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Posted on: Sat, 10/30/2004 - 10:53am
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Anna Marie, I'm glad that things went well and that your guy had a good time. [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/smile.gif[/img] I don't think that there is anything wrong with you speaking with the teacher and asking her that you be included in field trips in more dangerous months/seasons.
The worrying all day that you experienced, yes, certainly *normal* (if you can gauge things by me) but no, the other worry you had all week was unnecessary and then with the addition of the third Mom (and then minus the third Mom and blah blah blah) it's simply confusing.
I have to tell you, after what happened to me this summer with that multiple wasp sting incident, I would be scared witless to have a child with this type of allergy. It was something that was so out of control, so unexpected, so immediate.
PA I do find more controllable, if that makes sense.
And every time I'm at the kids' school (twice a day every day), I also think of you and your guy because we do have what I think is a severe wasp problem at the school because the children are eating their snacks at recess on the playground.
I understood from the principal at the beginning of the school year that there was also a child with an insect sting allergy, and since I know one of the reasons Jesse's Grade One school didn't allow eating on the playground was because of an insect sting allergy, I'm not clear why the eating is allowed, especially when PA parents often require/request that no eating be done on the playground.
However, I digress. Must be pretty obvious I haven't been on the computer for 24 hours or so [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/rolleyes.gif[/img]
I am glad it went well. [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/smile.gif[/img]
Best wishes! [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/smile.gif[/img]

Posted on: Sat, 10/30/2004 - 11:41am
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Quote:Originally posted by AnnaMarie:
[b]Yes - that's it EXACTLY, MB.
If she had just said "sure, he'll be in my group". There would have been no issue. [/b]
[b]"sure, he'll be in my group"[/b]
what is that? about 2.5 seconds and 300 ml of breath? [i]Unbelievable.[/i]
I mean, was there a [i]reason[/i] for stating it from the [i]get go[/i]? If so, then was reasons for *that* explained? If not, then what to think............
no. [i]very believable[/i]. As a matter of fact, it is part of the reasons why I'm becomming such a tight-@$$ (and yes, there [i]are[/i] physiological limits, mine are just extraordinary......I can make neurotic, compulsive, and obsessive look like a walk in the park) about enumerating every breath in my cubs plan lately. I mean, since it seems to be such a highly regulated commodity. [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/tongue.gif[/img] Breath, I mean. [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/wink.gif[/img] But ya know, it would be sad to have to do that. It's not how we want it to be. [i]My husband and I sooooooooooooooooo easy to work with when given the opportunity.[/i]
I mean, I wanna shout: "Show me sign that you care, tell me something, anything, that let's me know you understand."
Not saying it hasn't happened before, just not nearly often enough (maybe it's just me), or something happens that disintegrates trust. [i]And trust is hard to rebuild.[/i]
I'm finding that some very important things are being misconstrued in [i]our[/i] plan, or there is difficulty in accurately extrapolating on the premise (sorta like your situation and what would constitute a [i]prudent[/i] thing to do on such trips), while other items, inconsistent with [i]understanding[/i] are being proposed.

Posted on: Mon, 11/01/2004 - 1:20pm
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AnnaMarie
I did not even think about this when my son in Kindergarten went on his first trip. I am learning sooo much from everyone here. I do not think you were asking for anything special. After a day of rage with administrators today, I feel your pain. I have only asked for about 5 minutes worth of consideration and they can't even do that. Now I want it all andI am going in for the fight of my child's life (literally). I think the teacher could and should make sure your child is with her so that you are more comfortable with the situation. How do you know how much you can trust these people. I trusted my so called best school in the state district and they were not so nice to my son. I found out that on the first day of school he sat next to a girl at lunch who had a peanut butter sandwich. I did have a meeting with principal and nurse over the summer. His allergy was well made aware of and I was told that everyone he comes in contact would be made aware of his situation. Well, well where was the lunch aide here. Now I am going 504 as I just found out about it. My idea is to not trust anyone. You can tell I am angry today. Hope it works out for you. Good Luck
Adele

Posted on: Mon, 11/01/2004 - 11:38pm
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Good Luck to you too. [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/smile.gif[/img]
Have you started a thread about what happened? If you just need to rant do it anywhere [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/wink.gif[/img] but if you need help, start a new thread. Lots of pioneers here will help you. [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/smile.gif[/img]

Posted on: Tue, 11/02/2004 - 4:23am
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Hey AnnaMarie,
Glad all went well and your little guy had fun! Unbelievable after all that, the teacher kept him in her group. I don't know why she couldn't agree to that from the beginning. [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/mad.gif[/img] [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/confused.gif[/img]
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Matt 2 yrs. PA,MA,EA
Sean 2 yrs. NKA

Posted on: Wed, 11/03/2004 - 7:47am
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AnnaMarie,
I had a meeting today with school psycologist who is 504 advocate. I am going to be able to attend any and all trips and it will be on the 504. I will have to provide my own transportation, etc. but I don't care. They only allow two parents and in kindergarten I understand that every parent wants to go the trips and if I was mandated as always being the one parent then most the parents wouldn't get a chance so I said well I will go on my own but need to be allowed to be with him as extra class mother. Psych said ok it will be included in 504. I asked because of your post. I would not have thought of it. I am sorry if I am posting everywhere but I don't really know what I am doing and as always, I am confused. LOL. Thanks so much, you blessed me.
Adele

Posted on: Wed, 11/03/2004 - 9:34am
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Anna Marie, you just have to love this quote (from Momma Bear):-
what is that? about 2.5 seconds and 300 ml of breath? Unbelievable.
And how much angst did it cause you to have her NOT utter those words from the very beginning? ARGHH! [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/mad.gif[/img]
Best wishes! [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/smile.gif[/img]

Posted on: Wed, 11/03/2004 - 12:49pm
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Adele, I'm so glad that this thread was able to help someone. [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/smile.gif[/img]
And, personally, I don't care where anyone posts anything. I only mentioned it because if you want some help with a particular problem, people will see it faster if you start a new thread. I also sometimes suggest a person start a thread in a particular forum - again, not because I care what forum it's in, just that if they need/want help with a particular problem it sometimes comes faster that way.
And again, thank you - it made my evening. [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/smile.gif[/img]
And yes, Cindy, MB's quote - as usual - is right on the money. [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/wink.gif[/img]
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Posted on: Fri, 12/03/2004 - 4:42am
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Today I had the parent-teacher interview. After reading a reminder post from Deb O. I decided this was a good time to talk to the teacher about future trips.
Here's what I found out. Prior to the trip to the conservation area, my son's teacher took the time to call them and discuss the fact that she had a young student with an insect allergy. She wanted to know if there were any areas he should avoid, or any extra precautions needed. He would always be with a *group leader*. (In this case a *group leader* was a staff member and carried a walkie-talkie for emergencies.) She did that [b]on her own[/b].
She completely agrees that another parent should not be responsible for my son on trips. Both for his safety, as well as the fact that it is unfair to put that responsibility on a parent that doesn't know anything about allergies.
I let her know (in a friendly way) that I had been very worried/upset, and that I need to know what's happening on field trips. I don't want to ever feel I can't let him go - and although I know some kids with allergies have parent disignates go on every trip (written in school plans), I don't feel that's necessary for my son - I just need to know he's with someone who's *aware*.
I also explained that although usually I'm totally OK about my son's allergy, once in a while even little things just set me off. Some days I have a hard time just dropping him at school, because I'm so afraid of recess.
I think, she never realized that I sometimes feel like I'm just hanging on the end of a rope. I've never made a big deal about his allergy - I've never needed to. Now she knows. Hopefully in future she'll think to tell me the things she does. [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/smile.gif[/img]

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