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Posted on: Sat, 11/09/2002 - 6:02pm
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I am almost embarrassed to write this... Last Thursday my 11 (going on 32) yr old daughter voluntarily sat next to a girl eating a Reeses peanut butter cup! We were in the waiting area of Sylvan (a tutoring center) and she wanted to sit by her friends. I was across the room and could smell peanuts. All she did was tell the girl several times not to breathe on her. I called her over several times before she came over and I told her she was playing with fire and to stay away from her. The dumb kid (mine) went back over there anyway before I called her back over to me. Then it was finally time for them to go in, and my daughter had to run back out to me and ask (rather embarrassed) for some benadryl and her inhaler. So at least I got a big I told you so in. Sigh, if she exhibits this kind stupid, reckless behavior when I am there, what does she do when I'm not around? I only HOPE she learned something!! -Kay

Posted on: Mon, 11/11/2002 - 5:47am
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My son in college must eat at the same community dining hall as everyone else. There are lots of positives about this particular place. However there is peanut butter. When someone sits down at his table with peanut butter on his tray, my son stands up and moves to another table. What brings tears to my eyes is that the people who were eating with him also get up and move to the table my son is at. All without a word. I feel so blessed! Yeah for the good people in this world!

Posted on: Tue, 11/12/2002 - 1:44pm
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Heartlander, I was really touched by your post. I can see why you would be as well. Kudos to those other young people. How wonderful, thoughtful and caring. How lucky your son is. Thanks for sharing that. It is uplifting.
Best wishes! [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/smile.gif[/img]
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Posted on: Tue, 11/12/2002 - 11:33pm
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That is so nice that his friends do that! I suspect we have a friend who does that. She is the only one I truly do not worry(as much as we can ever stop worrying) to leave dd with her. She understands the nuances of this thing, and just gives dd things she knows are okay, has seen me give, or absolutely asks, and never questions my call.
She has made a few off the cuff little comments about how she never gives her son PB, does not bake with nuts, really never keeps any nuts in the house. Even at holidays. She also has let me know, again, not directy, that her inlaws do give her son PB and he likes it. So, she *could* give it to him, but does not.
I really think, since her son and dd are BEST friends, she just is keeping a nut free house at least partly for us, but feels no need to even say it(in a direct way). She is not in it for the pat on the back. She truly "gets it" and just wants to be safe, like we do! Thank God this family was put into out lives.
It is all so subtle, like those classmates just moving, probably without a word, but they *are* looking out for him, and you know they are good friends! becca
[This message has been edited by becca (edited November 13, 2002).]

Posted on: Wed, 11/13/2002 - 6:28am
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kacj, I hadn't read your post when I responded to Heartlander's. Has your daughter ever been like that re her PA before that you have seen or do you think that it's something that has changed with her age? It was really sad to see that she would take the risk to be with a friend. But, like all kids, what risks we took to be with friends.
[img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/frown.gif[/img] I do hope that she did learn something - not too great to have to come back to Mom to get meds simply because you wanted to sit beside someone.
And you should never ever be embarrassed to post anything. How are we all going to learn, especially when our children start doing the same things?
Best wishes! [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/smile.gif[/img]
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Posted on: Thu, 11/21/2002 - 3:58am
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Another really nice thing that happened at College Parents weekend was when for dessert every other place setting was a brownie or caramel apple rolled in peanuts. Even if he is nineteen and had the Epi Pen in his pocket that is too close for my comfort! One of his friends without a word again switched our tables caramel apples for another tables brownies (which of course my son did not eat but you get the idea) I was so touched again!! My son won the door prize for our table and gave it to the girl. I am feeling so much more able to let go. It is so hard for us!! I know. Love from the Heartland!

Posted on: Fri, 12/06/2002 - 7:53pm
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Cindy- Sorry it took so long for me to reply, the dreaded SAD (Seasonal Affective Disorder) is really starting to hit me. I hate winter!
I'm not really sure if Autumn has done this kind of behavior in the past because I am not at her school to see if she does it there as well. She has had plenty of airborne and contact reactions at school though, but probably would have those reactions anyway since the kids eat in the classroom and it's not peanut free. Her best friends though have asked their Mom to not pack PB sandwiches in thier lunches so they could sit next to her, so maybe it is a recent type of change in her behavior. She is entering puberty and with that usually comes some risky behavior. She also has attention deficit disorder so she OFTEN does or says things without thinking it through. Dealing with that is very frustrating. Kids... if it's not one thing it's another. -Kay

Posted on: Sun, 12/08/2002 - 10:38am
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Yes , My PA daughter sat across the table (4 years ago in JK) from another child eating a PB sandwich. Half got eaten before the teacher realized(also a PA school) and she got very ill to her stomach and was covered from head to toe in welts 1 inch in diameter. Scary time for us!!

Posted on: Sun, 12/08/2002 - 2:36pm
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MomLyttle, totally off topic, but it's really great to see you pop in and post. I've missed you. [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/smile.gif[/img]
Best wishes! [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/smile.gif[/img]
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Posted on: Tue, 12/10/2002 - 4:42am
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We too have only had bad experiences this way and watch other children around our daughter much more carefully now. My daughter is sensitive enough that she has a healthy fear of the smell of pb.
One of my coworkers actually did this to my daughter recently... she just had no idea that anyone could be so allergic to something that "fumes" could cause a problem. Mostly we have seen hives and a runny nose- but sometimes eye swelling.
[img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/wink.gif[/img] long time no post... glad I still remember how! [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/smile.gif[/img]

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