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Hi there. I'm the mom of an 11yr old daughter who was diagnosed with a peanut allergy when she was 3 1/2. We lived in Ontario at the time. When she was 6, she was re-tested and the Dr seemed to think she might have been outgrowing her allergy. We moved from Ontario to BC around that time and she was re-tested again last year. This new Dr stated there was no way she was outgrowing the allergy, that she'd probably have it for the rest of her life and then proceeded to scare the crap out of her with all the "don't do this or that or eat this or that, etc" I now have a very phobic daughter. While I can understand her need to be vigilant on reading the labels, she's gotten to the point of not wanting to eat out or going over to friends houses for sleepovers where she might have to eat something there. We've gone to restaurants and I've talked to the staff to determine if there are peanut allergy threats and even after I'd done so, she still won't eat anything. I'm torn between wanting her to enjoy herself and being comfy with her being so aware. Hopefully, by being on this site, I can help identify food friendly restaurants (we're going to Vegas in a month!) and help her feel more in control of her food choices.

By Samantha418 on May 31, 2011

Hi!

This story sounds so similar to what happened to me. I am 22 years old now, and was diagnosed with a peanut allergy when I was 8 months old. When I was her age, I acted the same exact way. I was too embarassed to tell people that I had an allergy, so instead I just wanted to stay home. With encouragement from my friends and family that I could be cautious but live a full life, I started to break out of my shell. Then for a while I was accident free, and I started to become a little careless, and wouldn't always ask what kind of oil was used, etc. Then when I was 20 years old I went into anaphylactic shock and was rushed to the hospital. For about a month after that, the only thing I would eat was turkey on white wonderbread, because I didn't trust anything else. It took a while to regain my confidence, but now I am eating out at restaurants again, I am just very careful. Your daughter needs to go through these emotions towards the allergy so as to learn her own methods of being safe. Once she finds her own balance of safety and fun, she'll feel a lot better about the allergy and how to properly handle. But, if she is forced too soon to trust others to understand her allergy and she gets sick (god forbid) then it will take her a lot longer to become truly ok with this restricted lifestyle. My advice is to continue to be there for her as you have been, but also let her figure out how she personally wants to deal with her allergy. After all, she is the one who will have to deal with it for her entire life. Now I always make sure to carry 2 epi-pens, wear my medical bracelet, and give out allergy identification cards at any restaurant I eat at, and so far so good! You can also check out my story and other tips at www.allerlife.com. Hope this helps, and good luck!

By Terismom99 on Jun 10, 2011

Clearly, you're a troll, therefore your comments are as ridiculous as you think my actions are.

Walk a mile in my shoes before you make asinine comments like that.

By peanutlover on Jun 10, 2011

Your child is fearful because you are putting fear in them. How about just being aware instead of fearful?

I am a woman. When I go out at night in a city, I need to be worried about being mugged, attacked or raped. Should I stay home? No...I should be aware and prepared.

Stop scaring your children. It's ridiculous.

By peanutlover on Jun 10, 2011

I am an auntie with a nephew that has a peanut allergy.

You are paranoid and may want to consider educating yourself and your children versus trying to limit other people's food intake.

Do you realize that a peanut butter sandwich from a school is the only food some children get to have because they are poor? You are taking food out of starving children's mouths.

And as a side note, I have an allergy to aspartame. I urinate blood and experience kidney damage. Would you like to know what I do? I look at ingredients...and I don't eat it if it contains aspartame. I EDUCATE MYSELF.

And I don't recall calling you names..."troll"? Really? Wow...all from me saying you're spreading paranoia...which you are. lol

By Samantha418 on Jun 12, 2011

A "troll" is a term for someone who searches the internet.

By peanutlover on Jun 10, 2011

Wow...you realllly don't like it when people talk back to you and your views...

LOL! I DO LOVE PEANUTS!! I DO URINATE BLOOD and you know what...i put my effort into things that matter in life, like protecting my sister who came here for help and instead received nothing but negativity when she called people out for the MISINFORMATION.

BTW, I don't see anything on the risks of over injecting your children with epinephrine. You may want to add the risks to that as well.

I'm on this site today to protect my sister and catch her back because there was no really for the way people spoke to her.

This site does nothing but occupy bored people's minds. Be parents..stop paranoia..

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