talking to my boyfriend about allergy

Posted on: Fri, 07/23/2010 - 4:43am
sar1445's picture
Joined: 07/23/2010 - 11:18

I'm 17 but I've never kissed because of pa worries. Now I've got a new boyfriend who I'd love to kiss but first I need to explain to him the dangers of my allergy. How long after him eating peanuts is kissing safe and what is reasonable for me to ask of him?

Posted on: Sat, 07/31/2010 - 2:43am
Mrsdocrse's picture
Joined: 01/16/2007 - 09:00

I haven't read any studies about how long peanut protien can stay in your mouth or on your lips but I can't imagine it is that long. I would tell your boyfriend what your concerns are. Ask him to make sure he brushes his teeth and maybe uses mouth wash prior to a date. I would ask that he not eat them the day that you have a date if possible. I don't think it is too much to ask.
Good Luck!
Maybe some of the adult living with PA can give you some idea's about what they do...
good luck!

Posted on: Sun, 08/08/2010 - 7:59pm
JohnConnor12's picture
Joined: 08/09/2010 - 02:45

When you think of allergies, you might picture lots of sneezing and loads of runny noses. But unlike a mild allergy to spring flowers, a nut or peanut allergy can cause difficulty breathing and other very serious health problems. That's why it's very important for someone with a nut or peanut allergy to avoid eating nuts and peanuts, which can be tough because they're in lots of foods..i think you should tell him about your's completely reasonable in your part,if he cares for you he will definitely cognizant your problem yourself

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Question of the Week: Answered!
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Our Answer:
Thank you for sending us your question! This is just one example of the many ways food allergies impact us in our day-to-day lives - while some teens are having spontaneous first kisses behind the bleachers, you’ve been wary due to potential peanut reactions. We want to commend you for being careful to avoid allergens - there are too many horror stories from kids and even parents who weren’t quite as careful. That said, dating is great, so here are some tips so you’ll have peace of mind in the future.
Accommodating food allergies while on a date is something more and more people are beginning to understand, likely due to the rise of food allergies worldwide. As we pointed out in a previous article, communication, careful planning, and (if all else fails) flexibility will make going out to dinner or to an event easier for you and your boyfriend. Also, it is important that he understand the dangers of cross-contamination so he is aware of all the risks you face. You may even want to make sure he knows how to use your EpiPen, just in case you ever suffer an allergic reaction and need his help.
Now, you mentioned kissing in your question: how long after he eats peanuts is it safe? Well, a study at Mount Sinai in New York found that “waiting several hours (an average of four) after eating peanut butter and then eating a peanut-free meal reduced allergen in saliva to undetectable levels.” While this study ONLY addresses peanut butter, and not other types of peanut product, it gives us a rough idea of what the earliest time frame might be. However, as Dr. Sharma points out in this article, “The safest approach is usually for the partner to avoid the allergen, too.” Again, this is where communication will be very important; explain your allergy to your boyfriend, and you might be pleasantly surprised at how obliging he will be.
We also asked members of our Facebook community to share their expertise with you. You can check out their responses here.
We hope this information was helpful. Take care!


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