Hello... Don\'t peanuts just drive you crazy?

Posted on: Sun, 12/09/2001 - 8:15pm
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Hi there, Just wanted to say what a wonderful site this is. And like me everyone seems to be driven crazy about peanuts. I have a 3 yo daughter who is peanut/treenut allergic and at times I feel like its ruling my life and that I am an obsessive mother. Its so good to know I'm not alone. I have already spent hours upon hours exploring so many topics and want to keep on tuning in to see what is happening with everyone. I am in Australia and so find some of the terminology interesting ....504's we need them here too. Until next time.

Posted on: Wed, 12/19/2001 - 2:17pm
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To answer your question, no they don't drive me crazy. I don't resent kids eating pb&j on TV shows. I don't care that other people love peanuts. Heck, I loved them too before Jan 16, 1997.
I just feel this is the hand we were delt and we have to play it. So we read labels and we carry and epi and we move on with life.
I will not raise a child who is consumed with fear of peanuts. But I am raising a child who is now 5 and understands that he can't have them. It is as normal to him as the fact he has two arms and two legs. It is just part of who he is.
We are so blessed to have this child. If PA is the worse thing that happens to him then we are double-blessed.
[This message has been edited by Boone (edited December 20, 2001).]

Posted on: Wed, 12/19/2001 - 2:30pm
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Boone - you have a great attitude! Reading your reply made me think even more that I should be grateful that my son's PA is the worse thing he has to deal with. It is very difficult to live with considering there is so much he can't have, yet, it is a small inconvenience compared to someone who, say, has terminal cancer.

Posted on: Wed, 12/19/2001 - 6:29pm
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Boone,
I am glad that peanuts don't drive you crazy... I wonder though if they ever did? I don't for a moment consider PA to be as terrible as a child with cancer or the multitude of other illnesses and afflictions that one could be unfortunate enough to have however when you first began to educate your family and friends about peanut allergy and your peanut free home they still gave your family homebaked peanut cookies for christmas or you tried to explain the severity of your childs allergy to your prospective preschool teacher who took it with a grain of salt and said she'll be OK (when the child next to you 3 year old could be eating a peanut butter sandwich). I love my child more than anything else in this world and I don't for a minute hope to turn my child into a paranioid raving lunatic with her PA but I do hope to keep her safe. I wish that I could live carefree.. But it becomes a little hard when your child has a reaction to a child they were playing with who has traces of peanutbutter on their hands. I hope that with time and more experience I can also be cool and collected and as my child grows older and she will learn to not accept food from others and I will have battled the start of school and my family will take me seriously and then peanuts may not drive me crazy but just make me look up and smile.

Posted on: Thu, 12/20/2001 - 1:48am
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I am not carefree about peanuts. I watched my child almost die, I will never be carefree. I would say we are more matter of fact than carefree. Yesterday as he left for school (knowing that they would be having a Christmas party) I said "be sure to ask if anything has peanuts" and that was that.
Of course when he was first diagnosed we were frantic, but DH and I decided that we would talk to DS about it all the time. So we did, starting at 7 months when he had his first reaction. Of course he didn't understand, but it is something he has ALWAYS heard. When he was just a baby until today we always played the "you can't have that candy bar game" in the checkout lane at the grocery. When we heard the word peanuts on TV we would always say "ewwww icky". He knows that peanuts will make him need a shot, cause a trip to the hospital, and can kill him. I think the biggest thing is that he has always known it, we didn't wait until he could understand what all those things meant. That's why it is just as normal to him as breathing.

Posted on: Thu, 12/20/2001 - 2:12am
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Tammie - I can completely relate to what you are going through. We also have had a difficult time dealing with this. But, when we think in the context that there could be something much more worse that could affect him, it makes it much easier to deal with. Trying to educate family and friends is frustrating beyond belief, but sometimes I think we were given this nuisance because there is a Higher plan for us to educate and inform others. Thinking in that way makes it easier for us to accept it. You will probably never be at a point where you will be completely relaxed about this. However, when your child is older, you will probably have a better comfort zone knowing that he/she understands the allergy better.

Posted on: Thu, 12/20/2001 - 11:16am
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Hi there
Thanks for your replies. I feel better to know you also both had frustrations when you started out and they minimized over time. Sorry I never meant to imply you were carefree Boone but wanted to convey that I was hoping one day I could be a little less anxious about the whole PA issue. It must have been horrible to see your DS having such a severe reaction. My craze has been a build up of my frustrations over the last fortnight dealing with the thought of preschool in six weeks time and although I don't ever expect to be fully carefree I do hope that I can be carefree in comparision to how I feel now. I think as I have been so focussed on making sure my daughter leads a normal life and goes to all her friends parties ( 4 this week alone)and Christmas functions on top of that, I have worn myself out watching her and feeling like this is all I will ever do. I know that as she gets older she will understand the full implications of the restrication on her diet and I have begun educating her she knows peanuts are a no noand if she eats them she needs a needle and to go to hospital but she doesn't seem to understand they can be hidden in chocolates, biscuits and the like and still will help herself to food I haven't checked. I am trying to inform my family and friends and I spose I'm just starting out now doing what you have done in the past. One of my nieces is also PA(althought not to the same severity as my DD) and her mother is so lax I have watched her mother make her sister a peanutbutter sandwich then use the same knife and board, and bite the peanuts off the top of an ice cream cone and give it to her with the attitude that oh well I can give her anihistamine latter if she reacts. This absolutely angers me knowing that one side of my family think that is acceptable. I know I have lots of issues and I just have to work them out slowly one at a time. Thanks for letting me know there is light at the end of the tunnel. I spose I knew there was but probably needed to her it from someone. Thanks

Posted on: Fri, 01/18/2002 - 3:42am
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Boone,
I like your attitude toward peanut allergy. You seem to deal with it much the same way that I do. Cammie Caver

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