funny story! (at least sort of...)

Posted on: Wed, 09/27/2006 - 7:21am
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First off: I know it has been absolutely ages since I have posted or read anything on pa.com. This is due to a lot of reasons, which can be summed up by the following: I have had other issues that seemed more pressing and concerning than the peanut allergy stuff; things have actually been going pretty much "hitch free" with Leah, who is now 11, and her p.a.; and lastly, I have been knitting like a fiend every chance I get, instead of hanging out here, like I used to.

Anyhow, now for the sort of funny story: There has been a rumor going around the 6th grade involving my dd and a boy. The rumor has to do with one or the other (depending on who's telling it) wanting to "make out" with the other one at Science Camp.

Anyhow, the principal called Leah and the boy into the office to discuss this, and try and get to the bottom of the problem. Leah explained her side of the story, which was that at the beginning of the year she liked this boy, and she thought he liked her, and a third party suggested that this boy wanted to make out with her. (Fortunately she told me she said "kiss" rather than "make out"!) Apparently the principal then asked Leah: "did you tell your mother about this?" Leah said "yes", so he said "what did your mother say?" Leah said: "she told me to make sure that if I kiss a boy he hasn't been eating peanuts".

When she told me this I was somewhat appalled, thinking that she should have said: "my mother said I am too young to be thinking about kissing boys and I shouldn't do it." I was afraid my answer made me sound like a very lenient mother. However, after thinking about it more I realized that I was simply being realistic, and of course my daughter needs to know that kissing, for her, needs to be taken very seriously as it could be life threatening.

Later on I began to see the humor in the whole thing! Bear in mind, please, that these kids are not actually "making out" or "kissing", just talking about it.

I'll try to check in soon and see what's up with other folks!

Take care,

Miriam

Posted on: Wed, 09/27/2006 - 10:32am
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Hi California Mom! Have not seen you on the board in ages! That is a funny story. My dd is the same age and probably would have said the same thing. I don`t think it shows us as lenient parents, but rather that as big of a deal as it is to be kissing at too young of an age, we as parents of pa kids have even bigger more important things to worry about. It would be a luxury for us to only have to worry about what age is the right age for kissing. We have to look at our child`s safety for all kinds of situations where other people don`t have to worry about safety.

Posted on: Wed, 09/27/2006 - 11:04am
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Great to see you!

Posted on: Wed, 09/27/2006 - 11:38am
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I was going to say that!! (waving)
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Glad to hear that your DD's first concern was her safety!!

Posted on: Wed, 09/27/2006 - 2:13pm
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ahhhhhh...that is a cute story. i love the fact that she answered that she should make sure the boy hadn't eaten peanuts rather than pretending she never wanted to kiss a boy! too sweet.
my daughter, bryce, (one of my two PA girls) will be 11 in december. she would have been mortified if anyone asked her about kissing or making out. you have a brave, sensible girl.
bryce has "liked" the same boy for quite some time now (she even has the date that he asked her to be his girlfriend burned into her memory....january 23, 2006. haha. she rushed out to the car after school that day waving the note to me in which he asked her. i was so proud she came to me with the news rather than being embarrassed about it. she would tell no one else...not even dad...just mom. happy moment for me. i hope she always shares her thoughts and emotions with me).
the feelings that these kids are having right now are so adorable. they are still so childlike but also have the beginnings of ideas about relationships. the funniest thing to me is that bryce and tanner have been "going out" (as the kids call it) for all this time and they've only rarely spoken to one another. at the country club pool this summer, for example, they ran into each other several times. they made every effort to avoid each other! cracked me up. she spent all summer hoping to see him and then when it happened, she couldn't bring herself to speak. it was almost painful to watch. kids this age are so cute.
some parents i know think it's just horrible that i have allowed bryce to carry on with this crush but i think it's healthy and i'm so proud she comes to me with her feelings. you should be so proud of your leah that she was confident enough to speak up when questioned about the rumors going around school. i think it's precious that she didn't fall apart, that she was composed, and that she remembered the really important detail...peanuts! haha. [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/smile.gif[/img] too darn cute!

Posted on: Thu, 09/28/2006 - 12:18am
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cute story.
i hope my children can come and talk openly to me about this kind of stuff when they are older.
good job at being a mom!

Posted on: Thu, 09/28/2006 - 1:21am
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Quote from Joeybeth: some parents i know think it's just horrible that i have allowed bryce to carry on with this crush but i think it's healthy and i'm so proud she comes to me with her feelings.
Joeybeth, I'm afraid these are the same parents that in a few years will not understand why their kids don't talk to them and have no idea what is going on in their child's life. You are doing OK.

Posted on: Thu, 09/28/2006 - 2:31am
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Joeybeth, we've had a similar situation with 11 yr old DS and his "girlfriend". They have been an item for a year now (unfortunately she just moved away), but they would not speak to each other at school. She would call him about once a month (he never called her, they would msn about once a week and that was it. It was so cute, he was crushed when she moved away.
But I think he is ready to move on. We are not encouraging dating or "making out" but not disapproving of it so we can keep the lines of communication open.
DD in G8 last year had a boy ask her to a dance. When I reminded her that she had already made plans to get ready (hair make-up) with all her girlfriends and go with them, she said "yeah, I'll still do that". When I asked if she was going to only dance with that one boy she looked shocked and said no-way, she wanted to dance with all her male friends and her girlfriends too.
So I said "going to the dance with this boy means you still go with your girlfriends and you will dance with anyone you want including him?" She said yes that's what she planned, so I said fine as long as you let him know ahead of time what your plans are. She told him, he thought that was cool, and I guess DD had her "first date" I hope all the rest are that easy.

Posted on: Wed, 09/27/2006 - 10:32am
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Hi California Mom! Have not seen you on the board in ages! That is a funny story. My dd is the same age and probably would have said the same thing. I don`t think it shows us as lenient parents, but rather that as big of a deal as it is to be kissing at too young of an age, we as parents of pa kids have even bigger more important things to worry about. It would be a luxury for us to only have to worry about what age is the right age for kissing. We have to look at our child`s safety for all kinds of situations where other people don`t have to worry about safety.

Posted on: Wed, 09/27/2006 - 11:04am
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Great to see you!

Posted on: Wed, 09/27/2006 - 11:38am
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I was going to say that!! (waving)
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Glad to hear that your DD's first concern was her safety!!

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