Getting a Grip.

Posted on: Fri, 10/27/2006 - 2:46am
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recent email (cc by sender to various persons who have *some* or daily contact with my child [i]further on down the chain of command[/i]) I received:

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> "Dear Mrs. (WATCH THE NAILS, WOMAN!),
>
> To my knowledge, no one, including myself, has done any type of "unilateral re-
> negotiation of <> IEP" as you claim. I was told a couple of days ago
> that you are requesting an IEP meeting. If you have already done so, I'm sure
> the invitation will be sent out accordingly to the appropriate team members.
> Please be assured that we do have <> (as well ALL students) "best
> interests at heart" and will continue to do so.
>
> Sincerely,

Mr. (OH, THAT HURTS!)"

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my reply:

"Dear Mr. <<>>,

I will try to put this as gently as I can, and be brief:

An attempt by you to unilaterally re-negotiate <> IEP, is exactly how I interpret a considerable amount of your message in ALL-CAPS. I interpret it as your offer. <> IEP needs to be adhered to as it is currently written. It's not optional. His IEP is not up for negotiation. (However, you can attend future meetings and participate as a Team Member.)

It is a protected document. There are Procedural Safeguards in place to ensure that.

Forwarding of subject matter that might be construed as an attempt to leave open the possibility that following <> IEP as it is currently written is optional, in a correspondence to other staff who are not directly above you in the chain of command, and attempting such discussion outside the confines of an IEP meeting, not only sends the wrong message to those whom you supervise, but possibly might also violate Procedural Safeguards.

It was a painstaking process through which <> is now sometimes able to safely attend school considering his combined health and educational needs. It took years. Possibly it was just undone.

I will be addressing the possible misinterpretation of your ALL-CAPS correspondence by those whom you supervise and whose compliance directly affects <> ability to attend safely with the appropriate persons.

Sadly,

Mrs. <>"

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No advice intended.

Posted on: Fri, 10/27/2006 - 2:54am
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Did the principal forward his/your previous correspondence (the one with ALL-CAPS) in his cc?

Posted on: Fri, 10/27/2006 - 2:55am
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Quote:Originally posted by Gail W:
[b]Did the principal forward his/your previous correspondence (the one with ALL-CAPS) in his cc?[/b]
sure did.
I forwarded most recent to the superintendent.

Posted on: Fri, 10/27/2006 - 2:58am
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Quote:Originally posted by MommaBear:
[b]
sure did.
[/b]
<> unbelievable. jaw hanging. . . .
Making sure I understand: [i]he forwarded your e-mail ~in which he responded in ALL-CAPS~ to his staff?[/i] Not a blind copy, but an open "cc"? Why would he do that?
Wondering how he'll explain: [i]" I DO NOT SEE WHY THIS COULD NOT BE AN ACCEPTABLE OPTION? "[/i] Sure seems like he's renegotiating to me . . .
[This message has been edited by Gail W (edited October 27, 2006).]

Posted on: Fri, 10/27/2006 - 3:21am
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Or that "asthma is not a problem???"
[img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/eek.gif[/img]
I guess breathing is now "optional" as well?
And who says the popcorn club isn't happening this year? I'm feeling the need for some already. [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/wink.gif[/img] (This is easy for me to say, obviously, as I'm not exchanging e-mails with these turkeys.)
PS-- REALLY, REALLY enjoying your e-mails. Maybe you could offer some grammatical, er- 'suggestions' to this person, as well. Just in the interest of being helpful. [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/wink.gif[/img]

Posted on: Fri, 10/27/2006 - 3:39am
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Quote:Originally posted by Corvallis Mom:
[b]Or that "asthma is not a problem???" [/b]
Exactly. He doesn't realize the connection . . .
But it shouldn't matter if he does or doesn't. The fact is that it is ALREADY ADDRESSED IN THE IEP. What a moron.
You are right to go after him MB. You gave him an opportunity to correct himself instead and he chose to dig his grave deeper. Why am I sorta feeling sorry for him? [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/wink.gif[/img]
Quote:Originally posted by Corvallis Mom:
[b]REALLY, REALLY enjoying your e-mails. [/b]
Me too. This is the best reading I've had in a long time. Better than a mystery novel. Helps me by honing my skills. Kinda reminds me of Paper Chase, or DH's morning rounds with his students. [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/smile.gif[/img] I'm learning a lot following along.
Thanks for taking the time to post it all and keeping the updates coming.
[This message has been edited by Gail W (edited October 27, 2006).]

Posted on: Fri, 10/27/2006 - 3:59am
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Quote:Originally posted by Gail W:
[b] Making sure I understand: [i]he forwarded your e-mail ~in which he responded in ALL-CAPS~ to his staff?[/i] Not a blind copy, but an open "cc"? Why would he do that?[/b]
Okay. I'm slow. [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/redface.gif[/img] I think I get it now.
[i]He must not have realized that HE was the one who had attempted to 'renegotiate'. [/i]He didn't understand what he had done. He copied it [i]down [/i]because he mistakenly thought MB was accusing another staff person of this.
<> This is [i]rich[/i].

Posted on: Fri, 10/27/2006 - 5:37am
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wowee!

Posted on: Fri, 10/27/2006 - 6:47am
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[i]wringing my hands and compulsively clicking the refresh button. . . [/i]
What happened, MB?

Posted on: Fri, 10/27/2006 - 6:55am
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Quote:Originally posted by Gail W:
[b] Exactly. He doesn't realize the connection . . .
[/b]
Maybe the 48 inch "Athletic Fit" chest is a barrier.... [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/tongue.gif[/img]

Posted on: Fri, 10/27/2006 - 6:57am
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Quote:Originally posted by Corvallis Mom:
[b]
PS-- REALLY, REALLY enjoying your e-mails. Maybe you could offer some grammatical, er- 'suggestions' to this person, as well. Just in the interest of being helpful. [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/wink.gif[/img][/b]
aw....I shouldn't nitpick. It's not like mine are perfect either. I'm figuring it will go largly un-noticed. [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/biggrin.gif[/img] (saving my efforts for another issue)
which, by the way, that meeting. I've got some emails and phone calls to make. Will try to update with a few additions later. (sinister laugh)

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