Everything was fine, but I should have been called.

Posted on: Wed, 04/02/2003 - 11:20am
Tamie's picture
Joined: 09/23/2002 - 09:00

Last week I decided to pick my dd up at school. When I got to her classroom, her teacher told me that she wasn't acting like her usual self and thought maybe she was coming down with something, a lot have been out sick. I could tell my looking at my dd that she didn't feel well, she had a stomache ache and was afraid to tell her teacher. What I am upset about is that her teacher didn't call me to let me know and would have sent her home for an hour busride. I haven't had a lot of luck with this school and am really tired of fighting with them all the time, but with a 504 in place and everyone being aware of her food allergies, someone should have called me. What do you think?

Posted on: Wed, 04/02/2003 - 12:25pm
Gadget's picture
Joined: 10/01/2001 - 09:00

The exact same thing happened to my Ds!! He goes to half-day Kindergarten, and when I picked him up at 12:30, I could tell immediately that he was sick. He felt warm and he was practically asleep the second he hit his carseat!! He ended up being out of school for 3 days! Apparently the teacher's aide had noticed he wasn't himself, and asked if he was OK, and he said he WAS!! I told him that whenever he feels sick, he needs to tell his teacher so that they can call me--he doesn't have to suffer through the day if he is sick! This happened a month ago and I am still debating whether to say something to the teachers. I do think, in light of his allergy, they should have called me, but on the other hand, I don't want to seem like I am questioning their judgement. I will definitely bring it up at the beginning of the next school year with the 1st grade teacher. Sorry I don't have any advice, just wanted you to know that the same thing happened to us and I felt the same way as you!

Posted on: Wed, 04/02/2003 - 12:34pm
Sandra Y's picture
Joined: 08/22/2000 - 09:00

Tamie, I agree, because of the PA they should call you any time your child is showing any sign of not feeling well. You might want to talk to the teacher about this, and maybe even add it to the 504.

Posted on: Wed, 04/02/2003 - 10:00pm
Tamie's picture
Joined: 09/23/2002 - 09:00

I will have it added to the 504, you would think someone would have common sense and that every little thing would not have to be added. If I were a teacher I would call any child's parent whether or not they had pa or anything else. I often get the impression that my child is a "burden" to them and that they just don't want to deal with it. Thanks for your replies.

Posted on: Wed, 04/02/2003 - 10:18pm
synthia's picture
Joined: 10/05/2002 - 09:00

Hang in there.
Let us know what happens.
I hope your DD feels better.
I to plan on putting in to her 504 plan
The parents are to be called EVERY time she does not feel well.
Until such time as I feel confortable with them recognizing the symptoms of PA.
Love this site

Posted on: Wed, 04/02/2003 - 11:28pm
California Mom's picture
Joined: 07/14/2000 - 09:00

I agree that you should have been called. My guess is that the teacher probably mistakenly thought she was doing you a favor by not "bothering" you. I think you should definitely add it to her 504 plan that you be called whenever she is not feeling well. In my dd's 504 we have something like "all health complaints from Leah are to be taken seriously". Now I realize that isn't too descriptive. We live five minutes away from school, though, and Leah just called me the other day to ask me to bring her a new shirt because she got pudding on the one she was wearing [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/rolleyes.gif[/img] So, I have no doubt that I will be informed of any illness. [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/biggrin.gif[/img]
Definitely bring it up to the teacher, in a nice way, IMHO -Miriam

Posted on: Wed, 04/02/2003 - 11:53pm
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Tamie, I'm with California Mom on this one. I think you should have it added to your 504 Plan and also speak with the teacher.
In the four years that Jesse has been in school and now Ember in her second year of school, I have never had this problem with the school. I have always told the kids when they are sick and just returning to school after getting better that if they don't feel well during the day they are to call me and let me know and I will come and get them.
Now, I know that Jesse has asked his teacher if he could call me a few times and she has denied his request. But I also know Jesse fairly well and it would be his attempt to come home rather than stay at school. I trust his teacher (surprisingly) in that she can tell if a child is really sick with a cold/cough or just wanting to go home.
The school calls me every time there is an accident in the playground to let me know what has happened and to see if I want to come and check my child out (it's always Jesse actually).
When he had his anaphylactic reaction in December month, the school didn't know he was having a reaction, but they did call me as soon as he threw up.
I think they're pretty on top of things as far as the kids just generally not feeling well. It's obvious from December month that they aren't on top of what can happen during an anaphylactic reaction, but given the symptoms of his reaction, I can also understand why they were confused. And again, they did call me straight away.
The only problem I do have with them is when Jesse will go to the office and ask for his asthma puffers. Now, when this has happened, he has been given puffers at home before going to school at say 8:30 a.m. He is then going to the office and asking for puffers well in advance of the four hours whereby he should require more (if any). Sometimes the school has given him his puffers without my permission and other times they have called me. So, they're not consistent there. What I prefer and I guess I should mention it to them is that I only want my child given puffers if I write a note saying, okay, Jesse needs puffers at 12:30 p.m. (having received them at home at 8:30 a.m.).
I found it sad that you feel as though you think the school thinks your child is an inconvenience (that was not the word you used). I know exactly how you feel. [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/frown.gif[/img] I know that for whatever reason, I feel worse when dealing with the school when Jesse is in trouble in the schoolyard, not doing his homework, or sick at home than I do say with Ember because I know that the school does "accommodate" (I hate that word) him and his PA and I feel really badly when they have to call me about something else.
Please let us know how this works out. [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/smile.gif[/img]
California Mom, that's cute about Leah and the new shirt because she got pudding on the other one. Currently, Ember will have pudding on her face when she comes out of the school (which I cannot stand [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/eek.gif[/img] ) but I can very well see the day when she will be calling me for the very same thing. Right now we're getting calls for clothing to be brought in because of mud, wetness etc.
I go in the front door the school with the kids and I arrived say 2 minutes before the bell rang. Jesse somehow escaped me and went out into the schoolyard. I was taking Ember to her class so I thought it was okay that I didn't see Jesse again. Well, I get back home and the school calls me to tell me that Jesse is covered from head to toe in mud, including his knapsack. Could I please come over to the school with a new coat, new snow or splash pants, new boots and new socks. I was not pleased!
I get over there and you should have seen the mud on his clothing. The office had left it out in the hall, didn't even want to bag it up for me it was such a mess. I asked them if they could please call Jesse out of class to see me and I explained to him that I didn't want to hear from the school again that day. "Mommy Mommy, a mud puddle jumped on me!" [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/smile.gif[/img]
Sorry, Tamie, that veered off topic, but I hope what I had to say re the topic did help in some way, even if to show that I'm simply agreeing with what others have suggested.
Best wishes! [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/smile.gif[/img]

Posted on: Wed, 04/02/2003 - 11:56pm
Rae's picture
Joined: 03/28/2000 - 09:00

I agree you should have been called. I think you should let the teacher know, due to your child's situation, you would like to be called any time she says she doesn't feel well.
I also agree with Miriam. The teacher probably thought she was doing you a favor. As a teacher, I know some parents get angry when they think you call them for what they consider "nothing". As a parent, it would be something I would want to know about. If the teacher knows that, I would think she would not hesitate to call you anytime. Communication is all we need, sometime!

Posted on: Thu, 04/03/2003 - 7:08am
California Mom's picture
Joined: 07/14/2000 - 09:00

I looked over Leah's 504 plan and found the item I was referring to. It is actually more comprehensive than I had thought:
#14. Any health complaints from Leah will be taken seriously. She will be closely monitored. Parents will be notified with any concerns.
So, I do think that covers it adequately, after all.
[img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/smile.gif[/img] Miriam

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