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Posted on: Mon, 12/26/2005 - 10:36am
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ok, I wish I could get over this but I can't. I need help. SIL oldest (3) had a sevre reaction at age one to PA, and my son (7 months younger) was dx after breaking out in ecezma again (but would never eat the things we found he was allergic to). She treats us like we aren't careful enough. Yesterday at church, we brought my sons breakfast, (I have to make everything homemade due to soy) and it was pancakes, she held all her children while he eate (she will not let them eat or try anything we have, even thought we have the same PA, and almond allergy and my son has about 4 more), then she brings out her kids snacks, full of soy. SHe says oh I am sorry, I just forget, and let them eat it. They also had apples, but they wanted the fish crackers. Now, if the tables had been turned, her son allergic to soy and we did that, they would have flipped on us.
Sat, we decide to go to the movies, (our son has never gone, due to PA, and the sound being too loud) I tell her we are bringing our own popcorn, due to many theaters using P oil, and after finding out his one did not, the manager was going to allow me to bring out own, as the butter topping had soy in it, SIL says, well only if you use a fresh stick of butter so there is not contimination. I said, we don't use peanut butter, adn son has his own plate for his butter, so there is not a risk of cross soy contimanitaion. THen she still asks to use a fresh stick (we never went to the movies)
MIL, for Xmas, gives my husband, a can of macadema nuts, and never bothered to read the label, cross contamintaion of course) and a box of chocolate (son allergic) covered macademia nuts. No thought to whether we were ok with this.
My husband, has a container of nuts he buys and leaves at work, washes his hands, and mouth before coming home, we have chocolate that we eat on occasion, after son ahs gone to bed, but we never buy it in front of him., but still the nut thing really bothered me.
I made a cake from scratch (the only way son can eat cake) for a way we celebrate Xmas, I call SIL before going over and offer to bring it, she says, my house is nut free, and I just don;t want to risk it.
I am being broken down by this. It is starting to make me sick, stressed, and wanting to say something, but how, let me see, why would youthink I would give my son something he and your son are both allergic to>
Whatshould I do?
Therese

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