure it is not your own fear of letting him go that is making you feel uneasy. It is possible your son's behavior out in the world is safe and watchful.
I know how hard it is to let go and how much learning and growing goes on in those last years of MS into HS.
I hope this helps.
On Jan 22, 2007
Thank you all for your advice. Thank you for the websites to use as reference and stories. I can't wait to get home and share them with my son, and my husband. So glad to have found all of you!
On Jan 27, 2007
Welcome! I wish I could give you advice on the older group of kids with PA, but I only have little ones!! I am certain you will still find lots of great info here that can and will certainly apply to your son. It can be hard to think about things that have happened in the past...but, hey, you wake up every day with a clean slate! That's the great thing...you can do your best to try to control things without letting the allergy control you. (sometimes easier said then done, i know [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/wink.gif[/img] ) At any rate, welcome. We're glad you're here.